The Post Your Problems Thread

[sims796]

I'm not being funny or anything, but I don't want to be with someone who admits he prefers talking in group convos with other people to talking with me :'(

Hm, this is more dire than I thought. Not even my cheery disposition can fix this.

I would also suggest talking it out...

...however, right now, you got to get your mind off that, and on to the task at hand. Right now, you have an exam. Sounds serious. So, to put your mind off of that, I suggest hitting the books. I've never been heartbroken, or betrayed outside of the intarnets (and that doesn't bug me much) so I can't compare, but I can tell you that I've dealt with my fair share of dissapointments, and hurting yourself doesn't help. By which I mean not doing what needs to be done. So get to studiying, might make you feel better.

 

[Lady Nicole]

Perhaps you should talk to him about it rather than posting it here so everyone who wanted to could see it.

Hm, this is more dire than I thought. Not even my cheery disposition can fix this.

I would also suggest talking it out...

...however, right now, you got to get your mind off that, and on to the task at hand. Right now, you have an exam. Sounds serious. So, to put your mind off of that, I suggest hitting the books. I've never been heartbroken, or betrayed outside of the intarnets (and that doesn't bug me much) so I can't compare, but I can tell you that I've dealt with my fair share of dissapointments, and hurting yourself doesn't help. By which I mean not doing what needs to be done. So get to studiying, might make you feel better.

Hmm yeah, thanks. When I'm concentrating on something else I'll probably feel better...

 

[Victoria~]

Oh boy.
I just can't sleep!

Really, I have to wake up at like... 6:30 AM (to be at school 7:15). So, I need to go to bed early, 11 PM. But I just can't. Every night I lay down and try to relax... Try to relax, relax... I spend like FOUR HOURS trying to get some sleep. When I wake up to go school, I barely can move.. It's awful.
Right now I SHOULD be sleeping, it's 1 AM already...
And I've tried everything you can imagine to solve this: relaxing techniques, warm milk, count sheeps, read a boring book, get a hot bath before going to bed, don't ingest any caffeine after 6PM (it's hard to not drink any Coke at night ://), don't eat so much at night, I don't have big problems with my personal life (I do well at school, have a boyfriend, my life's great)...
I've already been to the doctor, and he prescribed some medicine.
This crap doesn't work. and it was EIGHTY bucks DDD:"
I don't know what to do anymore. Soon my body's gonna collapse just because I DIDN'T SLEEP. i do not understand. I'm healthy. I'm happy. Of course I have some problems, but I learned to deal with them.
I'm really desperate. You know, i think I wouldn't be so confortable talking about it with my friends.. I'm quite sure they'll think I'm some sort of problematic-zombie-freak.
So, please, PLEASE, pretty please, help me.
Please ;-;

 

[Anxiety.]

Oh boy.
I just can't sleep!

Really, I have to wake up at like... 6:30 AM (to be at school 7:15). So, I need to go to bed early, 11 PM. But I just can't. Every night I lay down and try to relax... Try to relax, relax... I spend like FOUR HOURS trying to get some sleep. When I wake up to go school, I barely can move.. It's awful.
Right now I SHOULD be sleeping, it's 1 AM already...
And I've tried everything you can imagine to solve this: relaxing techniques, warm milk, count sheeps, read a boring book, get a hot bath before going to bed, don't ingest any caffeine after 6PM (it's hard to not drink any Coke at night ://), don't eat so much at night, I don't have big problems with my personal life (I do well at school, have a boyfriend, my life's great)...
I've already been to the doctor, and he prescribed some medicine.
This crap doesn't work. and it was EIGHTY bucks DDD:"
I don't know what to do anymore. Soon my body's gonna collapse just because I DIDN'T SLEEP. i do not understand. I'm healthy. I'm happy. Of course I have some problems, but I learned to deal with them.
I'm really desperate. You know, i think I wouldn't be so confortable talking about it with my friends.. I'm quite sure they'll think I'm some sort of problematic-zombie-freak.
So, please, PLEASE, pretty please, help me.
Please ;-;

I also have that issue... I barely sleep at all now... but i'm fine, my body is weird and doesn't need that much sleep, but if I don't sleep at all at night I will be like this the next day - x.x

But anyway, I know this sounds odd but, I cuddle up to things, teddies and such, they help me sleep. But the best thing to help me sleep is cuddling my dog, she is a medium sized dog and is gentle, so if I cuddle up to her her breathing and warmth soothes me and helps me sleep... I dunno why though o.0

I don't know if it will work for everyone. But I don't sleep much, i'm rarely tired, and I have unusual sleeping times. I sleep better at about 5-6am rather than 11-4am, when the sun starts to rise, I like that light. I'm unusual in that sense...

I don't know if that has helped you at all... but I just thought I would throw in what I do to help me sleep.
And in case that doesn't work, here is some stuff from a site: [There's a lot of info there]

Spoiler:

Causes:
- the bedroom may be too noisy, too hot or too cold
- the bed may be uncomfortable or too small
- you partner may have a different pattern of sleep from yourself
- you may not have a regular routine, or may not be getting enough exercise
- eating too much can make it difficult to get off to sleep
- going to bed hungry can make you wake too early
- cigarettes, alcohol and drinks containing caffeine, such as tea and coffee
- illness, pain or a high temperature.
- emotional problems
- difficulties at work
- anxiety and worry
- depression - you may wake very early in the morning and not be able to get back to sleep
- thinking over and over about day to day problems.

People have used sleeping tablets for many years, but we now know that they:



* don't work for very long.
* Leave you tired and irritable the next day.
* lose their effect quite quickly, so you have to take more and more to get the same effect.
* some people become addicted to them. The longer you take sleeping tablets, the more likely you are to become physically or psychologically dependent on them.
* there are some newer sleeping tablets (Zolpidem, Zalpelon and Zopiclone), but these seem to have many of the same drawbacks as the older drugs, such as Nitrazepam, Temazepam and Diazepam.


Sleeping tablets should only be used for short periods (less than 2 weeks) - for instance if you are so distressed that you cannot sleep at all.

If you have been on sleeping tablets for a long time, it is best to cut down the dose slowly after discussing it with your doctor.

In some cases, antidepressant tablets may be helpful.

You can buy several remedies at your chemist, without the need for a prescription. These products will often contain an anti-histamine, like you find in medicines for hay-fever, coughs and colds. These do work but they can make you sleepy well into the next morning. If you do use them, take the warnings seriously and don't drive or operate heavy machinery the next day. Another problem is tolerance - as your body gets used to the substance, you need to take more and more to get the same effect. It is best not to take anti-histamines for a long time.


Herbal alternatives are usually based on a herb called Valerian. It probably works best if you take it nightly for 2-3 weeks or more. It doesn't seem to work so well if you take it occasionally. As with the anti-histamines, you need to be careful about the effects lasting into the following morning. If you are taking any medication for your blood pressure (or any other sleeping tablets or tranquillisers), have a chat with your doctor before using an over the counter remedy.

A technique called cognitive behavioural therapy has been shown to be helpful. It involves looking at unhelpful ways of thinking that can make you more anxious, and so interfere with your sleep.

Things to avoid

- Alcohol. Everybody knows that alcohol can help you to fall asleep. The problem is that you will usually wake up half-way through the night. If you drink alcohol regularly to help you sleep, you will find that you need to drink more and more to get the same effect. If you drink regularly and you stop drinking suddenly, you may find it hard to sleep for a week or two.
- Slimming tablets make it hard to sleep, as do street drugs like Ecstasy, cocaine and amphetamines.

Here are some simple tips that many people have found helpful.

Do's...


- Make sure that your bed and bedroom are comfortable - not too hot, not too cold, not too noisy.
- Make sure that your mattress supports you properly. It should not be so firm that your hips and shoulders are under pressure or so soft that your body sags. Generally, you should replace your mattress every 10 years to get the best support and comfort.
- Get some exercise. Don't overdo it, but try some regular swimming or walking. The best time to exercise is in the daytime - particularly late afternoon or early evening. Exercising later than this may disturb your sleep.
- Take some time to relax properly before going to bed. Some people find aromatherapy helpful.
- If something is troubling you, and there is nothing you can do about it right away, try writing it down before going to bed and then tell yourself to deal with it tomorrow.
- If you can't sleep, get up and do something you find relaxing. Read, watch television or listen to quiet music. After a while you should feel tired enough to go to bed again.


Don'ts...


- Don't go without sleep for a long time - go to bed when you are tired and stick to a routine of getting up at the same time every day, whether you still feel tired or not.
- Caffeine hangs around in your body for many hours after your last drink of tea or coffee. Stop drinking tea or coffee by mid-afternoon. If you want a hot drink in the evening, try something milky or herbal (but check there's no caffeine in it).
- Don't drink a lot of alcohol. It may help you fall asleep, but you will almost certainly wake up during the night.
- Don't eat or drink a lot late at night. Try to have your supper early in the evening rather than late.
- If you've had a bad night, don't sleep in the next day - it will make it harder to get off to sleep the following night.


If you try these tips and you still can't sleep, go and see your doctor. You can talk over any problems that may be stopping you from sleeping. Your doctor can make sure that your sleeplessness is not being caused by a physical illness, a prescribed medicine, or emotional problems. There is some evidence that cognitive behavioral therapy (see above), can be helpful if your sleeplessness has gone on for a long time.

You may find that you often fall asleep during the day at times when you want to stay awake. The commonest reason is not getting enough sleep at night.

However, you may find that you are still falling asleep in the daytime even after a week or two of getting enough sleep at night. Sometimes, a physical illness can be responsible - diabetes, a viral infection, or a thyroid problem.

There are other conditions which make people sleep too much:

Narcolepsy (Daytime sleepiness)
This is an uncommon condition that has often not been recognised by doctors.

There are two main symptoms:


- you feel sleepy in the daytime, with sudden uncontrollable attacks of sleepiness even when you are with other people
- you suddenly lose control of your muscles and collapse when you are angry, laughing or excited - this is called cataplexy.


You may also find that you:


- can't speak or move when falling asleep or waking up - (Sleep Paralysis)
- hear odd sounds or see dream-like images (Hallucinations)
- "run on auto-pilot" - you have done things, but can't remember doing them, as if you had been asleep
- wake with hot flushes during the night.


The cause for this has recently been found - a lack of a substance called orexin, or hypocretin. In sleep apnoea you may have excessive daytime sleepiness and this may be confused with Narcolepsy. If the diagnosis is unclear, then some tests may be required (Polysomnography or a Multiple sleep latency test ).

Treatment consists of taking regular exercise and having a regular night time routine. Depending on the pattern of your symptoms, medication may be helpful - e.g. a drug which increases wakefulness, such as Modafinil, or an antidepressant (particularly for prominent cataplexy).


Sleep Apnoea (Interrupted Sleep)


- You snore loudly and stop breathing for short periods during the night. This happens because the upper part of your airway closes.
- Every time you stop breathing, you wake suddenly and your body or arms and legs may jerk.
- You are awake just for a short time before falling off to sleep again.
- This often happens several times during the night. So, you feel tired the next day, often with an irresistible urge to go to sleep. You may also have a dry mouth and a headache when you wake up in the morning.


It is more common in:


- older people
- the overweight
- smokers
- those who drink a lot of alcohol.


Sometimes, the problem is noticed more by their partner than by the sufferer. Treatment usually involves correcting the parts of your lifestyle that may be making the problem worse - cutting down smoking and drinking, losing weight, and sleeping in a different position. If your apnoea is very bad, it may be necessary to wear a Continuous Positive Airway Pressure (CPAP) mask. This fits over your nose and supplies high pressure air to keep your airway open.

At some point in their life, about 1 in 20 adults have night terrors, and 1 in 100 report that they sleep-walk. Both these conditions are more common in children.


Sleepwalking
If you sleepwalk, you will appear (to other people) to wake from a deep sleep. You will then get up and do things. These may be quite complicated, like walking around or going up and down stairs. This can land you in embarrassing (and occasionally dangerous) situations. Unless someone else wakes you up, you will remember nothing about it the next day. Sleepwalking may sometimes happen after a night terror (see below).

A sleepwalker should be guided gently back to bed and should not be woken up. It may be necessary to take precautions to protect them or others from injury. You may need to lock doors and windows, or lock away sharp objects, like knives and tools.

Night terrors can occur on their own, without leading to sleepwalking. Like a sleepwalker, a person with night terrors will appear to wake suddenly from a deep sleep. They look half-awake and very frightened, but will usually settle back down to sleep without waking up completely. All you can do is sit with them until they fall asleep again.

Night terrors are different from vivid dreams or nightmares as people don't seem to remember anything about them the next morning.

Nightmares
Most of us have had frightening dreams or nightmares. They usually happen during the later part of the night, when we have our most vivid and memorable dreams. They do not normally cause problems unless they happen regularly, usually because of an emotional upset. Nightmares often follow a distressing or life-threatening event, such as a death, a disaster, an accident or a violent attack. Counseling may be helpful.

- You feel you have to move your legs (but also, sometimes, other parts of the body ).
- You may have uncomfortable painful or burning feelings in your legs.
- These feelings only bother you when you are resting.
- They are generally worse at night.
- They are relieved by movement, such as walking or stretching, for as long as you carry on doing it.

You may not be able to sit still in the daytime, making it difficult to work, and may be unable to sleep properly.

Sufferers usually first seek help in middle age, although they may have had symptoms since childhood. It seems to run in families.

RLS usually occurs on its own. It can occasionally be caused by a physical illness, such as iron and vitamin deficiencies, diabetes or kidney problems. It can also happen in pregnancy.

If it is not caused by another physical illness, treatment depends on how bad it is. In mild RLS, the symptoms can usually be controlled by simple steps designed to help you sleep better (see section on 'Helping Yourself').

In more severe RLS, medications may help. These include medications used in Parkinson's disease, anti-epileptic medications, benzodiazepine tranquillisers and painkillers.

If simple measures do not help, you can be referred to a sleep or movement disorders specialist.

Some people with autism do not seem to realise that night time is for sleeping, and may be up and about when everyone else wants to sleep. This will usually need the help of a specialist.

I don't know how much of that applies to you. Most of it is for adults, like the pregnancy thing, but I left it in because there are some adults on this site that may find it useful.

I hope it helps xD!

 

[Lash]

Oh boy.
I just can't sleep!

Really, I have to wake up at like... 6:30 AM (to be at school 7:15). So, I need to go to bed early, 11 PM. But I just can't. Every night I lay down and try to relax... Try to relax, relax... I spend like FOUR HOURS trying to get some sleep. When I wake up to go school, I barely can move.. It's awful.
Right now I SHOULD be sleeping, it's 1 AM already...
And I've tried everything you can imagine to solve this: relaxing techniques, warm milk, count sheeps, read a boring book, get a hot bath before going to bed, don't ingest any caffeine after 6PM (it's hard to not drink any Coke at night ://), don't eat so much at night, I don't have big problems with my personal life (I do well at school, have a boyfriend, my life's great)...
I've already been to the doctor, and he prescribed some medicine.
This crap doesn't work. and it was EIGHTY bucks DDD:"
I don't know what to do anymore. Soon my body's gonna collapse just because I DIDN'T SLEEP. i do not understand. I'm healthy. I'm happy. Of course I have some problems, but I learned to deal with them.
I'm really desperate. You know, i think I wouldn't be so confortable talking about it with my friends.. I'm quite sure they'll think I'm some sort of problematic-zombie-freak.
So, please, PLEASE, pretty please, help me.
Please ;-;

All you need to do is find a good sleeping routine. At night time, I am pretty active (force of habit), so I am awake a lot. Here is my routine:

Fall asleep at 4AM - Wake up at 7:30AM - Take an hour or two nap.

Mow, I really would recommend something like that, but here is what I would, for school and what not. Now, though people are usually need 8hrs of sleep, in reality you only need a good 5 or 6.

Fall asleep at 11PM-12PM - Wake up at 6:30

Sort of a simple routine, all you need to do is to train your body to be tired, trick yourself into being fatigued.

 

[Nick]

Oh boy.
I just can't sleep!

Really, I have to wake up at like... 6:30 AM (to be at school 7:15). So, I need to go to bed early, 11 PM. But I just can't. Every night I lay down and try to relax... Try to relax, relax... I spend like FOUR HOURS trying to get some sleep. When I wake up to go school, I barely can move.. It's awful.
Right now I SHOULD be sleeping, it's 1 AM already...
And I've tried everything you can imagine to solve this: relaxing techniques, warm milk, count sheeps, read a boring book, get a hot bath before going to bed, don't ingest any caffeine after 6PM (it's hard to not drink any Coke at night ://), don't eat so much at night, I don't have big problems with my personal life (I do well at school, have a boyfriend, my life's great)...
I've already been to the doctor, and he prescribed some medicine.
This crap doesn't work. and it was EIGHTY bucks DDD:"
I don't know what to do anymore. Soon my body's gonna collapse just because I DIDN'T SLEEP. i do not understand. I'm healthy. I'm happy. Of course I have some problems, but I learned to deal with them.
I'm really desperate. You know, i think I wouldn't be so confortable talking about it with my friends.. I'm quite sure they'll think I'm some sort of problematic-zombie-freak.
So, please, PLEASE, pretty please, help me.
Please ;-;

I know the feeling of not being able to get to bed at night. I have gone through that for a good four months. Since I am taking courses online, I don't have a set time to go to bed and wake up at a certain time. With that said, I do like waking up around 8 a.m. and going to bed when I can. Anyway, enough about me, lets move on to your problem.

It seems to me that your issue is that you can't find a comfortable place to relax in. When I go to bed, usually I have my iPod under the pillow and my headphones in my ears. It'd be a good idea to have a light fan next to you, and some comforters, that is if you do not have any. Even though, for me, I wake up with my mouth being either dry or have what feels like that stuff on the bottom of your teeth when you forget to brush your teeth, but really isn't, around my lips. If you have an mp3 player or portable device, I suggest doing what I do and listening to music. Though, I don't suggest listening to anything that you listen to often. I fell asleep to Jordin Sparks a few nights ago, so maybe that'd be a good idea. Find something that sooths you and that will allow you to go to bed easily.

Next, what you need to do, is make sure you have the following things:
A. A dark room. Be sure to turn off all of the electronics in your room, or anything requiring electricity. Make sure the computer is turned off, in hibernation, or in any setting that will make the monitor go dark. Be sure to turn off the speakers, and if you leave your computer on, be sure to hide the anything that will make a light for you, even if it's the dullest light.
B. Shut the door, and either lock it if you have a lock, or block it with something that is able to block it. This helps keep out disturbances, even though it's night time. It helps me, personally, go to bed.
C. Make sure your window is covered. Either if you don't have cutians, put a sheet to cover it, or do whatever it takes to get your room as dark as it can be.
D. Test your pillow. When you fold it in half, does it go back to the way it does, if so how long does it take? You may need to get a new pillow, or get more pillows.

Try the above suggestions tonight, and let us know in the morning, or whenever you can. If nothing else works, I suggest maybe staying up all night during the weekend and throught the rest of the day (if you can), I don't suggest this as a first resort or anything you should do during the weekdays. If anything, try it on a Friday and Saturday, that way you have Saturday and Sunday to get back into the habit of a sleeping pattern.

I really hope I helped, and please provide some feedback on how it helped you or how it didn't.

Best Wishes
- Lettursnnumburs

 

[Jaimes]

Oh boy.
I just can't sleep!

This can happen in teenagers during puberty due to changes in metabolism and typically if they spend to much time online. Anyway you need to alter your body clock (and feeding times) to solve it.

Say you have a rough night, do not spend any time in the day sleeping (not even a nap), let the fatigue build up. Try doing this on days where you are normally active (i.e weekdays) - to prevent the likelihood of you getting a chance to nap. Eventually you'll catch up the sleep at the desired time, this is the same effect as jetlag.
If you're hungry at night, you will also not be able to fall asleep. Your body will purposely keep you awake so a late meal will also help. Distractions before bed will also keep your mind awake - especially computers and the internet, so a dull routinely task will help you sleep.

 

[Victoria~]

Hey, guys, thanks a lot for the help :3
I didn't think that so many people would come with nice explanations :B

Well, let's get this going..
Lash, thank you SOO much for trying to help me and all, but I know this sleep routine thing. I try to keep in balance, you know? I go to bed at midnight, to wake up at 6:30AM. But I just lay there with nothing in my mind, waiting to sleep. It doesn't work at all x.x

Jaimes, I've already tried to stay awake in the daytime. I did it. But when I went to bed, I was TOTALLY COMPLETELY tired, my muscles just couldn't move.
And I didn't slept! I felt a lot of pain, headaches and all, but nothing solved. only after I took a med for headache that I fell asleep for 2 hours.

Letturnnumburs, thank you a whole lot. It was kinda useful.
i don't think that my bedroom is too hot/cold/noisy/smelly or anything x]] I really like it, my favorite place in the house.
Nways, I did all that tips you told me too, even if it wasn't needed x]
The sheet that a put on my window even fell in the middle of the night, it scared me A LOT.
I thought it was a ghost *coward*
Thanks for your help!

Rhiannon-chan, I tried your tips too.
Well, i called my dog and went to bed. Everything was fine.
Then I realised that it has a REALLY BAD BREATH.
It smelt like fish x.x Rotten fish x]] Also, my dog started SNORING (HOW COULD THIS DOG SNORE???) so I put her outside x]]
I tried to cuddle a teddy bear too. ALL OF THEM.
It didn't work T_T
Nways, all those things that you told were really useful, although many of them didn't apply to me.. and any of the causes were in my life DD:'

- Make sure that your bed and bedroom are comfortable - not too hot, not too cold, not too noisy. - Check. my bedroom's awesome, really :b
- Make sure that your mattress supports you properly. It should not be so firm that your hips and shoulders are under pressure or so soft that your body sags. Generally, you should replace your mattress every 10 years to get the best support and comfort. - It's true that I own it for more than ten years, but it is still comfy. I don't feel any pain after sleeping in it.
- Get some exercise. Don't overdo it, but try some regular swimming or walking. The best time to exercise is in the daytime - particularly late afternoon or early evening. Exercising later than this may disturb your sleep. - I exercise REALLY often.
- Take some time to relax properly before going to bed. Some people find aromatherapy helpful. - I've tried this aromatherapy thing once.. then I started having some kind of allergy because of the lavander essence or something x.x
- If something is troubling you, and there is nothing you can do about it right away, try writing it down before going to bed and then tell yourself to deal with it tomorrow. - The more I write, the more I can't relax x.x
- If you can't sleep, get up and do something you find relaxing. Read, watch television or listen to quiet music. After a while you should feel tired enough to go to bed again. - Check. I tried this hundred times.

Thanks for this, Rhiannon, really. But i couldn't find my problem.
Maybe I AM a problematic-zombie-freak.
I don't know what to do anymoreee x.x
Maybe it's something like nightmares. I used to have a lot of them, but suddenly I stopped sleeping, and stopped having them too..

Well guys, THANK YOU SO MUCH.
I really apreciate your help. I'll try other things, maybe hammering my head on the wall will make it xb
Thanks. If I solve this problem, I'll post here :3

~ok, move on to the next problem

 

[Zanacross]

Zombie freak ftw :)

Sleep doesn't come natrually to some people. You should go see a doctor about it.
Especially if your feeling like

I've already tried to stay awake in the daytime. I did it. But when I went to bed, I was TOTALLY COMPLETELY tired, my muscles just couldn't move.
And I didn't slept! I felt a lot of pain, headaches and all, but nothing solved. only after I took a med for headache that I fell asleep for 2 hours.
[/QUOTE]
That after staying up all day without a nap.

 

[txteclipse]

I have very strange sleeping patterns in that I sleep when I can. That includes everything from taking naps whenever to getting normal nights of sleep at times to being awake and staring at my clock from when I go to bed until the time I get up.

I would suggest not going to bed at 12. If I overshoot my bedtime (around 11) my body decides that it's going to stay awake all night. I'm not sure if it's a trait I've garnered from poor sleeping habits or if it's true for everyone, but once I pass a certain "point of no return" my body finds some reserve of energy somewhere and I can't sleep at all. SO I would suggest going to bed earlier to keep your body from thinking that you want to stay up all night (try 9:30 or 10 if you haven't slept in a while).

Otherwise yeah, do something mundane to make yourself tired. I draw or read, personally, but if you find something only mildly engaging to do it should help you sleep.

 

[Renneh]

Do some exercize to make you tired... Just sit there doing sit-ups.. that will tire you! ^^

But they won't believe me...Anyone got any advice on how I can get them to listen?

Be yourself and be insanely happy.

Make sure that you are around your dad when he gets back..out in the garden doing some active and laughing. ^^ Talk to him about random stuff that he likes *shrugs* I dunno, just chat.. make jokes.

Parents won't listen if you talk to them, you have to show them.

 

[Saltare.]

Depressed

My friend is depressed and guilty well she thinks she is. Because our friend, Lauren, back-flipped into the pool and went head first to the bottom and spit his head open and we haven't seen him for a while ever since that happened, any ideas to get my friend over the depression and guilt?

 

[Aegis]

We already have a Post Your Problems thread, stickied near the top of the forum. And since this IS a problem, it belongs there.

-Merged-

Edit: Ugh >.< PC died right as I tried to merge it. Oh well, at least it's here now.

 

[Working Class Hero]

Unless its her fault she has no reason to feel guilty. And its normal for someone to be depressed after someone's friends gets hurt badly. I know I would! Good luck to your friend who cracked his head open, your friend who is guilty, and you! ^_^ -hug-

 

[Nick]

My friend is depressed and guilty well she thinks she is. Because our friend, Lauren, back-flipped into the pool and went head first to the bottom and spit his head open and we haven't seen him for a while ever since that happened, any ideas to get my friend over the depression and guilt?

Question: Where is the pool? Was it in your friend's yard? If so, that could play a major issue with this. Due to that, she could feel guilty because it happened in her own backyard. The fact that the pool is located there, she probably felt it was her responsibility to make sure nothing happened. That would be the most logical reason as to why it is making her feel so guilty. If not, please explain where the pool is if it isn't in her yard.

Question: What has she been saying lately, other than (most likely) it's all my fault that this happened? Knowing what she's been saying could help us help you help your friend.

 

[Saltare.]

Well, I guess I'll start off. There is this girl I like (soo original..) and we were at one point really close friends. Just one problem to that, she is one of the "popular" kids and whenever I am around them, she completely ignores me.

This came into play a few weeks ago, she invited me to the movies with those 'friends' telling me that I would have fun... it was the least bit enjoyable. At first I thought it was going to be OK, everyone (at first) I saw greeted me and kinda talked to me, then we met up with her and her boyfriend.

Just to clue you guys in, I hate her boyfriend for three reasons 1. he normally gets a lot of girls (I don't), 2. I think his a.... [profane]....., and 3. he has the same first name + last initial as I do.

It was OK when we first said hi to them, but it just went downhill from there. I was pushed to the back of everything, conversations, food (decisions or something like that?), and other stuff. They even changed the movie on me AFTER I bought the ticket for the one I thought we were all gonna see (I had to eavesdrop to actually figure this out). The movie was terrible, I sat next to no one, and no one even realized that I left.

For the past two weeks I have been ignoring her to try and figure a way to straighten this out, I have come up with no solutions. What should I do... Stay friends with her? Talk to her... but not necessarily as a friend? Or should I just forget about her altogether?

P.S.-When I said Good friends, I meant REALLY good friends.

wow that must really suck about her boy friend. It's kinda like me and my friends, Bryan and Jared and Bryan's girlfriend gets any guy she wants and Jared used to date Bryan's girlfriend and Jared and I have become real good friends. To help you with your problem, just talk to her, ask her how she feels about you.

It always works. But just try to get her alone with you first before you talk to her. And as soon as her and her boyfriend break-up go and ask her out, simple as that

Okay, I like this guy in my gym class. His name is Jared and his sister is going to High School with my brother. And I think he likes me, but my friend, Ashley says he likes her more than me just because he wrote his name neat in her year book. And I will be seeing him a lot in the summer cuz he lives right by me and I really like him.

PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO!

 

[Zanacross]

I have a bit of a problem. Well its not really a problem.

Im just feeling really angry lately. I dont know what at or who at.

I have adults that keep telling me to do obvious things which I really dont care about and wont do.
Ive failed nearly all my G.C.S.E's because I didnt do most of the coursework.
Ive nearly finished my exams and leaveing school. Should i really be angry round this time? Its meant to be a great time.
My friend pisses me off when ever he comes round.
I have to write a letter to my mum.
Im always bored because I have nothing to do.
:(
can someone attempt to help please.

 

[Saltare.]

I have a bit of a problem. Well its not really a problem.

Im just feeling really angry lately. I dont know what at or who at.

I have adults that keep telling me to do obvious things which I really dont care about and wont do.
Ive failed nearly all my G.C.S.E's because I didnt do most of the coursework.
Ive nearly finished my exams and leaveing school. Should i really be angry round this time? Its meant to be a great time.
My friend pisses me off when ever he comes round.
I have to write a letter to my mum.
Im always bored because I have nothing to do.
:(
can someone attempt to help please.

That really sucks, I was like that a few months ago. Have you tried talking to someone you trust? Like a friend or another adult? And don't feel bad, a lot of people don't finish work, and I mean a lot of people. I hope this helps.

 

[Weatherman Kiyoshi]

I have a bit of a problem. Well its not really a problem.

Im just feeling really angry lately. I dont know what at or who at.

I have adults that keep telling me to do obvious things which I really dont care about and wont do.
Ive failed nearly all my G.C.S.E's because I didnt do most of the coursework.
Ive nearly finished my exams and leaveing school. Should i really be angry round this time? Its meant to be a great time.
My friend pisses me off when ever he comes round.
I have to write a letter to my mum.
Im always bored because I have nothing to do.
:(
can someone attempt to help please.

Okey... lemme try.

1. You should probably do them so they stop annoying the hell outta you.

2. Well... find a way to make them up.

3. Nope. you should be danceing for joy :D

4. Friends are for:
A: To hang out with
B: Share opinions
C: Talk to
D: Frendly piss off
If your friend is not pissing you off in a friendly way, you can do:
A- Talk to him to stop this ordeal
B- stop being friends with him

5. And this is a problem cause...? just wirte your mom a letter and mail it (or whatever you plan to do with it) and get it over and done with.

6. Well with all these problems you have, don't you have your hands full? but- if your looking for an obbessive time killer- play cubefield while listening to good music.

You good?

 

[Saltare.]

Question: Where is the pool? Was it in your friend's yard? If so, that could play a major issue with this. Due to that, she could feel guilty because it happened in her own backyard. The fact that the pool is located there, she probably felt it was her responsibility to make sure nothing happened. That would be the most logical reason as to why it is making her feel so guilty. If not, please explain where the pool is if it isn't in her yard.

Question: What has she been saying lately, other than (most likely) it's all my fault that this happened? Knowing what she's been saying could help us help you help your friend.

Unless its her fault she has no reason to feel guilty. And its normal for someone to be depressed after someone's friends gets hurt badly. I know I would! Good luck to your friend who cracked his head open, your friend who is guilty, and you! ^_^ -hug-

I have very strange sleeping patterns in that I sleep when I can. That includes everything from taking naps whenever to getting normal nights of sleep at times to being awake and staring at my clock from when I go to bed until the time I get up.

I would suggest not going to bed at 12. If I overshoot my bedtime (around 11) my body decides that it's going to stay awake all night. I'm not sure if it's a trait I've garnered from poor sleeping habits or if it's true for everyone, but once I pass a certain "point of no return" my body finds some reserve of energy somewhere and I can't sleep at all. SO I would suggest going to bed earlier to keep your body from thinking that you want to stay up all night (try 9:30 or 10 if you haven't slept in a while).

Otherwise yeah, do something mundane to make yourself tired. I draw or read, personally, but if you find something only mildly engaging to do it should help you sleep.

That has happened to e before and it still does. What I do to sleep is watch a boring TV show or play on the computer until you get really tired. OR break out your MP3 or Ipod and listen to your fave song. I also look through my old yearbooks at think about the guys I like and my old friends and look at the signatures. I also draw.

I draw a lot of Pokemon Pictures and I LOVE to write stories. And that usually makes me really really tired. Once I only got 5 minutes of sleep then it was time to get up to go to school. Hope this helps!

Alright, there's this guy in my math class, Gabriel, and I hang out with him a lot and we are good friends, but everyone and I mean everyone thinks we are going out and we aren't. And I don't want my friend, Jared, to get the wrong idea cuzI like Jared, not Gabriel. Please attempt to help me