Second Chances

I'm big on the whole 'rehabilitation' thing, so if people have wronged me and subsequently apologized, I'll give them a second, third and maybe even more(th) chance! Be that as it may, most people haven't really 'disappointed' me repeatedly to warrant a third/fourth chance, so my thought process is purely in the realms of the hypothetical for the time being. Hopefully it'll stay that way as well...
 
I always give someone a second chance. Never been in the situation where I haven't, actually, but during the second chance, it takes a while for the person to get out of a probation-like period. What I mean by that is, when I give somebody a second chance, if they slip up on the same thing that they did that needed a second chance in the first place, I tend to cut it quits. That being said, I always give someone a third chance as well with the same terms. After that, it's usually the end of it. I forgive them for what they did (as I'm someone who doesn't hold grudges), but that's it.
 
I'll give somebody a second chance unless they do something really ******. And I'm not in the habit of giving third, fourth, and fifth chances.
 
it depends.
if it were a minor offence (something that doesn't really affect my life and/or give me emotional, physical, and mental trauma) or if it were something committed accidentally (like the slip of a tongue or something), i would give them a second chance, although this would also depend on how close i am to this person and how much i trust him/her.
 
Often I feel that I am too forgiving. Even if I know an apology isn't completely sincere, I tend to forgive them. Simply because I believe that denying someone a second chance is denying them from learning something valuable.

A second chance, yes. A third, forth, fifth, sixth, well, the more chances you give, the harder forgiving them becomes. If they keep screwing up, you must question what kind of person it is. If the mistakes are more or less accidental...unintentional or different with each mistake, then I do believe so long as they're generally a good person that they deserve another chance.

But some people don't deserve to be forgiven. Some things shouldn't be forgiven.
 
Depends on what they have done, but for the most part once someone has screwed me over I go on to never trust them or give them any leeway again. We can still be "friends" if they like, but it will just never be much fun anymore so they usually end up moving on.

Hasn't happened in a very long time anyways because I never tell anyone anything anymore or give anyone the chance to get so personal to me that I would be offended if they did something to hurt me.
 
If it's something major, I don't forgive, and I don't forget. It's not too hard to earn my trust in the first place, but it is exceedingly difficult to win it back once it's lost. I don't take well to being slapped in the face, especially if it's coming from someone I used to be able to trust.

Minor things though, I'll probably just say, "Naw, that's cool, man" and forget about it. But major things? I'll be harboring those for life.
 
I used to be too forgiving but it kind of changes as you notice how people take major advantage of that. I do believe in second chances but during that second chance I can say that I'm keeping a hawk eye on that person, it's not like I'd forget what they did initially and I'll still consider that.
 
I'm usually on the receiving end, but tbh I'm really weird with that - if I feel I don't deserve a second chance I just reject the entire second chance notion altogether. Don't ask, I'm weird like that. XD
 
Yoshikkko said:
I used to be too forgiving but it kind of changes as you notice how people take major advantage of that. I do believe in second chances but during that second chance I can say that I'm keeping a hawk eye on that person, it's not like I'd forget what they did initially and I'll still consider that.
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My thoughts Exactly,i give a second chance and keep my awarness.
 
Depends; usually I will (and hey, we all make mistakes), and sometimes give even more than a second chance as well. If it's something that the person knows very well that it's a bad mistake to make though for something not insignificant (as in they were warned about it) I'm usually less keen on giving another chance to them though,.
 
Whistle A Tune said:
Logically, I approve of second chances because it gives an opportunity to demonstrate that a lesson was learned, but when in application, well... I hold grudges and I'm extremely stubborn so... not a second chance kind of guy right here. Sorry if that's kind of paradoxical?

On the other hand, I always deserve second chances xD
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Definitely feel this way too...because it's easy to say second chances are great until something bad happens to you and you may not agree with that concept anymore.
 
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