Aw he's/she's shy, how cute! ...or not

Unless it's done properly, no. I love outgoing, determined, independent people who speak out a lot and are firm in their beliefs. Shy people are rarely any of that (maybe determined) and it's so frustrating trying to get them to stand up for themselves or stop being pushovers (which, for some reasons, the ones I meet tend to be).
 
Yes, in the sense that I am also shy and being around people who are the opposite of shy make me a little nervous. I'm not used to people being that outgoing and have long since learnt that I don't get along all that well with them. I can handle them as friends that I see once every so often but the last person I almost got into a relationship with was absolutely not a shy person and that was part of the reason I ended up being like "ok i can't do this". He would've been the kind of person who wanted to go out and meet people, do lots of things, and so on. That's not the kind of lifestyle I want, so I definitely want someone on the shyer scale of things.

However, since I am shy and am already a little hindered by it, I'm not all that attracted to anyone who's even shyer than me. I mean, I don't want to be the one who always has to go ask for extra napkins or make all the phone calls because the other one is too shy to do it! :P I'd rather be the one whining until the other one does it. So while I do prefer shy people, I don't think I would ever be all that attracted to someone who was as shy as (or shyer) than me.
 
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