WHY DO I LIKE HER

u0850913

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    WHY. She changed my life- Actually, she more or less screwed my life up into a ball, threw it away and gave me a better one, she's really nice, I talk to her every day and see her five days a week, but then there's the bad things.My best friend likes her too, and I'm pretty sure she likes him. Lately she told me she's been "scared" around him. It's all fine when they talk on MSN, apparently, but every time she sees him she runs and hides! I thought this might be due to the fact that he's sort of emotionally run-down, and definitely has a lot of bottled-up anger, but now I doubt it. She said she doesn't know why she's scared of him, and she doesn't know if it's a good or bad thing. Of course, like anyone, she's unlikely to tell me straight out if she likes somebody, but just... Urgh. I've told her on numerous occasions that I like her as more than a friend, but she just says she doesn't know why I would and then leaves. I want to just be friends. I try so hard to make myself get over her, but at the same time, I feel like it's not worth giving up on, futile as my attempts to get closer to her may be. I know, I know, I'm 14, these things happen, blah blah blah... I've heard it before. I want to get over her, to stop myself ruining at least one friendship, but I don't want to step aside and let my two best friends run away with each other. I asked her to the movies, but apparently she won't go with "just a guy". I don't know what to do, and every time she talks about my friend I feel slightly more dead inside. I'm not expecting any reasonable replies; I just need to get this out there, to tell SOMEBODY. This whole post is probably very inconsistent and jumbled, but so is my mind, right now. I keep rambling on, typing out everything that pops into my head.

    I just can't stop thinking about her... My options are pretty much these:

    -Completely avoid her and ruin one of the best friendships I've ever had.
    -Let my friend and her get together, killing me inside but giving him what he wants; also losing my two best friends.
    -Talk to my friend and sort it out, but more than likely ending our friendship.
    -Keep things how they are and continue to slowly feel more and more depressed.
    -Find another girl; Sure, there're plenty more fish in the sea, but I'm in the middle of a desert.
    -Keep fighting and hope nothing more happens between them, getting the girl but losing a great friend.

    I'm only happy about one thing; School goes back for me next Tuesday, and my friend's life pretty much revolves around the internet. He's nothing like he is on MSN in real life; maybe it'll make her like him less, assuming she likes him in the first place.

    I want to die. Heartache is a very real thing; I can feel it, down in my chest. It's a sort of aching that doesn't hurt. It just makes me feel deceased.

    I just don't see any easy way out of this.
     
    Let her ride the tail wind... There are things you cannot control...

    Sometimes frinedships aren't meant to last, if one is pushing away... that's life, and if so, so be it... Don't beat yourself over it, you did what you could do, but if there is no reciprocation... well...

    At this point, try things over the natural course... Perhaps she is scared of the other person in real life, simply because it is that different for her, you guys are still young after all.
     
    Sounds like a School Days scenario

    That's terrible D:
    Unrequited love never seems to end out very good...I know you're expecting this but, you're 14. You've got a lot more of your life to live and I doubt she's 'the one' right now. If you told her you like her more as a friend and she doesn't reply, I think you have to give up. She sees you as no more than friend. If you get to obsessive and clingy, she's not even going to bother to be your girlfriend unless she's desperate; you'd be her fallback option.

    I doubt she really likes your best friend by the way. Probably just being giggly because she can, and that's just what girls do. If they do go out and stuff....it sucks being a third wheel. If you're best friends, there's no girl that can replace a guy friend, right? :3 You both will still be friends. Both of them are 14 I'm guessing and if he's emotionally volatile, it won't last. She'll move on too. Don't worry, this is just a rough point (b'-')b
     
    Sorry man, you lost this one. Not much you can do about it. We can't help who we like, neither can she.

    u0850913 said:
    -Find another girl; Sure, there're plenty more fish in the sea, but I'm in the middle of a desert.
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    This isn't true. It'll probably be one of the easiest times of your life for meeting new girls.
     
    Things past quickly so I'm sure you'll get over her sometime soon, sure it may not be now or any time soon, but one day it will end and you'll find another girl. It's happened to me on numerous occasions. I've only been in four relationships out of the fifty billion crushes I've had on girls, but anything is possible. But for now just be her friend and be there for her and support her.
     
    C'mon. If its going bad as hell get over her. You can still hang out a bit with her but seriously if its obvious you two weren't meant to be then gtfo and find someone else. Make friends with other girls. But be careful as chances are that can result in jealousy anywhere XP
     
    Hmm... A complicated choice, one you can only make yourself. Our experiences cannot tell you anything, but anything can happen. So... You've got to think, find a Spirit Guide, a part of your conscience that things diferently to you, and see what that says (I call it Spirit Guide as it sometimes takes the form of someone, kinda like their personality). Weigh more than just the cons up, weigh every single pro and con to the action, and you may find your choice.
     
    Ahh, reminds me of what happened to me a year ago, where pretty much the exact same thing happened. I like this girl, who I'm BFF's with, and my friend apperantly likes her as well. Well, all in all, we had a stand of right in front of her (A fight) and I won, but she didn't appreciate us fighting over her, so no one hooked up with her. In the end, she hated my friend for life, but somehow, us two are still BFFs


    You know your options. Your gonna have to choose one. Look at the results and consequences. Who's more important to you? Your friend, or your love? It's one way or the other, and no turning back once you decide.
     
    My advice would be to try to let her know you like her ;) if you tried all that then let her go there are others that could treat you good. PROMISE YEAH! I once had the same problem you having now. To tell you the truth though you never really get over the first, but I happend to find another girl and fell for her. all i can say bro but hey need help im glad to give you yahoo or email ;)
     
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