Actually suicide is selfish. EXTREMELY selfish. One of the most selfish things a person can do.
No, I'm not cold. No, I'm not mean. I'm just saying the God's honest truth.
Suicide is when YOU get wrapped up in YOUR problems and can't see a way out. YOU are absorbed in YOU. I don't care if it's mental, physical, emotional, etc. The point is that YOU are thinking about what benefits YOU in the moment. What YOU want. What escape YOU "need". How terrible YOU have it.
Guess what? There are people worse off than YOU that live with their problems every day.
As a Christian, I know that God loves everyone. Only HE has the right to give and take away life. YOU have a purpose and YOU are loved.
Depression feels bad. Yes it feels like there's no point, life is not worth it, etc. but that doesn't make it true. If depression is medical physically (such as a severe hormone imbalance), and suicide occurs, I don't exactly see it as suicide - I see it as a real medical issue like a disease that finally overcame the person. For drugs, well the person shouldn't have been on them. That's selfish in itself. But for the emotional depression, when you allow it to break you down so much that you shut off from everyone and just think about yourself, no. Just. No. It's highly selfish, wrong. Nothing classy about it.
I was suicidal once, even being a Christian, although it got so dark at that time. I'm a victim of extreme physical and emotional torture as a child. I also was a very ill child, with many physical presenting symptoms that even kept me near coma some days. My parents nearly killed me with making me take medication that didn't belong in my system to exploit me, telling me what to say to a psychiatrist so that they could think i was mentally disabled and draw a check for them to blow. Intentionally poisoning me, making it look like a pharmacist's fault and winning money in court cases. Beating me constantly black and blue, kicking in my ribs, making me lie and telling me they'd kill me if I said anything against them. Locking me in rooms, closest, etc. Performing rituals on me. Chasing me with knifes forcing me to try to sneak a weapon under my pillow in case they try to come kill me in the night. I had to always wear long sleeves and pants because the cuts and bruises were so bad i was afraid someone would find out and then tell my parents and I'd die. My face has gouges scars in it that you can see if you look up at close ups of my face where nails have been dug into my face, and glass shards. I was told I'd never have anyone love me, that I was the reason for every problem in the family, that if they could get away with it they'd murder me because I was demon possessed, that the family was only a family without me in it. All of this and more from when i was tiny (my first memory being when i was around 4 or 5 years old).
I got tired of waking up, dealing with it, trying to keep up in school, back home. I was so scared when the school bell rang for school to get out. I'd have a panic attack every day. Summers were hell. By 7th grade I was ready to end it, even knowing there's a God that loves me, and being taken to church every Sunday and Wednesday. Even WITH a God, I was ready to end it all. No matter how many friends I had in school that loved me, there was a hole that was there for a parents' love, and it ate at me all the time. CONSTANTLY. NEVER ENDING.
And we all know teenagers are some of the most unstable creatures, my hormones were already whack and raging due to PCOS, plus being a teen and the pressures there, and then home life. So my friend Sarah (she came to school with scars on her wrists and arms from cutting and it'd KILL me to see it) and I made a suicide pact at school that we'd go home that night and kill ourselves. It seemed like a GOOD IDEA. Just to be GONE from it. So i went home and later that night I got a knife and I was really just in a mindset to do this thing.
But then I just stopped. And I just really thought. Because I always question things. And my thought was "Why me? Why am I here?". And I just had this answer in my head suddenly, and I didn't know it was God at the time but I think it was and basically (to sum up) it said, "The answer will come to those that ask and wait." And I thought about that for a minute and I really just wanted to know. And then i thought about Sarah and I started crying and crying because it just always upset me how hurt she was and that she probably would NOT get to know that answer. I thought about my other friends, all who had problems who loved me, who did their own thing, who would find their own answer there. And I knew that if they were affecting me, how much would my leaving affect THEM. And already I felt selfish and guilty, but also curious and loved for a God that stayed with me already through this. And, having to know the answer, I just went to bed, to wait.
And it took a long time for me to get an answer. But i started finding inspiration in things. Mostly video games that had stories of characters much like me, in situations like mine, and how bonding friendships are, and I started noting how powerful these messages were in games to people like me. And in music, and in art. And in everything, an escape there that did not result to hurt everyone including myself, but in a way that helps everyone, including myself. So i started making games, and music and art and because of this terrible hurt that I had gone through I further developed those passions of mine. I made more friends by the dozens. I started realizing that my parents WERE wrong. I am me. God made me. Nobody was going to tell me otherwise. THAT HURT and that LONGING is there. The only thing that covers it is the love of God and friends, but I will always have that longing for a parents' love. But see, I had become STRONG because of what I went through. What doesn't kill you WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER. It IS true.
And years later I have met people who are going through similar situations and I can tell them now IT GETS BETTER. IT DOES. That's FACT. Because I went through it. And I talked to them and I befriended them and I could RELATE to them. All of the fear and pain and hurt and worry and void, I'd seen it, I'd lived it. But I made it through to the other side and I was adamant on helping people get through. And because of that I have people who will testify that MY STORY, MY HELP, MY STRENGTH, MY DEDICATION saved them (by the grace of God that saved me). What does that mean? It means that at least a good few people would not be alive today probably, had I taken my own life. I'm not going to say that all of them converted to Christianity, no, because I don't force it, some did, but even if they didn't, the simple fact that bonds can hold people together and keep them afloat is AMAZING.
I'm just an ordinary person who had to go through some extraordinarily bad things, and I'm THANKFUL i did. I thank God he put me right where I was, that He made me fortified and strong against the enemy, that He brought me through to tell my story because oh boy. I will tell it. i was scared to back then, but I'm not now.
Then at age 23 I was struck with a disabling disease. Now I'm in bed lots of times, and it's boring and I hate it and sometimes it feels not worth it. But let me tell you something. Since I've been ill I've been able to really look at the smaller things of life and appreciate them. No amount of pain can take away the beauty of life. I'm in pain CONSTANTLY and you can ask anyone. i rarely go without a smile on my face and singing (I'm not even supposed to be able to sing). But I'm going to keep on doing because if I can keep on doing, people will know they can keep on doing. Don't trade away the one thing you have left going for you, life. It's precious. You won't get it back. And you'll be stealing peace of mind to everyone who cares about you. And you may be ending lives yourself (in my case). you don't know the purpose for you? because you didn't hold on long enough. You never know. There's no such thing as absolute with life. Life is a box of chocolates and you may strike gold. In health, in love, if you just wait it on out. I promise. There's something there. Nobody is born without a reason.
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Tl:dr: Don't be selfish. Don't give up. No matter how bad it is, you have a reason for being alive in this very moment.