Marriage

mzmingle

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    I heard about some people on this forum getting married, so i've made a thread about Marriage!


    • Are you married?
    • If you are, do you like it? How long have you been married?
    • If you aren't, why? Are you too young or don't want to or something?
    • Marriage - Do you think its good? Should there be more restrictions?

    I'm not married because i'm too young. Restrictions, i think, should be lowered to sixteen if it isn't already... I'm not sure about anything else, though..
     
    People used to get married at the age of 14. Men would go get a job, women would start a family, and everyone became productive earlier.

    Now we have a problem with not only people delaying marriage more (beyond the minimum age), but people who should be adults are going through a period of extended adolescence (I say as I post on a Pokemon forum, haha).

    That all said, these days I wouldn't get married. I do want to, but it's so easy for a man's life to be ruined by divorce, that it doesn't seem like it's worth the risk.
     
    I'm wavering on moving this to OVP since I think it's pretty much a list of questions making it a sorta post-and-go kinda thread, but there's some discussion ground on the whole age and requirements thing so I'll keep it here for now and see how it goes.

    I, personally, am not interested in being married. Not gonna lie when I say that I question how committed a husband I could be; I wanna live my own life and marriage could seem a bit restricting I guess.

    Amachi said:
    People used to get married at the age of 14. Men would go get a job, women would start a family, and everyone became productive earlier.
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    Isn't it more important for someone to find a person that they really want to be with before they become productive as family? Sure these more traditional values are nice, but I could see there being huge issues of a 14 year old being encouraged to marry someone they don't know if they want. As you say yourself, "it's so easy for a man's life to be ruined by divorce". Why's it not better to take the time to know that you're ready rather than marrying as soon as possible?
     
    Razor Leaf said:
    Isn't it more important for someone to find a person that they really want to be with before they become productive as family? Sure these more traditional values are nice, but I could see there being huge issues of a 14 year old being encouraged to marry someone they don't know if they want. As you say yourself, "it's so easy for a man's life to be ruined by divorce". Why's it not better to take the time to know that you're ready rather than marrying as soon as possible?
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    Marriage was never about love until recent times. A productive marriage is one where children are produced, raised and socialised properly (which only motivates the father to work harder, as he has to provide for his family, which stimulates the economy).

    But yeah, 14 is kind of low, haha. I was mostly commenting on mzmingle's suggestion.

    People are taking more time than ever to find "the one", and divorce rates are now at 50%. In any case, it isn't about me being ready - women initiate 75% of divorces. They change their mind more often.
     
    Are you married?
    No

    If you are, do you like it? How long have you been married?
    N/A

    If you aren't, why? Are you too young or don't want to or something?
    I want to finish school and start a career first.

    Marriage - Do you think its good? Should there be more restrictions?
    Some people never get married, while some marry very young. I'm naturally against restrictions on the ability of private individuals to enter into relationships.
     
    I don't have a problem with being with one person. The thought of sharing my life with someone I love sounds really nice and if that happens for me I'd be happy. I may one day get married (or have a civil union if we're still arguing about that) for legal reasons, but I don't need a government or church to tell me I've made a commitment to someone I love.
     
    I am not married. I think you should know someone very well before making that commitment. Of course, I would like to finish school like Freaky said before considering having kids and starting a family. And like Scarf said, if domestic partner is the best I can get, ugh, I guess I will take it, but informally I would refer to my significant other as a spouse or husband.
     
    I'm not married right now. I'm a college student interested in furthering myself in life and starting a career in which I enjoy. One that's enough to stablize my life financially, independently. I'm single right now, and even though I'm the type of person who would make a commitment to marriage with somebody I love, I wouldn't want to do that until I know that later in life, I wouldn't have any problems. While I recognize and believe in the importance of finding love in life, I know that it can become a distraction and can ultimately prevent you for fulfilling your goals, reaching for your dreams, and meeting your expectations.

    I grew up in a family that got married too soon, and didn't have more than a high school education. They struggled to pay the bills, they struggled to provide, and that sometimes took a toll on the relationship that they had as a married couple. It also led to a difficult childhood. I talked to my dad about that, and while he doesn't regret it, he regrets not waiting until he furthered himself. That's what he wants for me, and that's what I want as well.

    I have no temptation to be married at the moment, much less be involved with anyone. Not until after I've done what I need to do do I think that I'd be more driven to enter that stage in my life. But before I do that, I'd like to be living on my own long enough to be independent to the point where I don't have to rely at all on other people. By that I mean that I don't want to have to ask people to help me pay the bills, or if they could give me some food because I don't have enough, or that I'm afraid of going to sleep at night because I think someone will break into my home in the middle of the night and murder me and stealing all of my valuable posessions, or anything like that. tehe!

    I don't think there should be any restrictions on how people should lead their lives.
     
    Im not married and Im not sure I'll ever get married. Its a huge commitment and I wouldnt want to go through the divorce process if it dosent work out( and many times it just dosent.) I definately dont have any plans to get married in the near future.
     
    This is looking to be a good poll, so I'll move it to OVP.
     
    I'm not married, and I suppose it's too early to find a wife as well. But I do want to get married in the future. I just don't feel like it's my time yet, also considering my life's condition.

    Generally speaking, I'm fine with marriage as it is, I never had any worries about the way it is carried out, and of course I wouldn't wish for any further limitation, on that matter.
     
    I don't see the "I want to graduate college before I get married" reasoning tbh. I understand that with children; children rely on their parents so much that it's difficult to even live outside of college with a child, you can't work while they're young, etc. But being married in college doesn't hold those kinds of demands so I don't really...get it lol.

    I do want to get married someday. I don't think I'm necessarily too young for it, I know a couple that's 23/24 and are going to get married next summer. But I don't feel ready for marriage at my current point right now. Maybe I'm not mature enough or maybe I just haven't found the right person but I know I'm not ready, lol.
     
    Toujours said:
    I don't see the "I want to graduate college before I get married" reasoning tbh.
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    Can't speak for anyone else who says this, but for me, it has a lot to do with independence. While you are somewhat independent in college, you aren't fully independent and aren't yet in the real world, where things are dramatically different. College is a lot like a shelter, but one where you're learning to be independent. Most students are still very much dependent while attending college in one way or another, whether intentionally or not. I know I am. But while I'm in college, I want to focus on what I'm there for. I want to focus on furthering myself and enjoying what college has to offer.

    After I graduate, I want to experience the real world before I settle down with someone else into it. I want to live independently, focus on me, achieve what I want to do in life, and stabilize myself before I focus on another and share incomes with them. I don't want to have to worry about all the additional things a marriage brings, when I have to worry about paying rent, and this or that while I'm still learning how to function entirely independent.
     
    • Are you married?
    • If you are, do you like it? How long have you been married?
    • If you aren't, why? Are you too young or don't want to or something?
    • Marriage - Do you think its good? Should there be more restrictions?
    Nope,i'm a single...guy lol

    because at the time being i'm not putting that thought in my mind kinda scary for me TBH beside i think i'm young for that too.

    i don't know if it good or not but it change alot about your life though.
     
    Nooooooooo way ever getting married to anyone. I'm not religious, I don't care for weddings and I don't need a ceremony to declare my love for someone. Mainly, I don't want to tie myself down to one person like that when the seemingly small amount of benefits are vastly outweighed by the negatives.
     
    I don't foresee marriage in my future. It could happen, but I'm highly doubtful. And if it did happen, I'd need to be in a pretty stable place in life before even considering the thought of marriage. But, the idea kinda terrifies me in many ways... just typing this is giving me shivers! :D
     
    Are you married?
    Nope.

    If you aren't, why? Are you too young or don't want to or something?
    Frankly I'm just too young. I need to finish college first, and maybe if I'm lucky, travel for a bit. Then I would need to find someone I would even consider being in a long term relationship with. But even then, there's only a few states that would allow me to marry. :/

    Marriage - Do you think its good? Should there be more restrictions?
    I think marriage is great if you're the type for it. But the restrictions currently imposed on it are absolutely unappealing to me.
     
    Are you married?
    Not really...Nope but it feels like it

    If you are, do you like it? How long have you been married?

    If you aren't, why? Are you too young or don't want to or something?
    I'm not married because I am a 19 year old Sophomore in college that is about to turn 20 next month; therefore I believe that I am too young and besides, me and my boyfriend have been together for 16 months which isn't that long

    Marriage - Do you think its good? Should there be more restrictions?
    It is good and I do believe there should be more restrictions such as being in a relationship with this person for at least 3 years.


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