Why did you pick you username?
Why do those particular pet peeves bother you so much?
Saying I hate long names was a joke because of my username lol, I thought you would have picked up on that one Leafy
. But to answer your question, I picked it the way I do most things - it came into my head, I thought it was hilarious and I posted it in the name change thread. I have a few new names picked out that I'm not telling anyone til the time comes.
My pet peeves are just a few in a long list of very random and very specific things that annoy me. Children I don't like because of things that are both inherent about them (obnoxiousness, stickiness, disobedience, inability to properly control emotions etc) and for what they turn adults into. I truly believe that everything changes for a person when they become a parent. The only difference is that while they and most people view this as a good thing, I think it's horrifying. Judging from my experience talking to people pre-and-post baby, I view it more as someone going into the delivery room and having everything that made them an interesting person being sucked from their mind and soul and being replaced with everything needed to make them a parent. Priorities shift, mind sets change and suddenly they're not the person you knew anymore. They're a Mummy.
I honestly can't understand why nobody else finds this so horrifying.
To answer both yours and AWSquared's question, my dislike for people describing themselves as socially awkward stems not from a dislike of social awkwardness but from a dislike of repetition. Being on PC and modding OVP/CCP/CCC for as long as I have, I've seen so many threads where person after person after person will describe themselves as socially awkward and it's gotten to the point where I see it and just think "oh shut UP!" You might notice in a thread I created recently called "the dating game" I specifically said in the OP "Without using the words 'socially awkward' because I'm just so sick of seeing it lol.
Also I feel like a person describing themselves as socially awkward - as opposed to somebody else describing them that way - suggests a self-awareness of the problem and an unwillingness to do anything about it which also bothers me.
And people going to the gym because they're too skinny I just find obnoxious. There are overweight people out there who would do anything to be skinny and speaking as somebody who used to be one of those people, it just comes off as so ungrateful. Also skinny guys are more my thing than muscular guys so I don't want them going and ruining their perfection lol.
Red's Hawt Chibi Pelippers said:
Hey Andy. Are you currently in a relationship with someone?
How is your interest in pokémon these days?
Hey Red!
No I'm not in a relationship with anyone, thanks to the world's collective decision to friendzone me. I went on four dates with a guy last January/February and when I tried to arrange a fifth I got the impression that he had lost interest. Then in April my housemate and I both decided we liked each other, then I spent two days thinking something was going to happen only to then be told that I was too good a friend to risk the relationship, which really hurt. Then just this December gone I'd been talking to this guy on Grindr (if you don't know what Grindr is, feel free to ask me or just Google it) and he was really nice, he liked me also and we had arranged to go on a date when one day I got a text from him saying "I don't want you to think I'm leading you on, you're truly an amazing person but I've just become involved with someone else. If you don't hate me, I'd love it if we could still be friends because seriously you're an amazing person."
Clearly not amazing enough.
So apparently I make an amazing friend - I really should do it for a living - but when it comes time to give me a chance at being anything more the world apparently runs screaming. So I'm off dating for now until I feel like it's worth it again. As I said in a post recently, it's just so much hassle talking to someone and being nice and making progress when there's no guarantee. If I'm gonna put in that much time and effort I want there to be some promise of fruition, so being unceremoniously shoved back to square one is kind of unacceptable to me.
Pokemon! My love for it was re-ignited by X and Y, only to be kind of set to the side again when I figured out just how easy they'd made everything. Everything from training your Pokemon to EV training your Pokemon to breeding to catching shinies has just been made that much easier and I find it a little condescending as a fan that's been playing the game from the beginning. So that was a little disappointing. I do still love Pokemon though, of course, I just haven't played it in a few weeks. I'll start playing again properly when Pokemon Bank / PokeTransfer finally come out and there's some sort of novelty back in the game.
AWsquared said:
I'm wondering how did you know you were gay? And how did you/when did you come out? Who was the first person you came out too? Just pretty much tell me your coming out story is all.
I knew I was gay from a very young age. Probably 10 or 11, I'd say. Kids are hitting puberty earlier these days, so I started noticing boys instead of girls, but the real tell was when my downstairs region got a little too excited in the boy's change rooms after PE class lol. So I was instantly fine with it, I remember the exact thought process I had was "Huh. Alright then." and then I carried on with my day. I credit
Will & Grace for that. I was - and still am - a huge fan of that show, so watching that kind of educated me and made me not care so much about being a little different. And that's all it is really, a little difference.
I also knew immediately though, that I didn't want to tell anybody. It wasn't fear that I wouldn't be accepted or that I'd be bullied, it was more because I wasn't confident in myself. I was quite overweight until I was 16 and did something about it, so until that point I kind of felt like I didn't deserve to have a sexuality at all. Like it would be very presumptuous of me to tell anybody that I was either gay or straight, because who would want me either way? I felt like saying it out loud and admitting to feeling sexual feelings either way would put me down on that level with everyone else, so I was happier to pretend to be asexual and therefore above it all. Because if I was above it all, then I wouldn't have to be honest about how I felt about myself or give anybody else the opportunity to confirm my suspicion that I was disgusting and undesirable.
Even after I lost the weight at 16/17 I didn't really want to tell anybody because losing the weight doesn't immediately rid of the 'fat' mindset. I was looking much better but still waking up every day feeling as gross as I did before I took the trouble. It wasn't until I was 21 that I told my favourite uncle and aunt and my two best friends - the people I considered "sure things" to be OK with it. But again, it wasn't fear of not being accepted that really bothered me. At this point it was just drama avoidance. I didn't want to tell Mum not because I thought she wouldn't love me anymore, but because she generally makes everything a bigger deal than it needs to be and I just couldn't be bothered dealing with that and being the center of attention while it happened. So here's how my immediate family found out.
I was 22 by this stage. I met this guy (who I now live with) on Grindr, and I discussed with him my desire to move out of home. About three weeks later he said that his housemates were moving out and he needed new housemates and asked me if I wanted to be one of them. I accepted immediately and then a few days later got up the courage to tell my mother about it. She was shocked and horrified and immediately went searching for this guy on Facebook and found out that he was gay. I was down at his house at this point discussing moving in stuff and she sent me a text saying "are you gay too?". So I had to go back home and have that really awkward conversation with her and my sister about why I didn't tell them, me just being extremely uncomfortable. Then I had to repeat this awkward as **** "we still love you" talk that I wanted nothing more to avoid the next night with my father also present.
It's not something I have any desire to repeat, but thank God I won't have to lol.
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