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"Absolutely lonely people have few personal interactions of any kind."

No one really understands me, but that doesn't necessarily mean I'm lonely. Some of my loneliest moments have occurred in the middle if parties or when I'm with a group of people. I can be by myself and feel contented, not because I've got a group of people giving me my validation but simply because I exist and because I am aware of my surroundings. 

We do not need validation from outside ourselves. If you can't value your own experience from "inside" no amount of recognition from "outside" will be able to compensate for that. That's the difference between independence and dependence. If you are dependent on someone else's opinion then you are in effect denying or invalidating your own experience. If you can't have an open, comfortable, honest relationship with yourself you'll never have one with anyone else ~
 
A few times I have felt this way, like no one understands me, then I found awesome friends online who do "understand" me. Now I tend to not feel that way, which is good.
 
No, because I have grown to accept the fact that I am much too eccentric to be understood, and I take pride in that fact :P

But I do have a group of friends who do understand me and my weird interests, and a few of them are right here on PC ;)
 
I don't really get lonely. With a few exceptions, I like to be left alone. At the college cafeteria, I usually sit alone... but every once in a while some well-meaning idiot will come over and try to talk to me. Throughout their jabbering I'm thinking, "Look, GO AWAY! I do NOT want to be your friend!"
 
I often feel very misunderstood most of the time. I rarely feel 'lonely', because when I'm craving social interaction, I tend to become quite charismatic and friendly. Quite simply I become more socially adept as my will to socialize grows, and this is inversely true as well. The less I feel like I want to be a part of society, the more I tend to become socially awkward, or repellent.

Of course it varies wildly from day to day, depending on how I feel. Since I'm naturally a person who favors solitude over interaction, it's not uncommon for me to go months without speaking to friends. I try to keep in touch to let 'em know I care, but there are very few people who bond with me enough in a friendship to get me to open up to them on that regular basis.

I'm really shy and quiet unless stirred to action, or warmed into my comfort zone. PC is probably one of the few places online that I'm in that comfort zone, and so other aspects of my personality shine through.

Still, the main reason I feel misunderstood is simply because no one bothers to talk to me more than once before labeling me, and to be honest I find that to be extremely annoying and immature, to label someone at first encounter[???="Amusingly, people wonder how it's possible that I can be such an annoying person. Of course once someone has made up their mind that they dislike me and will not be convinced otherwise, I won't let them ever forget it. If they do change their minds after that decision, I tend to discourage it because no friendship can last if there isn't trust. Usually all I ask of my enemies is that they keep silent about it, and never let me catch them saying they dislike me...because once I do catch it, it's on. When challenged in such a way, I will endeavor to either win you over or get you to stay silent. Fortunately, experience has made me less of a fool, so I don't tend to make moves to that end if they're too costly...but you'd be surprised at how steep of a price I will pay to humble my enemies."].[/???]
 
Naturally. Everyone feels lonely or misunderstood, especially in adolescence. And that's because most people are misunderstood by someone who's too narrow-minded.

What annoys me, however, is when you get those thirteen year old kids that run around all "Oh I'm so lonely! So misunderstoooooood!"
 
Lonely? Yes. That nobody understood me? Yes.

I mean, I've had over a dozen years to come across those feelings >.> Shouldn't be too surprising. The big question is when and do I feel them now.

irl, I know nobody understands me, and quite frankly that's because I don't let them. I'm psuedo anti-social. I'm that person everyone knows and sort of likes but if you ask around, nobody knows my number. Nobody knows where I live. Nobody has ever hung out with me. Nobody knows what I like, what I believe in.

Online? I believe some people understand me. Eh... actually never-mind. I think people try but I don't think many if any ever succeed.

Am I lonely? Yes. That's mainly because it's an insane time of the night when nobody is awake. I would not be lonely if it was day. I am not usually lonely but on occasion am. It can't be helped.
 
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