If you play game to win, you eventually get bored. My first priority in games is to have fun or work hard to create something I like. I don't play pokemon to be a master, I play and indulge myself in my little critters doing various things and going on adventures. For crystal chronicles I am making jewels from equipment to make better character, which actually takes a lot of work, but I imagine that each new character I make is a decent of my previous character and it makes it much more fun. I'm not one of those kids that live and breath controllers just because I have to play them. Others probably would not consider me a gamer because of how much time I spend either not playing games or not actually getting anywhere.
I played WoW for awhile and spent my gold on pretty dresses. :D On another game I would sit around in a wedding dress and just talk to people all day.