How to tame anger

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    Hello :mareepwave:

    So I came up with this thread to find out what are the ways to control anger and for people to share their thoughts/ideas on how to control anger

    You can also share about what did you do to control your anger when you were a kid

    As for me :

    I used to bend my eraser
     
    Anger comes due to frustration, or when someone disagrees with us or other things. Because I had faced offensive criticism from school days, hence my encounter with anger started at early age.




    I had learned to do something which I call "drinking the anger".

    Whenever I get angry, my face expression does changes, but I keep my mouth tightly shut. Then 3-4 huge breath; closing the eyes for few seconds and then a gulp. That doesn't calms me down instantly but it minimizes the rage to drastic level.


    Or even simple thing is to divert the attention, because anger brings haste, and haste makes waste !!
     
    I can't remember the last time I was genuinely angry. most of the time in situations that would make someone angry, it would instead just make me sad. But If I ever am angry I'd probably just wanna be alone and not interact with anyone.
     
    Anger in itself is not necessarily a bad thing. Many times in adulthood, anger can manifest for a variety of reasons both justified and not.
    Sometimes it is better to temper that anger and point it at the true cause of that emotion.
    And other times, a long-lasting hatred that partially stems from hatred of self or lack of resilience in the face of misfortune is better confronted and quelled.

    Only thing I know is, in order to quell my own resentment I had to look deep within the source of said resentment, properly process that emotion and then accept my lot in life.
    It was only then that I could finally let go of that resentment and temper my anger towards things that matter.

    To live with the pain of knowing that perhaps no one will ever be able to properly comprehend the way I see the world and accepting it was ultimately better in the end. I was not abandoned by society by choice but circumstances regarding lack of knowledge regarding my condition. That is this, and this is that.
     
    I get explosive. I've taken anger management and it didn't work.
    Thankfully, this doesn't help that often any more, and I know I'm more likely to get pissed off if I don't sleep enough or I'm sick enough so I just stay away from people.
     
    Being angry is completely natural and completely okay. From my (honestly quite limited) perspective I think it's a lot healthier to be able to tell people that you feel upset and work through it together, whether it's the person you're angry at, maybe another friend who can understand your situation, or a qualified specialist. Sometimes when I'm feeling stuck or angry, just telling someone how I feel is enough to realize what I should do or what I want.

    I think stepping away from the situation can be really helpful. If you're talking with someone who angers you, it can help to take a deep breath, leave the room or log off, and go do something that you enjoy that can distract you. Taking time to yourself is perfectly fine, and I've thought for a pretty long time that I'd rather remove myself from a conversation than respond to something that angers me with my own anger. I've done that a few times when I was younger and I do regret it.

    I don't think responding with hate or violence is the right answer. There's so many times I've seen "They were mean to me so they deserve me being mean to them back" on social media and I don't think that ever improves the situation. Be kind to each other, and be understanding of what may upset people.
     
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