Blunt or sugarcoating?

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    How do you usually express your feelings or emotions about someone? Do you just state it point blank, or are you afraid of hurting someone's feelings and try to put what you have to say as sweetly as possible?
     
    I'm straight-forward with things; I don't really worry about sounding nice as long as I'm not misunderstood. (Taken as insulting doesn't count, as that happens frequently, but more along the lines of saying someone has room to improve, but they think I said they're completely hopeless.)

    However, I try and avoid situations wherein I'll end up having to point something out.
     
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    It just depends on the situation. I can easily be blunt if I think it's the right thing to do.
     
    Most of the time, I'm COMPLETELY blunt.
    However, if the situation deems necessary, then I will sugarcoat... but not often. The workplace is one example of where I don't express my feelings to my bosses. O.o
     
    If I'm able to joke with a person, I'm usually incredibly blunt, though only in a negative way, and especially when I feel tired of dealing with their nonsense. lol

    Otherwise I tend to sugarcoat things or make it seem as if I'm not interested in them at all.
     
    I don't like being blunt. I feel you can be honest without completely ignoring social norms about what's offensive and what's not offensive and without just saying what you want to say whenever you want. Yes, it's easier for the person saying it, but from my own personal experience I find it much more annoying/offensive/hurtful if I feel someone doesn't even have enough respect for me to care about what I think, so they just say whatever insulting thing pops into their head under the umbrella of 'blunt'.

    There are ways that things can be said that are both honest and avoid hurting the other person. Take for example, the criticism sandwich that many people use when criticizing a work. The people reviewing don't change the actual criticism that they're making, they just put a compliment before it and one after it. The first one gives the creator some confidence in their work so they don't feel like you have nothing nice to say about it. The one after the criticism reminds them that you're not telling them that because you want to hurt their self-esteem, but because you like the rest of their work and want them to grow to be the best they can be. The person who does that gets the same point across as the person who immediately jumps to "This part sucks and I hate this part", but in a way that doesn't actually hurt the other person.

    I wouldn't say I lie to people to make them feel better or curb what I'm trying to say, but I do try to put it in a way that won't hurt the other person. Kind of a 'treat others the way you would like to be treated' thing for me - I would like people to care enough about hurting me that they put more than a half second's thought into the impact of their words, so I try to find a balance between telling people things as honestly as possible without doing it in a way that might be offensive or hurtful towards them, haha.
     
    Depends on who I'm dealing with. If its someone who I love I'm going to be more nice about it. If its someone who I know doesn't care and just wants me to get to the point I'll just say it.
    Some people have a problem with being blunt and sugar coating. I kind of go for a mixed result. I'm quick with what I need to say, but I try not to sound too harsh.
     
    Depends on who it is. With my close friends, I'm ridiculously blunt, because I know they won't take it straight to heart. I'm pretty blunt in general, but I will soften things when I'm talking to acquaintances because I don't want to come across as rude.
     
    I wish I was a more blunt person. I tend to sugarcoat things a lot because I'm afraid of hurting the other person's feelings or something. ;s;
     
    Depends on who I'm around. If I'm around someone who I really don't know, I'll sugarcoat it just so I don't come off as a rude person. Around my friend, I'll be as blunt as ever because I know they won't take what I say to heart.
     
    there are only two options available to me: either i say nothing at all, or i say what i feel outright. i never really sugar-coat things, but i guess it depends on the situation. i mean, if someone i knew happened to die and i had to explain to his/her four year-old relative what just happened to him/her, i wouldn't just say, "your relative just died and p.s. s/he is never coming back." of course they wouldn't have the maturity to understand what i've just said, so i'd have to say something like, "s/he won't be here for a while, but s/he's still watching you from somewhere, etc."
     
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    I just say things the way they're supposed to be said. Not in a way that's unnecessarily mean and not in a way that is untrue. C'mon, there's a difference between honest and rude.
     
    Well it depends on what my feelings for the person are. The majority of the time I'll sugar coat it if it's negative and make it as pleasant as I possibly can but there will come a point where if the person just isn't getting the message or if they are choosing to ignore the message I'll just have to tell them point-blank that I don't like that.
    If I just generally like the person I'll be blunt and just tell you straight that I like you and think you're awesome.
    However if I really like someone to the point where I've developed 'feelings' for them I'll go back to tiptoeing around it. This time it's usually to protect myself from being hurt as I haven't exactly had the best experiences when pouring out my feelings to someone.
     
    Everybody look at Toujours' post, and then pretend I wrote it.

    I really hate the idea of being blunt, and I can't stand people who are blunt with me. It's so incredibly rude, I find, to totally disregard the feelings of other people just for the ability to pat yourself on the back for your 'honesty'. I am a big sugar coater, because I respect other people.
     
    I tend to be straightforward with stuff. I hate being unclear. It's better to just lay things out as they are and avoid any possible confusion. Sometimes I'll try not to be as blunt, but whenever I try sugarcoating, I'm always reluctant to say anything because I hate saying anything other than what it is. So if ever I attempt to sugarcoat something, I'll be really vague and unclear with my words and then end up saying "okay, basically, here's what's going on." and proceed to be very blunt.

    So in the end I'm always blunt. Better to be that way.
     
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