Cheating...

If my significant other really loved me but felt I wasn't giving enough from my part of the relationship, they should come out and say so instead of making such an unforgivable action. Once it's gotten that far, I'm afraid I can't trust a single word my partner would say since I can't even trust her to consider us committed partners in the first place.
 
I would say "ok" unemotionally or "ah I see" if I find her cheating then walk off without another word. I wouldn't talk to her of course but since I'm not the type for grudges I would eventually but getting back together is an absolute hell no and leave this statement "Obviously there are better guys for you so get lost please".

Rather than me find out things I like for people to come to me and admit what's on there minds good or bad.
 
I don't really care unless she actually sleeps with him. In which case I probably won't miss her ever again. o_O

Jordan said:
If my significant other really loved me but felt I wasn't giving enough from my part of the relationship, they should come out and say so instead of making such an unforgivable action. Once it's gotten that far, I'm afraid I can't trust a single word my partner would say since I can't even trust her to consider us committed partners in the first place.
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wifemeimmediately.
 
(I feel like cheating is the lowest of lows.. and I wouldn't ever be able to be with someone if they cheated before.. even if it was in one of their past relationships..)

Yup, I'm with you. Once a cheater, always a cheater. If someone thinks they won't cheat on you, when they've done it before, they're foolish. And if they are the other person, then they're really stupid to think it won't happen to them.

Dating, engages, married, whatever the status, I would not continue with someone who cheated on me. Would have no respect for them and would not give them the time of day. I wouldn't try to make anything work out because that's not my responsibility to do so. They screwed up, not me.
 
If I found out they were cheating on me, I don't think that I can ever forgive them, no matter how much I would want to. Cheating in my book is unforgivable.
 
I have been cheated on. He tried to explain to me why. I have never seen a valid point for cheating, so of course we don't speak to each other or see each other anymore
 
Signomi said:
...because I'm lazy, I'll just paste the response I gave to this topic from another thread.

I guess you can only really understand the severity of that question when you're experiencing or have experienced anything like that, it's no good saying "oh I'd stick by him forever regardless of what he did" when you're unaware of the emotional instability this could actually cause you, it can actually be worse than physical pain.

I've been through my share of heartbreak and while I've done some really irrational things in the past, if I were thrust into that sort of situation again, I'd try to talk it out with him first...of course it would be a bit of a thin line because he would have basically broken the code of our entire relationship, so even if we tried to compromise...the hurt would still linger and the seed of doubt and suspicion had already been planted the moment you found out. So it wouldn't be unusual if that could entirely break a relationship eventually. The love may linger there, and while it's possible to start all over, trying to maintain a relationship after that would be easier said than done.
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My thoughts exactly. I've been betrayed in that way several times, even once recently. o.o
So yeah, it's really difficult to maintain any sort of relationship if there is no trust. It's heartwrenching when relationships end like that, especially for me...but there isn't a lot you can do about it except pick yourself up, and regain your senses, and move on, being all the more wise and canny about relationships as a whole. Even if you truly love someone unconditionally, that sort of distrust can be just as emotionally painful to both of you as being cheated on is. Even for a guy, being cheated on can really mess with your emotional state, to the point of irrationality, and this holds true too for doubting the one person you love with all of your being...it's really hard to let go, but sometimes you end up being forced to do so to put an end to your emotional pain.

That being said, I've never been a jealous person, but there is a line where my patience ends. Everyone has a similar limit, and it's up to both people in the relationship to know the limits of the other and respect them accordingly.
 
i would head out, if he's not happy with me i wouldnt want to waste his time
 
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