Teenage Romance... I'm really confused and upset... Help?

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MoonsSorrow said:
I dont even feel like reading that. Im a teenager and teenage romance is idiotic, pointless and why? Why not enjoy your life, first, then give yourself something to stress about when your an ADULT. Enjoy your youth.
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Wow, you're cool.

If you don't feel like reading something, then what's the point in responding to it? If you had read it, you would know that there's nothing idiotic going on about her relationship with her boyfriend. But really, people like you confuse me so much. :|

I'd also like to know how teenage romance is idiotic and pointless. Teenage relationships get you prepared for the adult world by allowing you to share your life with someone else. It prepares you for what to expect. Saying that that's pointless is like saying that school is pointless.

Grow up. :|
 
Thanks everyone, it's great to hear different opinions on the matter.

@Razer302: I totally understand your point here. I think my major fault was that I do keep bugging him. I think that I'm just going to sit back and let nature take it's course. Last time me and him broke up, I think I further bugged him, so I'm not surprised it's taken all this time for us to get back together. I do always have the worry that he's found another girl, but I also know how much of a jerk he felt after what me and him did. Seeing him upset over that made me realize that he could never do that to any girl again. I have trust in him, but of course there is always going to be that doubt, yet at the same time, I also feel like he wouldn't do that to me. He was getting bored of his EX and she wasn't letting him even hug her. He would have broken up with her the day his interest was picked up on me, but he does break ups face to face, which is why i'm confused as to why half of this has taken place through text.

I'm just going to leave him now until I next need to speak to him. If he wants to speak to me, then of course I'm always going to be there to listen and talk things through with him, but until that time comes (if it does) then I guess I'll just have to sit back and allow him that space.


@MoonsSorrow: I don't need love in my life to be happy to be perfectly honest. Love is a separate side of my life. I'm at the age now when I should be beginning to get into relationships more often, and most of the time I really do enjoy them. I'm just asking for help, because this is probably the first serious problem I've had with this guy in all honesty because I don't know what to do. I can walk away now, but I don't want to because this guy means something to me. I can be in love and happy, and I didn't exactly say it was love. Did you really come into this thread, just to make a comment like that? Tut tut tut.

@Alinthea: He is the kind of guy who cracks under pressure, and I think that's why I need to lay off him and allow him to cool down. I think I may have been pressuring him a lot lately, but I am in a fuse about Prom and other things that are going on around me. The main point eveyone seems to be pointing to is that I should give him space, which I believe I will even though it's hard to do so.
 
I haven't posted on this site for a long time now, but I feel really compelled to say something here. First off, MoonSorrow...you obviously don't have a special someone in your life right now, but that doesn't give you the right to bash on those who do. And love isn't something that's supposed to be stressful, granted it isn't always a smooth road, but if it's strong enough then it doesn't matter, because when things get a little bumpy, you always have someone to turn to.

Okay, I understand how it feels to have someone you love as a teenager. And you are always going to have people who tell you that it's stupid, and that you're too young. Statistically, they're right. However, there are those couples who make it, because what they have is real. I am madly in love with my girlfriend of the better part of a year now, and I can see us going on for a long, long, time. But it takes two people to have a relationship, and as much as this may hurt, if he's not into it, then it's not going to happen. If it hasn't worked out twice in such short periods of time, then it's probably not going to work at all. Sometimes when you love someone, you have to let them go, because if you really love him, you'll want him to be happy regardless of how he gets that happiness. Good luck kid.
 
@Midnight Beat: Thanks for the advise and I can see you're right. One of my Mum's friends has been with a guy since she was 15. She's now 20-something, and is married to him with two beautiful children! I understand now that we may not work out, and I do want him to be happy, but that's not going to stop me from throwing out last resorts to keep me happy as well. It's human nature to try and be happy. The thing is, he is a guy who cracks under pressure. It's upsetting that one little problem has lead to this. It may be a series of problems, I'm not sure, but all in all I feel a little upset that he is (in a way) Giving up on this relationship after we've both put in so much effort to make it work. Nhey, not effort. He went against his principals of not going out with the same girl twice just so he could be with me. I'll let him have this break, and if he comes back to me, wanting me then brilliant!

He says he still loves me and that's why he's so confused. Is it possible that he's matured too fast in the love department for the rest of his immature state to handle? (And yes he is immature... He was the one who gave himself that name though.)
 
Wowie, I've been reading this as well as all the replies ... Seems like a very complicated situation. In my opinion you should just go to the prom with him and hope for the best, hey maybe you guys will connect there, and things will get a lot better, right? And in the chance, and from how I've been analyzing the situation the UNLIKELY chance that somehow it gets worse, you at least know that since you're a teenager you've got many years ahead of you in your life to be able to find more people, and sort things out- so there's no rush or time limit to finding that perfect guy.
 
@Shirayuki: You're right. I shouldn't worry about it too much. I'll have my chance at the prom. And I finally got a text off him confirming we're still definitely going to the prom together. I think if me and him are going to last any longer then something is bound to happen on that night. I'll look glamorous (hopefully) And I'll be feeling good with in myself. He's gonna have two days away from me, and then he's going to see me all geared up. As far as the seating arrangment goes, I'm sitting next to him. None of my friends are awear of this situation, but I have questioned one of my best friends (who happens to be one of my boyfriend's close friends) about how he would feel if me and Tom split up. (Boyfriend's name by the way.)

Please bare in mind that this guy was the reason me and Tom met.
This is the MSN convo. (Excuse the weird screen names and you don't have to read it)



(S)Malex(S) Obama- HALF PIPLUP HALF MUDKIP! (L)~Tom~(L)†Great Nan† says:
*oh har de har har
*hey Paddy... if me and Tom were to break up, would you be happy or sad or really didn't care?
Call me - on the line, Call me, call me any anytime. says:
*....
*Why?
(S)Malex(S) Obama- HALF PIPLUP HALF MUDKIP! (L)~Tom~(L)†Great Nan† says:
*Immah just curious as all
*Im not gonna break up with him, I like him too much
*but he might break up with me :/
*so I wanna know if you'd be happy or sad
*or not really bothered
Call me - on the line, Call me, call me any anytime. says:
*I would be kind of sad to be honest but i dont think he will break up with you
*Cos
*Although he is a prat.
*He is actually a nice guy
*and you two seem to suit : )
(S)Malex(S) Obama- HALF PIPLUP HALF MUDKIP! (L)~Tom~(L)†Great Nan† says:
*You think? :)
Call me - on the line, Call me, call me any anytime. says:
*: ) Yeah
 
Yeah, way to go Urahara~ Have an optimistic attitude and no matter what things will be better, even if a little. If you try your best to look your best, though looks aren't everything who knows, maybe it'll give him a reminder that "Hey, I like her personality, and DAYUMN she's pretty" xD; Or, something like that, I dunno. Either way, I wish you the best of luck and hope things end up going smoothely ^^
 
Shirayuki said:
Yeah, way to go Urahara~ Have an optimistic attitude and no matter what things will be better, even if a little. If you try your best to look your best, though looks aren't everything who knows, maybe it'll give him a reminder that "Hey, I like her personality, and DAYUMN she's pretty" xD; Or, something like that, I dunno. Either way, I wish you the best of luck and hope things end up going smoothely ^^
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Thank you very much! Everyone who has posted in this thread (Excluding one... ¬_¬) has either given me hope, given me advice, given me realistic views and given me a bite of happiness. I'm really thank you guys! Thank you!
 
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