There is such a thing as male privelege, unfortunately, as there is white privelege, etc.
I just think if we all focused as a group to even out odds and ends that we'd get somewhere. I'm a feminist of sorts - I don't believe it's fair that women are scared to go out after dusk because of predators, or that we should be so concerned that what we wear would attract undesirable attention (although I don't victim shame, it's at least a matter of self-respect to dress modestly), or that we should be rejected from jobs simply because of the prospect of pregnancy in the future - but then again, men have the issue of always being labelled as potential rapists or predators because the media hypes up issues. Female sexual assault and violence against women is a bigger issue than that against men (not to say that men aren't abused sexually, physically, emotionally, etc. but it isn't as often (I had a male friend who was raped at gunpoint, so no bias)) which is where the issues stem from; I myself was a victim of repeated sexual assault from a partner who used violence and death threats against me while being ten hours from any friends, family, etc. Luckily I managed to escape being stabbed (or being in the apartment the following day after police intervention, as he had climbed four stories and broken in), but a lot of women come out of those situations with psychological and physical scars. Again, these situations happen to men, too, but not as often, and men have a better, fighting chance against a woman than a woman does against a man. It's how nature intended, although for hunting and not beating one's own species to a pulp.
My father was a single parent often criticized because usually it's the woman who keeps the children. My mother didn't want anything to do with us, so my father raised us on minimum wage. Two of the kids weren't even biologically his, but our mother had abandoned us as toddlers and youths. I do not agree with this discrimination against men, or that just because the media always shows males as being pedophiles or bad parents that they necessarily are. I disagree that men do not have access to maternity leave should the woman be absent or wanting to continue in her career while the father stays at home. It would work nicely both ways if both genders had "either or" access to maternity leave, but as of now it's not a thing; it's a woman's thing, not a man's, to look after the kids, and that hurts both genders as well as equality overall.
I understand the concept of men demanding rights such as those listed above. I understand that not all men are predators, or violent, or psychopaths, or supremists, or pedophiles. The media doesn't help, but I can't say to stop showing it lest the issue we forgotten. It's really much more complicated. I still don't go out at night, though, nor do I intentionally speak to men or make small talk. At the end of the day, I still fear men, not for what's on TV (I don't even have TV, mind you) but because of what I've suffered and what I have seen my aunts suffer through and my friends suffer through. Basically every woman I know in my family and friendship circle has been a victim of at least physical abuse (and a handful have been victims of sexual assault by men in their youth i.e. my aunt was gangraped by older teens when she was thirteen because of having rejected certain advances from one of the perpetrator's younger siblings).
And then I read stories in India and worldwide where women have acid thrown in their faces for not marrying a man they do not want to marry, making them unrecognizable beyond compare. It's so shocking.
Women being equal to men and men being equal to women is the ideal. If we break it down and ignore the feminazis who are just over-the-top and missing the actual point of feminism (i.e. the "tata bikini" that's trending on Tumblr that makes women look naked outside), feminism is about self-respect, societal respect, equality and just not having to fear doing certain tasks because of either criticism, sexual assault or battery. If men don't have to fear those things on a constant basis, women shouldn't have to either. It's not fair that we need to be skeptical of men, and then get the backlash we do for rejecting men because of the skepticism many males have brought on their gender. A good first step is for men to start understanding that their gender does have an issue in the past and present with disrespect towards women, and rather than to be angry at women for adapting to those men's behaviours that they start by understanding and trying to squash the stereotype by setting a good example individually, while spreading that example through male friends.
It would help if men and women alike would interject when anyone makes rape jokes by saying it's "not cool" or when either gender objectifies eachother or the other that it be stated that it's not flattering but disrespectful. Men and women alike need to work towards a common goal together. Separating it really isn't going to achieve much imo.
I have a great deal of respect for my father. I wish others would respect him more rather than focusing on the idea that he was a man in what society deems a woman's shoes. I don't think that's right. Likewise, I don't think it's right that women be dubbed but childbearers in society and are criticized when they choose not to reproduce, or are shamed by people who victim blame rather than holding perpetrators accountable for their own actions. I have spoken to men who actually blame me for the sexual assault and battery I endured simply because I could've "left" or "walked away" or whatever. Rather than accepting the fact that a despicable psychopath happens to be a part of their gender, I'm somehow at fault, even though I was the only one working, paying the bills, lending money, etc. They don't even acknowledge the fact that the guy was psychotically intimidating and issued death threats everyday, or that he held a knife to me or threw me against walls, etc. The men I spoke to at the time saw me as the problem, but sometimes you can't just "walk away." I wanted to, but there was so much fear involved that you don't know what to do, and I'm still suffering psychologically for it.
That all aside,
the whole issue is extremely complicated and gives me a headache. Let's all just work to be better people for a better society where everyone can feel safe and homely and work for equal wages and have equal opportunities without backlash. Just make a big ol' humanitarian group and dissolve Men's Rights Movements and Feminist Movements and become a Human Rights Movements, because at the end it's equality for all even though it's a much larger issue for women's rights than for men's, but that's besides the point and by sharing ideas and collaborating, we might actually get somewhere.