The Post Your Problems Thread

[.Seth]

I have that lonelyness problem too. I've always felt just the way you described it, Franceschi.
I'll use what you said .freak . I've always felt like the outsider. Like no matter where I go, I never fit in.

.freak, those are some wise words.

What the crap is up with the bold? It's set to off but, my text is still bold.

 

[Gymnotide]

I hate being Chinese-American.
I hate putting up with all this stuff.

I hate the Chinese language. How am I supposed to memorize 50004830480284 different characters and then memorize the 4890503805 permutations of them? A word could mean "bridge" and if you put it with the word "banana" or will become "asteroid" or something. I made that up, so it's obviously not true.

I hate Chinese traditions and superstitions. I hate all this medicine I have to take because it's supposedly "good for me" or will make me nose-bleed less often or will lower the effects of rapid warmth and cooling. Everything is always disgustingly bitter and even if I throw up, have a nose-bleed and die, I have to finish it - else I'm "wasting money."

I hate how my family raises their children. I'm not sure if it's all Chinese people, but it seems like my entire family was raised this way and they have to raise the next generation like they were taught. To make this short, we hit our children with bamboo sticks and clothes-hangers, let them watch violent movies, with blood and gore, etc., and fill their minds with superstition about how death and misery will befall them if they don't behave and follow this stupid Chinese courtesy "law." My 5-year old cousin is by far the most violent child I have ever seen. She stuffs her shirt with handballs and pretends to be a prostitute and pretends to murder me with projectiles.

I hate going out to dinner at Chinese restaurants and being forced to eat weird stuff like pig intestines, chicken feet and gizzards. Worse yet, I hate to be forced to eat stuff and then find out later that it's some obscure part of a sheep's underside. Rice is the most boring stuff I have ever eaten - I have it every bloody day D:

I hate having to address all of my family members by a different name. First there's your mother and father, cousins and siblings are referred to differently according to their gender and age difference, then there are aunts and uncles from both sides of the family (and they're all called different things too, bet'cha didn't see that coming), and I'm supposed to remember which order they were born in so I can designate a number to them when referring to them (I HAVE LIKE 18 OF THEM). Grandparents each have a different name. Then there are close family relations. Whenever we meet with someone, I'm expected to walk up to everyone in the room, be all goody-goody, kiss their posteriors, and address each and every one of them. The problem is, I don't know /what/ to call them.

I hate Chinese radio stations - I can't understand a darn thing about it. The opera stuff is the worst - instant headaches.

I especially hate this xenophobia that my family has. We will only spend time with other Asian people and only go to Asian restaurants and Asian stores and Asian cell-phone companies and Asian bubble-tea salons and Asian cafes and Asian supermarkets, etc. My family probably hasn't realized it, but they're extremely racist towards non-Asians. There's this thing about the Cantonese language where we just /have/ to refer to people as (lit.) "monsters," etc. I swear I have heard my mother call black people "black monster people (derogatory form of person)" a thousand times this month. It's disgusting. I CAN'T TAKE IT.

The thing I hate the most is the language barrier that my mother placed upon me when I was really young. During Kindergarten to 5th grade I was sent to live in my Grandfather's house. He doesn't speak Cantonese, but the rest of my family does. I quickly picked up his language, but forgot a portion of the Cantonese I previously acquired. In 6th grade, I moved back with my parents so I began speaking Cantonese again, but basically lost all my ability to speak my grandfather's language. Now I was non-fluent in both languages and the only thing I could really speak was English. Then my mother decides to make me learn Mandarin - every Chinese person out there should be able to speak Cantonese /and/ Mandarin, my mother tells me. Not surprisingly, my parents are /horrible/ at English in general, and I, being a terrible speaker of every Asian language I know, have had a terrible time talking to them for the past 11 years of my life. I can't tell them what I like or don't like, I can't tell them how I feel or anything because the only thing I know are scraps of random languages. And Spanish. But my mother only knows enough Spanish to boss Hispanic delivery workers around. I've tried fixing this, but it's just such an awkward situation.

The only thing I've ever gotten out of my dumb situation is 1) the satisfaction that I can speak another language and have other people have no idea what I'm saying and 2) money from Chinese New Years.

Anyways, I just needed to vent. Today brought me past my limits.

 

[-HeaveN-]

I hate being Chinese-American.
I hate putting up with all this stuff.

I hate the Chinese language. How am I supposed to memorize 50004830480284 different characters and then memorize the 4890503805 permutations of them? A word could mean "bridge" and if you put it with the word "banana" or will become "asteroid" or something. I made that up, so it's obviously not true.

I hate Chinese traditions and superstitions. I hate all this medicine I have to take because it's supposedly "good for me" or will make me nose-bleed less often or will lower the effects of rapid warmth and cooling. Everything is always disgustingly bitter and even if I throw up, have a nose-bleed and die, I have to finish it - else I'm "wasting money."

I hate how my family raises their children. I'm not sure if it's all Chinese people, but it seems like my entire family was raised this way and they have to raise the next generation like they were taught. To make this short, we hit our children with bamboo sticks and clothes-hangers, let them watch violent movies, with blood and gore, etc., and fill their minds with superstition about how death and misery will befall them if they don't behave and follow this stupid Chinese courtesy "law." My 5-year old cousin is by far the most violent child I have ever seen. She stuffs her shirt with handballs and pretends to be a prostitute and pretends to murder me with projectiles.

I hate going out to dinner at Chinese restaurants and being forced to eat weird stuff like pig intestines, chicken feet and gizzards. Worse yet, I hate to be forced to eat stuff and then find out later that it's some obscure part of a sheep's underside. Rice is the most boring stuff I have ever eaten - I have it every bloody day D:

I hate having to address all of my family members by a different name. First there's your mother and father, cousins and siblings are referred to differently according to their gender and age difference, then there are aunts and uncles from both sides of the family (and they're all called different things too, bet'cha didn't see that coming), and I'm supposed to remember which order they were born in so I can designate a number to them when referring to them (I HAVE LIKE 18 OF THEM). Grandparents each have a different name. Then there are close family relations. Whenever we meet with someone, I'm expected to walk up to everyone in the room, be all goody-goody, kiss their posteriors, and address each and every one of them. The problem is, I don't know /what/ to call them.

I hate Chinese radio stations - I can't understand a darn thing about it. The opera stuff is the worst - instant headaches.

I especially hate this xenophobia that my family has. We will only spend time with other Asian people and only go to Asian restaurants and Asian stores and Asian cell-phone companies and Asian bubble-tea salons and Asian cafes and Asian supermarkets, etc. My family probably hasn't realized it, but they're extremely racist towards non-Asians. There's this thing about the Cantonese language where we just /have/ to refer to people as (lit.) "monsters," etc. I swear I have heard my mother call black people "black monster people (derogatory form of person)" a thousand times this month. It's disgusting. I CAN'T TAKE IT.

The thing I hate the most is the language barrier that my mother placed upon me when I was really young. During Kindergarten to 5th grade I was sent to live in my Grandfather's house. He doesn't speak Cantonese, but the rest of my family does. I quickly picked up his language, but forgot a portion of the Cantonese I previously acquired. In 6th grade, I moved back with my parents so I began speaking Cantonese again, but basically lost all my ability to speak my grandfather's language. Now I was non-fluent in both languages and the only thing I could really speak was English. Then my mother decides to make me learn Mandarin - every Chinese person out there should be able to speak Cantonese /and/ Mandarin, my mother tells me. Not surprisingly, my parents are /horrible/ at English in general, and I, being a terrible speaker of every Asian language I know, have had a terrible time talking to them for the past 11 years of my life. I can't tell them what I like or don't like, I can't tell them how I feel or anything because the only thing I know are scraps of random languages. And Spanish. But my mother only knows enough Spanish to boss Hispanic delivery workers around. I've tried fixing this, but it's just such an awkward situation.

The only thing I've ever gotten out of my dumb situation is 1) the satisfaction that I can speak another language and have other people have no idea what I'm saying and 2) money from Chinese New Years.

Anyways, I just needed to vent. Today brought me past my limits.

I know how you feel, Doing the things the thing you don't want to. Yeah family issues are like this, filled up with crap. I hate it myself, forced to being all nice and goody. But this what we call life,dude. But now that you've complained, you'll feel better now.
1. Chinese believe in this superstitious stuff.
2. People believe that what they've been taught from their elders is the right, you'll have to obey them because they teach you the "right way to live" >_>
3. Can't you switch over to some other food? Make up your family to eat it as well, maybe they get into liking it.
4. Don't listen to the music you don't like...
5. It's a very primitive thinking that people from other countries and continents are demons. Come on! they're just humans like we are.
6. I feel sorry for you. Learning stupid languages (>_>). It's enough punishment, being compelled to learn blah blah thing.

All I can say is, don't be so grumpy about this. Maybe your parents are over-concious about you. Don't be too harsh on yourself and others. Endure and have patience...​

 

[Gymnotide]

I know how you feel, Doing the things the thing you don't want to. Yeah family issues are like this, filled up with crap. I hate it myself, forced to being all nice and goody. But this what we call life,dude. But now that you've complained, you'll feel better now.
1. Chinese believe in this superstitious stuff.
2. People believe that what they've been taught from their elders is the right, you'll have to obey them because they teach you the "right way to live" >_>
3. Can't you switch over to some other food? Make up your family to eat it as well, maybe they get into liking it.
4. Don't listen to the music you don't like...
5. It's a very primitive thinking that people from other countries and continents are demons. Come on! they're just humans like we are.
6. I feel sorry for you. Learning stupid languages (>_>). It's enough punishment, being compelled to learn blah blah thing.

All I can say is, don't be so grumpy about this. Maybe your parents are over-concious about you. Don't be too harsh on yourself and others. Endure and have patience...​

Hehe, you overestimate my impatience.

1. Even though the doctor tells them otherwise :3
2. Not when my 5-year old cousin is holding a knife and chasing me. Haha.
3.No. They won't have that. My mother says "YOU ARE CHINESE, AND YOU WILL EAT CHINESE FOOD." Is an accurate quote.
4. I don't choose. Car rides with the family often results in such music. At home, the TV is very loud because my parents are maad deaf.
5. That's what I tell them!
6. Right.

 

[Motsuko Live]

I hate being Chinese-American.
I hate putting up with all this stuff.

I hate the Chinese language. How am I supposed to memorize 50004830480284 different characters and then memorize the 4890503805 permutations of them? A word could mean "bridge" and if you put it with the word "banana" or will become "asteroid" or something. I made that up, so it's obviously not true.

I hate Chinese traditions and superstitions. I hate all this medicine I have to take because it's supposedly "good for me" or will make me nose-bleed less often or will lower the effects of rapid warmth and cooling. Everything is always disgustingly bitter and even if I throw up, have a nose-bleed and die, I have to finish it - else I'm "wasting money."

I hate how my family raises their children. I'm not sure if it's all Chinese people, but it seems like my entire family was raised this way and they have to raise the next generation like they were taught. To make this short, we hit our children with bamboo sticks and clothes-hangers, let them watch violent movies, with blood and gore, etc., and fill their minds with superstition about how death and misery will befall them if they don't behave and follow this stupid Chinese courtesy "law." My 5-year old cousin is by far the most violent child I have ever seen. She stuffs her shirt with handballs and pretends to be a prostitute and pretends to murder me with projectiles.

I hate going out to dinner at Chinese restaurants and being forced to eat weird stuff like pig intestines, chicken feet and gizzards. Worse yet, I hate to be forced to eat stuff and then find out later that it's some obscure part of a sheep's underside. Rice is the most boring stuff I have ever eaten - I have it every bloody day D:

I hate having to address all of my family members by a different name. First there's your mother and father, cousins and siblings are referred to differently according to their gender and age difference, then there are aunts and uncles from both sides of the family (and they're all called different things too, bet'cha didn't see that coming), and I'm supposed to remember which order they were born in so I can designate a number to them when referring to them (I HAVE LIKE 18 OF THEM). Grandparents each have a different name. Then there are close family relations. Whenever we meet with someone, I'm expected to walk up to everyone in the room, be all goody-goody, kiss their posteriors, and address each and every one of them. The problem is, I don't know /what/ to call them.

I hate Chinese radio stations - I can't understand a darn thing about it. The opera stuff is the worst - instant headaches.

I especially hate this xenophobia that my family has. We will only spend time with other Asian people and only go to Asian restaurants and Asian stores and Asian cell-phone companies and Asian bubble-tea salons and Asian cafes and Asian supermarkets, etc. My family probably hasn't realized it, but they're extremely racist towards non-Asians. There's this thing about the Cantonese language where we just /have/ to refer to people as (lit.) "monsters," etc. I swear I have heard my mother call black people "black monster people (derogatory form of person)" a thousand times this month. It's disgusting. I CAN'T TAKE IT.

The thing I hate the most is the language barrier that my mother placed upon me when I was really young. During Kindergarten to 5th grade I was sent to live in my Grandfather's house. He doesn't speak Cantonese, but the rest of my family does. I quickly picked up his language, but forgot a portion of the Cantonese I previously acquired. In 6th grade, I moved back with my parents so I began speaking Cantonese again, but basically lost all my ability to speak my grandfather's language. Now I was non-fluent in both languages and the only thing I could really speak was English. Then my mother decides to make me learn Mandarin - every Chinese person out there should be able to speak Cantonese /and/ Mandarin, my mother tells me. Not surprisingly, my parents are /horrible/ at English in general, and I, being a terrible speaker of every Asian language I know, have had a terrible time talking to them for the past 11 years of my life. I can't tell them what I like or don't like, I can't tell them how I feel or anything because the only thing I know are scraps of random languages. And Spanish. But my mother only knows enough Spanish to boss Hispanic delivery workers around. I've tried fixing this, but it's just such an awkward situation.

The only thing I've ever gotten out of my dumb situation is 1) the satisfaction that I can speak another language and have other people have no idea what I'm saying and 2) money from Chinese New Years.

Anyways, I just needed to vent. Today brought me past my limits.

Woa man, that some crazy venting. :D
I kinda know where you're coming from, but not really.

You're Chinese, and (naturaly) have only been around Chinese all your life. If you live in China, then this is a good thing. If you live in America, then this might not be so good.

Even though your parents sound really, really strict, they seem smart. They love you enough to care how you present yourself infront of others, to make sure you know about your history, etc. But it also seems like they've adapted the role of parent too much. I don't think they understand that you have a mind of your own. Not saying that they treat you like a slave or anything, but they do seem to have an unnecessary amount of authority over major decisions in your life.

So, blending what I've said in those last two paragraphs together, what you need to do is sit down and have a heart to heart conversation with them. Adult like. You need to show them that you're mature enough to make some decisions on your own, and don't need adult supervision 24/7.

Here's an example of what I would be arguing for (you can steal use this if you want xD);

If you live in America (which I hope you do, 'cause then I'm not sure what to say), tell them straight up what the problem is. America is a white-man's country. Not trying to sound racist (I'm black) but it is. Same with Canada and most of the other richer countries. While being educated in Chinese culture will definitely help you in the future, you also need to know a little "white" culture (couldn't think of what to call it xD). The more you're like Americans, the less likely you're going to be a victim of racism. Sorry, but it's the truth. Because of this, you'll be able to go to a better school, find a better job, and basically live a better life. Just because your Chinese, doesn't mean you have to be only Chinese. Hell, on the outside I'm black, but I've been raised by white people my whole life! I'm more white than black.
You can be everything and anything you want to be. Don't let somthing as simple as your skin color, which wasn't even your choice, put a limitation on what you can and cannot do. Don't let your parents either.

Now, that being said, don't become a complete rebel, either. They're still your parents, and you should still show them a decent amount of respect.

Anyway, like I said; don't let your parents or your background control you. Because your Chinese, you might have to work a little harder to get where you want to be, but hey, who said life wasn't going to be hard. I've figured out that time spent feeling bad for yourself could be time spent breaking the bounderies that life's tried to give you.

Good luck, whatever you decide to do.

 

[Lash]

Yay, here I am at the Dr. Phil thread.

Yeah, since I am too busy watching episodes of Scrubs to post the entire problem in big words, I will just summarize it:

School is coming up, and the last three years have been so utterly crappy, that I have lost all faith in going. I got into a 'good' school, but I give it a month or two before this vision of perfection is shattered, leading to even more school loathing. I have to redo the ninth grade, because I failed it.

The problem is, I do not know if I am ready, and I am so prepared to drop out. Just like how school is coming up in 10 days for me, there is no getting around the fact that I am going to fail this year like I did the last two. So, maybe I need a little slap around to convince me not to drop out of the hellhole that has crushed whatever innocence I had left? I know it wouldn't be good if I did so, but I am planning on just going with my gut and accomplishing my dream that in no way involves school: starting a band.

Anyways, I stated what I probably need in the above paragraph.

Oh, and if you give me any of that "Just try" bull crap accompanied by most likely a nice comment that would get the average persons hopes up, I will not cease to snap you in two.

edit: And, I know the band thing might be a longshot, but if anyone says something like that won't happen, that it's a stupid dream to shoot for, or anything of the sort, remember this: The day I begin to care what anyone here thinks will be the day global warming is no longer a threat.

 

[Zet]

Yeah, since I am too busy watching episodes of Scrubs to post the entire problem in big words, I will just summarize it:

School is coming up, and the last three years have been so utterly crappy, that I have lost all faith in going. I got into a 'good' school, but I give it a month or two before this vision of perfection is shattered, leading to even more school loathing. I have to redo the ninth grade, because I failed it.

The problem is, I do not know if I am ready, and I am so prepared to drop out. Just like how school is coming up in 10 days for me, there is no getting around the fact that I am going to fail this year like I did the last two. So, maybe I need a little slap around to convince me not to drop out of the hellhole that has crushed whatever innocence I had left? I know it wouldn't be good if I did so, but I am planning on just going with my gut and accomplishing my dream that in no way involves school: starting a band.

Anyways, I stated what I probably need in the above paragraph.

Oh, and if you give me any of that "Just try" bull crap accompanied by most likely a nice comment that would get the average persons hopes up, I will not cease to snap you in two.

edit: And, I know the band thing might be a longshot, but if anyone says something like that won't happen, that it's a stupid dream to shoot for, or anything of the sort, remember this: The day I begin to care what anyone here thinks will be the day global warming is no longer a threat.

you're 15, you shouldn't be thinking about dropping out just yet, have you asked your parents if you could go to a different school if you don't like the one you're going to? it's best to stay in school, or else if the band thing doesn't work out you can at least have a future career to the sideline

 

[popsicles.]

Yeah, since I am too busy watching episodes of Scrubs to post the entire problem in big words, I will just summarize it:

School is coming up, and the last three years have been so utterly crappy, that I have lost all faith in going. I got into a 'good' school, but I give it a month or two before this vision of perfection is shattered, leading to even more school loathing. I have to redo the ninth grade, because I failed it.

The problem is, I do not know if I am ready, and I am so prepared to drop out. Just like how school is coming up in 10 days for me, there is no getting around the fact that I am going to fail this year like I did the last two. So, maybe I need a little slap around to convince me not to drop out of the hellhole that has crushed whatever innocence I had left? I know it wouldn't be good if I did so, but I am planning on just going with my gut and accomplishing my dream that in no way involves school: starting a band.

Anyways, I stated what I probably need in the above paragraph.

Oh, and if you give me any of that "Just try" bull crap accompanied by most likely a nice comment that would get the average persons hopes up, I will not cease to snap you in two.

edit: And, I know the band thing might be a longshot, but if anyone says something like that won't happen, that it's a stupid dream to shoot for, or anything of the sort, remember this: The day I begin to care what anyone here thinks will be the day global warming is no longer a threat.

There is one thing that I want to ask you before I'll give you an answer.
Why do you think you'll fail again this time? What holds you back of making this an awesome year :/ ?
It's not because you failed once, you're going to fail everytime, y'know.
And dude, starting a band and stuff, honestly, you will need a decent school education to get things worked out later. What if the band isn't going to make it?
Then whut? You're going to end up somewhere nasty with a low-paid job wishing that 'if only I did my best at school'. You're only 15. :/

 

[Razer302]

I have a problem and its killing me.

I broke up with my girlfriends last week and my whole family and friends hate her but I am still totally in love with her. I have no idea why I just can't get over it. It is driving me crazy. It really is ruining my life. I have no one I can talk to about it or anything. I just can't seem to move on

It ended in a complete shock to me. She has already moved on but I can't.

 

[Lash]

you're 15, you shouldn't be thinking about dropping out just yet, have you asked your parents if you could go to a different school if you don't like the one you're going to? it's best to stay in school, or else if the band thing doesn't work out you can at least have a future career to the sideline

By the time that happens, I am already snowballing down the mountain, so there usually is no use in going to new schools. Last year, it actually helped increase the problem. But, that last sentence there has light in it, I shall take it into consideration.

There is one thing that I want to ask you before I'll give you an answer.
Why do you think you'll fail again this time? What holds you back of making this an awesome year :/ ?
It's not because you failed once, you're going to fail everytime, y'know.
And dude, starting a band and stuff, honestly, you will need a decent school education to get things worked out later. What if the band isn't going to make it?
Then whut? You're going to end up somewhere nasty with a low-paid job wishing that 'if only I did my best at school'. You're only 15. :/

About me thinking why I will fail again this time is the fact that I have been failing in school since 7th grade. I nearly failed 7th grade, failed 8th grade but got a lucky slip at some school that I got kicked out of as a ninth grader, and then, obviously, I failed that grade. My mind is set to failure in school, which is what might be holding back the awesome year thing.

And, once again, the last sentence there has shed some light on me, yet another thing to take into consideration.

 

[Motsuko Live]

remember this: The day I begin to care what anyone here thinks will be the day global warming is no longer a threat.

... then why would you even ask us if you don't care what we think? o.o;;

Anyway, this is honestly one of the dumbest ideas I've ever heard. No offense or anything, but do you hear yourself talking?
First of all, you can't limit us by saying we're not allowed to say certain things, but then wanting us to help you. Starting a band is a hard thing to do. How do I know? I'm in one. We've had it for about three months now, and we're actually striving. But do you not think it was hard?

And when you say, "starting a band"... does that mean you don't have one already? So you're basically going to give up whatever shot you have at succeeding in life on a hunch that,
a) you'll be able to find people to play in your band
b) you'll be able to keep the band together, and
c) you'll actually sound good enough that people will want to pay to hear you.

Now I'm not saying that all of this is impossible, but it's definitely not as easy as you think. Can you even play an instrument? If not, then stop reading right here, turn off the computer, and study, 'cause there's no way this "band" you dream of is ever getting off the ground.
If you can, then that's one small accomplishment on the list.

Next you need to find some other talent to play in your band with you. This isn't as easy as it seems. The singer of Def Sourberry (my band) and I are best friends. We get along perfectly. However, this isn't the case 95% of the time, and you need to find someone who
a) you get along with, and
b) actually knows what they are doing.

Oh, and just to freshen your memory, here's a list of people you'll need;
A singer
A guitarist
A drummer (Chyea! I'm a drummer! :D)
A Basist (<-- ?)

Optional
Piano
Second Percussion (Don't bother)
Second Vocalist (This would be cool)

As for finding these people, good luck. I honestly have no clue how you would go about that.

Now, when and if you've gathered together a "posse" of equal or greater talent than you who are willing to play in your band, you need to learn some songs. This is where alot of bands break up. Why? Because they get so wound up in the fact that they have a band, that they start to lose sight of what's really important; playing music. They start freaking out over simple things, like their name. Though it's good to put alot of thought into your bands name, you should still be able to play some songs... and well, too.

After you've learned some songs (yes, start by learning other artists songs, then move on to making your own), you're basically ready. Start hitting up open mics, talent shows, and more. This is also a tricky part. Just because you've accomplished everything I've just listed, doesn't mean that you're instantly going to become famous. That's the tricky part of being in the music industry. You can take as many steps as you want to get there, practice as many times as you want, sound as good as you can, whatever, but it doesn't mean the people will want to listen to you. No matter how many things you've accomplished, there's still just a big a chance of failing than there was when you first started out.

Now before I conclude, let me just say that by saying all this, I'm not trying to convince you against making a band. I'm just trying to show you that it's not as easy as it seems.

Anyway, that's all I have to say.
Oh, and as for the dropping out thing... just stay in school. Seriously. I know you may not be able to pass grade nine, but don't they have programs for that? Like Silvan?

 

[popsicles.]

About me thinking why I will fail again this time is the fact that I have been failing in school since 7th grade. I nearly failed 7th grade, failed 8th grade but got a lucky slip at some school that I got kicked out of as a ninth grader, and then, obviously, I failed that grade. My mind is set to failure in school, which is what might be holding back the awesome year thing.

And, once again, the last sentence there has shed some light on me, yet another thing to take into consideration.

But why did you fail ? Is it because you don't study or is it because you enjoy annoying your teachers and/or don't listen to them? :/
If you know the reason why you failed, then it can't be so hard to work on it, isn't it?

And believe me, I have also been a bad student untill this year. Never did my homework, etc.. But this year, I decided to change everything and just to do what people expected from me. And poof (: nice grades - which does a wonderful thing for your confidence - which helps you getting new friends.
It's all attached, basically.

 

[Razer302]

I failed all my tests last year.But this year I changed all that so I could go to university. Even though I have decided I don't want to go any more and am just going to get a job.

It is possible to change so you are able to get to where you want to be. I did it but decided I didn't want to in the end.

Btw posted a problem a little while ago that everyone seems to have missed.

 

[popsicles.]

Btw posted a problem a little while ago that everyone seems to have missed.

Nah, didn't missed, just was typing out for the other problem ^^

I have a problem and its killing me.

I broke up with my girlfriends last week and my whole family and friends hate her but I am still totally in love with her. I have no idea why I just can't get over it. It is driving me crazy. It really is ruining my life. I have no one I can talk to about it or anything. I just can't seem to move on

It ended in a complete shock to me. She has already moved on but I can't.

Basic question; why did you broke up with your girlfriend in the first place?
Because, when I read your post you seem to be pretty sad about it... .__.

 

[Kura]

I have a problem.. but it's really hard to explain..

I always seem to feel that.. my future is in jeopardy..
I don't really know how to phrase my feelings about it..

But I get really worried. Every day I feel like I have to work hard or my future is going to the dogs. Other times I try to do nothing like watch episodes of something to get my mind off it. Then I feel guilty..

The thing is.. my major is an art major. I don't want to switch careers, because it's my dream job. But I feel like everything I draw recently isn't good enough. I know I compare myself to others, but I feel that I should because I need to know the level that proper artists are at.

Sometimes I will draw for 2-3 hours every day for a while to get practice to become better. Other times I don't touch a pencil for a week because I feel hopeless like all this practice isn't actually getting me anywhere.

Like today.. I was trying to draw a semi-realistic picture of a favourite character I like from a show.. and I wanted to do it to cheer me up.. but the more I kept drawing, the worse my pictures were coming out and I started feeling really frustrated about it all..


I guess I'm stuck. I dunno what to do.. Part of me feels like I just need someone to talk to about art.. or even someone to appreciate my stuff.. but recently I feel so embarrassed to show it.

And no. I'm not going to go to therapy. Do you have any idea how expensive it is? I need to save up for school. And I know what's wrong with me.

 

[Zet]

Kura you know I'm always here for you and you just need to keep trying till you see how much better you are then others, even if your work turns out bad, just try and try again, till you like it. Just don't go giving up without a fight. I'm sure you'll be drawing your best again in no time

Also even I think about my future, I still haven't decided what I want to do and if I don't do something soon it may be too late but I don't let that get the best of me. I guess it's just really a phase people go through in life thinking about their career

 

[-HeaveN-]

I have a problem and its killing me.

I broke up with my girlfriends last week and my whole family and friends hate her but I am still totally in love with her. I have no idea why I just can't get over it. It is driving me crazy. It really is ruining my life. I have no one I can talk to about it or anything. I just can't seem to move on

It ended in a complete shock to me. She has already moved on but I can't.

If you're in love with her than nothing can stop you from her and that's real love.
If she has moved on that's means she wasn't really in love with you. >_>. Sorry but that's what I think.
You swore someone that you'll be always there for him/her then why broke-up? I mean their should be a rational explanation for this.​

 

[Beginnings]

Hehe, you overestimate my impatience.

1. Even though the doctor tells them otherwise :3
2. Not when my 5-year old cousin is holding a knife and chasing me. Haha.
3.No. They won't have that. My mother says "YOU ARE CHINESE, AND YOU WILL EAT CHINESE FOOD." Is an accurate quote.
4. I don't choose. Car rides with the family often results in such music. At home, the TV is very loud because my parents are maad deaf.
5. That's what I tell them!
6. Right.

mmkay here's my take on the problem,
being from south-east asia myself (nepal)
I can understand how you feel,
don't worry you're not alone,
i've gotten all the weird foods,
the bamboo beatings
and the rice 3 times a day crap too,
here's what i do to keep sane,
just leave it be, let your parents do what they need to do,
but let them know that you're not going to put up with all of it anymore,
nobody can FORCE you to do anything, sure they might take stuff away from you but its worth it in the long run, anyways i hope i helped
best of luck my southeast asian friend,

beginnings

Okay, I've got problems, and lots of em so let me lay this on you.

1: Girl Problems [wow whatta shocker right?]
So there is this girl that I well, not like more than that, I'll put it this way:
she's all I can think about, my heart aches when I think about her and a buncha other stuff, and I've liked her for a long time and I don't know how she feels about me, so I'm kinda scared to ask her out because we're really really really good friends, but like I think she MIGHT like me, cause she's been dropping hints about it. What should I do?

2: I don't know why, but I'm really depressed.
For years now, I've just been so sad inside, like there have been bits and pieces of happiness, but overall its been bleak and very sad for me, I have attempted the s word, been to the shrinks, opened a wound or two, and all that, but I just don't know why I'm depressed.

 

[Shaydeh]

I have a problem and its killing me.

I broke up with my girlfriends last week and my whole family and friends hate her but I am still totally in love with her. I have no idea why I just can't get over it. It is driving me crazy. It really is ruining my life. I have no one I can talk to about it or anything. I just can't seem to move on

It ended in a complete shock to me. She has already moved on but I can't.

I wouldn't say you have NO ONE you can talk to about it. ¬¬ *holds up a huge banner pointing at me*

Not here though. You know where you can reach me. :3

 

[Razer302]

Begginnings

I would say leave the girl issues till you are older. But if you really like her as much as you say then sit her down and express how you feel. If she has given hints but she doesn't like you then that is harsh. Also if something does happen it could ruin your friendship forever. So think long and hard about the decision before making it.

About the depression maybe you are lacking something in your life. See if you can find something you feel you are lacking, then try and gain what you want. It could be linked to you liking this girl but not being with her. But that isn't definite.