Hah, I swear I've been trying to reply to this thread for the last day and a half. Every time I click into it, I see "Notifications: 2" or something like that and get distracted with VMs haha.
Scarf said:
That could be taken more than one way. I'm now shipping QK x SR
I have no problem with this! ;)
Kiyoshi the Polar Bear said:
Whilst we're on the subject of "bottoming" (I guess), I've noticed how a lot of people in the LGBT community have such a problem with the terms "top" and 'bottom," for the same reasons people have problems with the terms "man" and "woman of the relationship." Thoughts about this while we're on it?
I don't have a problem with the terms 'top' and 'bottom' at all, but then again I've never had them used about me in any context other than the sexual context. During sex, one person is the top and the other is the bottom, and that's just how it works so naming it just that doesn't bother me.
But outside of that, I wouldn't want to be referred to as the 'top', 'bottom', 'man' or 'woman' of the relationship I'm in. I have heard people say in the past (usually about something on TV) "oh, he's the woman" and I just reply "this is a gay relationship, the whole point is there are no women". I don't get
offended by it as such, but it does grate on me.
YungKnowledge said:
Should I come out to the rest of my family. I mean mother and little sister knows but my grandmother, and my two aunts who I'm fairly close with don't know. My mom was like it would kill them if they knew. So basically I'm just in need of some advice.
Well first of all, saying "this will kill them if they find out" is really unfair to you. As a mother, she should know better than to put that kind of pressure on you. That really bugs me - I just thought that was relevant to say.
Second of all, it won't kill them. Their hearts will beat on. But I won't encourage you to do it if you have anxiety about it. I guess you have to figure just how much you value their opinion and if you're prepared to lose what you could lose by telling them. Honestly, in most cases I find people at least partially come around eventually so while it might be icy at first, I doubt it will last forever. And if all else fails, you still have your mother and your sister, so it isn't as though you'll be left stranded.
But if you're worried that they'll find out from someone else and you'd rather it come out via you, then tell them. I think above all it's important it happen on your terms so you're prepared for what will happen next.