Ever feel disconnected?

[XSE]

So, I've noticed throughout my life, whether at school, work, whatever, that there have been people who would talk about things I didn't really care for or understand. For example, at my job, many people talk about T.V. shows, and even more personal things like their daily lives, at home things, etc.

It never has bothered me to a degree where I feel I Need to go watch T.V. or whatever, but it does kind of bother me, because I feel it inhibits relationships with others. For example, the past girlfriends I've had I never really knew what to talk to them about. I was just glad being with them, but I feel there is something missing when you don't have many external connections. I sort of long to connect with people in such a way, but I also feel that it would be false for me. I don't care about T.V. or the plethora of things they do one bit.

I feel I'm a pretty simple guy. I like to program. I like to play older video games, nothing past 2008 really. I watch anime here and there. And I work. Based on these major things in my life, I don't think I can connect well with others that are really in my life. A connection on an internet forum is one thing, but a connection in real life is something else. I have no buddies to hang out with, no girls to go out with, and I wonder if I'm even missing out on something by not having these things.

So, to the people here, what is your take on this? Do you ever feel disconnected? Have you been disconnected, but then reached out and now go out with people? To the people who are connected, is it worth it? How much falsity do you have to make up to stay connected with other, if any? Does anyone not care at all whether they are connected or not?

Share your thoughts and experiences on the subject here.

 

[pastelspectre]

This is a confusing question for me owo but basically i only feel truly connected with few people. everyone else i guess i'm only half way or somewhat connected. or i feel disconnected from them entirely.

 

[Jinjer]

that's normal, it just means that your current crowd doesn't jive well with you

back in older times people just move to other places until they find the right place to settle down but i guess it'd be hard to do that now what with jobs and bills and all the modern life stuff that we have to take care of

 

[Her]

A connection on an internet forum is one thing, but a connection in real life is something else. I have no buddies to hang out with, no girls to go out with, and I wonder if I'm even missing out on something by not having these things.

Of course you are missing out. I generally don't like talking about 'human nature', but socialising is a core part of what makes us human. Getting enjoyment out of communication is vital - after all, we are social beings, honey. The feeling of (unwanted) disconnection itself is considered negative because it is the direct opposite of what we want. The degree of importance an individual places on the desire to belong/feel wanted/imprint their personality on someone else will vary, but creating options for contact is a basic human want. It is very reasonable to want such things. Desire better for yourself. Don't tell yourself otherwise, darling.

 

[XSE]

Yeah. Thanks.

Spoiler:

25 characters my ass.

 

[killer-curry]

Well, I also kinda confused about the question. But let's say this , I am quite a social person and I love to socialize, in real life and also online. Well, I also do not really care much about my friends personal things or even smiles or TV shows. But I have to find one way to communicate with them by actually finding a suitable topic to speak with , if not I would be left out alone from people.

Does it worth it, well I think it is worth to join into a social group because you will be not alone and you can share your feelings or even have fun with others. Besides, falsity is not really requiredto do that because if you being untrue, people might not trust you if they found out that you are dishonest. I might think people will care whether they are disconnect or Not because , sometimes they just need to connect with people .

 

[Del]

...I'm a pretty simple guy. I like to program. I like to play older video games, nothing past 2008 really. I watch anime here and there...
...I don't think I can connect well with others that are really in my life...
...I have no buddies to hang out with, no girls to go out with...

what is your take on this? Do you ever feel disconnected? Have you been disconnected,....

I think you're totally normal, no in fact I believe your life is balanced, much connections will troble you, you only need few trusty individuals in your life.
As for girls It is just a matter of self-confidence, eventually you'll find her, but it will take sometime /:
I am similar to you, It is true I have a lot of connections with many people, but I have less then 20 people whom I consider my best connections and spend my time with. I won't deny sometimes I feel alone when they're all busy do I wish I had more, but deep inside I know it is actually bad and tiring....

Anyway, I rather won't speak about romantic life because I got none, it not because there are no girls, in fact there are and I feel they want to, but I search for one who'll meet my expectations, and they exist, but there where I feel nervous and afraid to be rejected, self-confidence thingy.

Conclusion, we are normal and definitely awesome! We only need to realise that in order to unleash our real selves.