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Couple Trouble (advice, experience & and other stuff)

JoWood

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    Love life's been complicated lately. I wonder if its like this for other people.

    SO, This is a thread for Couple Advice, experience & other stuff.

    My x-girlfriend called me petty .... -_- Petty. Because we broke up and now I go out with this other girl and she doesnt want me to talk to my X. So my x-G/F called me petty. How is this petty?
     
    It dependz, how long were you two broken up before you went out with thiz new girl?
     
    I think your ex is the petty one. Maybe if you rubbed it in her face when you got the new girlfriend. But if you didn't even do anything, then that's not petty, and she needs to stop using words that she doesn't know the meaning of.
     
    Teara said:
    It dependz, how long were you two broken up before you went out with thiz new girl?

    I dunno about a month( or two? ). Its not like we broke up and I rush 2 get a new girl.
     
    Maybe your ex is a dunce in the English department. Throw a dictionary her way come Christmas time.
     
    Are you really gonna mind that ex? Dont be like me man, when my girl broke up wit me last feb or so, I almost killed myself. (It was to the point that I was actually staring down the barrel of a .45.)
     
    Jacob Madrox said:
    Are you really gonna mind that ex? Dont be like me man, when my girl broke up wit me last feb or so, I almost killed myself. (It was to the point that I was actually staring down the barrel of a .45.)

    Over a girl, kill myself. She gotta be REALLY, REALLY HOT and I have to like her personality. I'd never look to killin myself over a girl.

    What are girls that have you whipped. She demands things and gifts all the time. -_- Cant those kind.
     
    In a relationship, neither partner should be "whipped". That's not good. They should both do things for eachother, and not just one person doing everything for the other.
     
    JoWood said:
    Over a girl, kill myself. She gotta be REALLY, REALLY HOT and I have to like her personality. I'd never look to killin myself over a girl.

    What are girls that have you whipped. She demands things and gifts all the time. -_- Cant those kind.
    I despise it deeply when people say things like that. Why do looks matter so much? If looks,and what you want to end up doing with the holder of those looks that you adore, are the only reasons you want a girlfriend, then you want a girlfriend for all the wrong reasons. I'm not an expert on this at all, I've never had a girlfriend so you have absolutley no reason to listen me. But when people say things that come off as love based on looks alone, really really ticks me off. I apologize.
     
    Aw...Triforce, I don't think he meant it like that....I dunno, you never can tell with internet speak, since emotions are never clear, but I thought he meant it jokingly, you know? But I understand completely. Looks are only icing on the cake. Personality is the cake....

    mmmm...cake! Now you've got me all hungry! Gah....*runs to find chocolate cake*



    One question for Jowood: Why does your new girlfriend not want you to talk to your ex? Does she feel intimidated or something? I could be wrong, but that is a little controlling if you ask me...you should be able to speak to whomever you want to. Maybe you need to let your girlfriend know that there is no threat from your ex. It seems kind of silly that she doesn't want you to talk to her....

    No offense meant, just speaking from experience. :)
     
    TRIFORCE89 said:
    I despise it deeply when people say things like that. Why do looks matter so much? If looks,and what you want to end up doing with the holder of those looks that you adore, are the only reasons you want a girlfriend, then you want a girlfriend for all the wrong reasons. I'm not an expert on this at all, I've never had a girlfriend so you have absolutley no reason to listen me. But when people say things that come off as love based on looks alone, really really ticks me off. I apologize.

    Not what I was saying man. I was kidding about the hotness part. I'd never resort to killin myself over a girl, no matter the looks. I would only surrender my life to my family and my savour, Jesus Christ.

    When looking for a partner you see whats on the outside first. Not saying that I dont care how a girl's personality is. Its like first impression. (I dunno how to explain it XD)

    Skye said:
    One question for Jowood: Why does your new girlfriend not want you to talk to your ex? Does she feel intimidated or something? I could be wrong, but that is a little controlling if you ask me...you should be able to speak to whomever you want to. Maybe you need to let your girlfriend know that there is no threat from your ex. It seems kind of silly that she doesn't want you to talk to her....

    No offense meant, just speaking from experience.

    None taken. She says she doesnt want me to talk to any of my Xs (only got 3). She agreed to do the same. I dont like being in this position. A relationship requires trust, right?

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    ANOTHER TOPIC : When searching for a partner do see looks or personality first?
     
    Okay, on your search for a partner [that sounds so formal], you want someone who's good-looking, don't say you don't. Looks are the first thing that you notice most of the time [unless you're blind]. So you see someone who looks good, and you try to get to know them. If they are nice and sweet, you are more attracted to them, good personalites are a must. If they are nasty, and have a bad attitude, no. No matter how good someone looks, they aren't worht it unless they treat others well.
     
    Innocently flirt. Especially if that person actually acknowledges you. Just joke in a flirty way. Say they're pretty and laugh, even though you might really mean it. Start getting cloer to that person, "accidentally", and say sorry at first, then stop saying sorry after a while. Do you see where I'm going.
     
    Be nice and friendly and help the girl out. Help them with homework or something. Help her carry her books, or other nice things like that. Don't come on too strong at first, because they'll think you're weird, LMAO.
     
    Tig said:
    I do see where you're coming from
    But first I need to get a girl as my friend (which is not the same thing as g/f)
    But I don't even know how to do that properly

    Personally, I find it to better to just flirt hard. You dont want the girl as a friend , you want her as a girl friend (er- romantic- like) Thats 2nd base though.

    Starting off as friends is good. (I've had some experiences there. :D )
     
    JoWood said:
    Not what I was saying man. I was kidding about the hotness part. I'd never resort to killin myself over a girl, no matter the looks. I would only surrender my life to my family and my savour, Jesus Christ.

    When looking for a partner you see whats on the outside first. Not saying that I dont care how a girl's personality is. Its like first impression. (I dunno how to explain it XD)



    None taken. She says she doesnt want me to talk to any of my Xs (only got 3). She agreed to do the same. I dont like being in this position. A relationship requires trust, right?

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    ANOTHER TOPIC : When searching for a partner do see looks or personality first?



    Absolutely, a relationship is always about trust. It's a shame that she is asking you not to talk to your exes. Even if she promises to do the same, you are both limiting yourselves the the possibility of keeping your exes as friends, which I am sure they will not appreciate. Try talking to her about it, and see if that helps?

    Pertaining to your new question, I tend to have a pretty strong intuition, and I tend to not look at looks...heh, that sounded funny. Personally, looks are not a very important thing, and if a person sounds interesting to me, then I will try to get to know them better. If it ends up being a romantic relationship, then great. If not, I have probably made a life long friend. I can't lose either way!

    It's hard sometimes for a lot of people to not go looking for bfs or gfs. I've always found that it is a good idea to make friends first, and see where it goes from there. I am also a big believer in fate, not the pre-destiny stuff, but if you put your trust in a higher power for situations out of your control kind of deal, regardless of what that higher power is.

    Well...enough of my blabbing!
     
    What are the bases? People are always saying different things. The farthest I've gone was making out. I guess that's...2nd base?
     
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