Okay this may take a little long to explain but here goes.
It's about my dad - it's turned into a 50/50 deal between us. Half the time I'm on his good side, we go take pictures of the mountains and walk around and have intelligent conversation... and the other half he treats me just like my brother.
My brother's a straight-F student. Literally. My dad yells at him, cusses him out (sometimes) and once dumped him on the side of the street for his attitude. (My brother DOES have quite the attitude; I can see both sides.)
My dad has sooo many problems going on; stage 4 of 5 kidney disease, diabetes, financial situations, he hates his job and his boss, my brother, he's almost blind, he's overweight, trying to avoid dialysis, my mother doesn't pay child support at all (loong story)....
He needs me and I need him :/
But sometimes he relies on me a little too much. I basically take care of him all the time. My brother does NOTHING but take out the trash, if he's forced, maybe once a month. I put all the groceries away, bring him stuff, help him when he's sick, help him drive, walk with him twice a day, look up stuff for him, type for him sometimes, etc. etc. etc.
One of my friend is suggesting that the only way to get out of it is to run away. My dad verbally abuses my brother and I a lot, and the only reason I have to do all this crap for him is because I'm the only one in the family that puts up with him.
What should I do? I tried to bring up my brother helping out a bit more before and he completely went crazy, yelling at me for being so ungrateful and all...
I dunno, I'm just stuck. I love him and all but I'm getting tired of it all. Help? D8
First of all, don't run away. Believe me, I know that might seem like the best solution sometimes, but it really isn't. In fact, it can only make things worse.
I'd love to help you out, but you've basically solved the problem for yourself;
"...and the only reason I have to do all this crap for him is because I'm the only one in the family that puts up with him."
Quit it. Plain and simple. Stop doing everything for him. I know, he's sick, you feel bad for him and you love him, but that's no excuse to let him treat you like a slave. Humans can become, for lack of a better term, currupt very easily. You're letting him have power. Don't let him control you; take that power away from him.
I'm not saying that you should never do anything for him again, mind you. In fact, it's a very responsible thing you're doing, by taking care of him. When circumstances are crappy, sometimes you just need to hold on. It's good to see you're mature enough to stick with him this long.
Anyway, you need to, as I said, take control. If he's unable to even type on his own, then it's obvious to anyone that he's unfit to be "boss". Next time you feel he's taking advantage of you, try simply refusing his request. He'll eventually come to see that you're not his slave, and if he truly loves you, then he'll understand. This is a crucial point in your life. You're making new friends, learning how to behave in public, discovering your style, and more. It's greedy of your father to keep you from all this because you're too busy taking care of him.
However, I do not know your father personally, so I don't know how he'll react to any of this. If you feel uncomfortable doing it, then don't. Get CAS involved or something. They should be able to help.
Good luck!