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Say it to my Face!

I sometimes speak about people behind their backs - my own friends, but not in a malicious way. They're my friends and I still love them, but there are some things about them that irk me. Sometimes, when I'm very annoyed, I say it to their face, too. I try to avoid it, though, because I think to myself:
If I'm talking about people behind their backs, what are other people saying about me behind my back?

If there's someone I know doesn't like me, I'm alright with them talking about me like that behind my back. I mean, I already know they're not fond of me. I don't want to hear their poor opinions of me as well.
However, if it's someone I thought was my friend, and they don't actually like me, just pretend to, then talk about me like that behind my back, that's where I draw the line. I'd rather they said to my face that they don't actually like me than fool me into thinking they're a friend of mine. It would break my heart, but better to find out sooner from them, and deliberately, than later on because someone let it slip.

It's an interesting topic, because I'm actually quite insecure about friendship. I'm always worried my friends actually hate me and only hang around with me because they feel sorry for me or something like that. ^_^;

xX
 
Snowwy said:
I've heard that people say stuff about me..

I was even right behind someone and they said;
"Y'know [insert name] .. she was being a right.. [insert other stuff here] at lunch and guess what else..?" and then their friend pointed out where I was. They hadn't even noticed I was there. Jeez. -.-

I just went: "No.. carry on." .. But of course they didn't. I wanted to know what she was going to say.
I'd rather know what people were saying about me.
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Aha. Yeah this. It happens all the time, I guess if you keep your head down and just draw people forget you're there.

Sadly, this is how I found out most my 'friends' don't actually like me.

Friend 1: Ugh. I think *My real name here* wants me to come to his house. He's such a *insult here*, I really can't stand him
Friend 2: Yeah, I know what you mean. Why does he even hang around with us? I don't even know if any of us like him.
Friend 1: He should just get over himself, he's so angsty, it's not like anything ever happens to him (Oh if only they knew)
So I leant forward and whispered in Friend 1's ear "Y'know I can hear you, right?" and then I got up and walked out.

Honestly? I've never felt so hurt in my life.

Sucks really, doesn't it?
 
Anxiety. said:
So I leant forward and whispered in Friend 1's ear "Y'know I can hear you, right?" and then I got up and walked out.

Honestly? I've never felt so hurt in my life.

Sucks really, doesn't it?
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Indeed, it does. I think, though, that unless I was feeling so hurt that I was about to cry or something and didn't want to do it in front of them for pride reasons, I wouldn't walk out. After all, they wronged you. if anyone should leave, it's them.

xX
 
They've said it to my face and behind my back.
I can't do anything about it.
I'm the kind of person that won't say anything back or start a fight.
I get over it..
But it still hangs over my head.
 
Heh, people do it too me quite a bit. I'm not exactly 'popular' (Not like I care about being popular) as it would be put. People say these things and usually I don't do anything - but if it is in my face well, I stand up for myself much more than I used to. If people do say it behind my back I shrug it off, at least they know I'm there and I'm not miss invisible, yeah they may think I'm deaf or something but at least they can SEE me.

I know one person who I've known since I was 4 has done it for the 10 years we have known each other and she says that she never does it, yeah right, I do have ears. I don't talk to her much anyway she kinda lies about most things.

My friends we just do it about each other fun between our little group and have a laugh out it, not taking it too personally seen as we don't argue often.

But I would prefer it if they said it to my face.
 
Yeah, people talk behind my back. But I don't talk about them behind their backs... I can't expect people to do unto me how they would like done to themselves. But.. I can (and do) DO unto others like I would like done to me. I just can't expect everybody to treat me with the same respect. Which is OK.
 
I did that today. One of my friends Marissa was talking about me and I turned around and said "SAY IT TO MY FACE, B****!"

It sucks when you get talked about behind your back. I'm a blunt person. My friend asked me if I wanted to be friends with the new girl and I was like "No. She's a snob"

I'll tell the truth.

The truth hurts. Life sucks. Get over it.
 
ArcanineOod said:
Indeed, it does. I think, though, that unless I was feeling so hurt that I was about to cry or something and didn't want to do it in front of them for pride reasons, I wouldn't walk out. After all, they wronged you. if anyone should leave, it's them.

xX
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I left because of a pride thing. I'd never admit it to them, but I was about to cry. And I did, in solitude in the toilets. But just a single manly tear.

But I have a very good sense of revenge. I got them back and it was worth all the trouble I got into for it.
 
At some point I think everyone has that one person they pretend to be friends with just to get by. I understand you want people to tell you stuff to your face, but the reality of it is... they won't 80-90% of the time.
 
Thank goodness I haven't had anyone seriously talk behind my back.
And I do prefer them to tell it to my face. But, when i do catach them saying something, i usually just say really loudly, "THanks guys1 Really appreciate it! " usually shuts them up...

but, no, i'm not really into drama, so hopefully, i dont' 'cause any reason to be talked about...
 
I never liked describing anyone to anyone. Saying it straight to my face lets me get over it much better and faster.
 
Hmmm... Sometimes I use that power to my advantage. I can manipulate them by telling them something completely wrong about me, they'll spread the rumor, and sooner than you know it, nobody will be able to look at you the same way again.

But then again... I choose to be alone... I choose to be hated...
 
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