The Post Your Problems Thread

[helix]

I have a problem- the type of the typical school drama.

I recently was admitted to a school. I'm new to being in such a social environment, but I think I've been getting by quite well. There's someone in my class who appears have been very friendly to me recently. I don't mind them at all, and in fact I've hung out with them a lot since I like their company. We get along well, even though he doesn't know English that well and sometimes doesn't understand what I'm saying.
However, because of my associations with him I've been greatly pressured by other classmates who think that we'd make a great couple. They constantly bring him up and tease me about him, and even though I don't think of him that way they think I like him. The truth is I'm interested in someone else, but I don't dare tell them that. The other day, in the middle of class, my classmates even brought up our so-called 'romance' to our homeroom teacher. I laughed at that time, but the truth is that that was an extremely embarassing occurrence. How can I deal with my classmates if they keep this up?

 

[kissing. raindrops]

Hey, uh... I have a sort of problem thing, it isn't big, but it's starting to annoy me...

Okay, so one day, I want to hug everyone and be really close, and I'm all happy, then the next day I don't want any hugs and I try to get as far away from people when I'm talking to them, I hate the crowds in the corridors and I just wanna block everyone's voices out, which I do sometimes.

I think it might be giving some of my friends trouble, 'cause they don't know if they should hug me or walk in the other direction.

I mean, it's like mood swings, but it's always the same, one day I'm happy, the next day I'm not.

Anyone know whats wrong with me, or if it's just it my head?
I just wanna know, because I know it must be annoying some of my friends, and I wanna stop, so if I know it's just in my head, or it's normal, it would help me stop I spose.

It's just your head I think. Has this been going on for a long time? Cause if not then it'll go away soon, everyone, especially girls have moodswings, like rank ones. Just act how you usually act and don't think too much of it, I feeel like being alone too at times.

 

[Kenshin5]

I have a problem- the type of the typical school drama.

I recently was admitted to a school. I'm new to being in such a social environment, but I think I've been getting by quite well. There's someone in my class who appears have been very friendly to me recently. I don't mind them at all, and in fact I've hung out with them a lot since I like their company. We get along well, even though he doesn't know English that well and sometimes doesn't understand what I'm saying.
However, because of my associations with him I've been greatly pressured by other classmates who think that we'd make a great couple. They constantly bring him up and tease me about him, and even though I don't think of him that way they think I like him. The truth is I'm interested in someone else, but I don't dare tell them that. The other day, in the middle of class, my classmates even brought up our so-called 'romance' to our homeroom teacher. I laughed at that time, but the truth is that that was an extremely embarassing occurrence. How can I deal with my classmates if they keep this up?

Just tell them who you do like then the want bug you about liking your friend or your teacher.Any ways your classmates sound pretty immature so I wouldnt worry to much about what they have to say cause its probably just ignorant bs.

 

[Anxiety.]

It's just your head I think. Has this been going on for a long time? Cause if not then it'll go away soon, everyone, especially girls have moodswings, like rank ones. Just act how you usually act and don't think too much of it, I feeel like being alone too at times.

I dunno how long it's been going on, I only noticed about a month ago.
Thanks anyway, I'll leave it, it probably is in my head, and I'll probably get over it soon aswell.

Meh, it's not much of a problem, because I think my friends are slowly getting used to it... I hope it stops though...

 

[Nick]

I have a problem- the type of the typical school drama.

I recently was admitted to a school. I'm new to being in such a social environment, but I think I've been getting by quite well. There's someone in my class who appears have been very friendly to me recently. I don't mind them at all, and in fact I've hung out with them a lot since I like their company. We get along well, even though he doesn't know English that well and sometimes doesn't understand what I'm saying.
However, because of my associations with him I've been greatly pressured by other classmates who think that we'd make a great couple. They constantly bring him up and tease me about him, and even though I don't think of him that way they think I like him. The truth is I'm interested in someone else, but I don't dare tell them that. The other day, in the middle of class, my classmates even brought up our so-called 'romance' to our homeroom teacher. I laughed at that time, but the truth is that that was an extremely embarassing occurrence. How can I deal with my classmates if they keep this up?

This happens all the time with people. But since you're new, I'm not sure if I would take this as a teasing sort of way or anything. Perhaps learning more about this boy you're friends with. Maybe something's been going around the school that would help you better understand the explication. But it seems kind of childish that this is happening to you. I truly hope that you don't go to a high school and this is happening because from what you're saying, it seems that this children are pretty immature at best. I'd just ignore them, as hard as that may be, or just go along with it if it comes to that. Usually, when you go along with a joke that's aimed at yourself, the people who were telling that get a bit uncomfortable because it looks as though the joke or whatever you want to call it didn't work out in their favor and they end up leaving or just standing there wondering why you're laughing with them.

 

[sims796]

I don't know if I should post this here, but I don't know where it goes.

I am getting a little pissy at aetheist on the internet. I am a religious person. Not extremley religious, but it's up their. Now, I am not mad at what aetheist believes in, not one bit. If they don't believe in God, that's their good. Or their problem, in my point of view, but I keep that too myself. I am not a preachy sort of person, and I have never really met a Christian who is. Sure, Jahova's Witness is annoying on those rare occasions (even though they are nice dressers), but at the very least, I never go preaching about how you must go for God. And it's not that I don't accept what aetheist believe in, its that I just don't care. I don't care what muslims believe in, I don't care what Jews believe in, I know what I believe in ,and I stick with it. I don't have a problem, but I just don't care. There fore, if any other religion says anything, I don't get all huffy, with the whole "u r stewpid, believe in MEEEEE!!!!" crap.

So that is my problem with aethiest. Not all aethiests, mind you, just the ones that I have seen lately. For example, the second somebody mentions the bible, you get several posts either

1)making fun of the bible
2)Explaining why they are wrong, when it ISN'T PROVOKED OR ASKED
3)Basically flamming

So I ask, why? I have no problem with you, so what is your problem with me?

And this thread goes both ways, so if aethest are constantly getting bombarded by christians, when it ISN'T WARRENTED, that is just as bad, and worse for me, since it makes ME look bad. And I always look good.

I say this now because I've seen a few threads, where as soon as someone mentions their fiath, we get two or three posts basically calling him stupid, as if they are a bunch of children making fun of the different person. If you don't agree with something that someone has said, don't flame, or cal them stupid. don't mock their beliefs, because it makes you look small, not the other way around. It makes you look childish.

In my dorm room, I had the bible. My roomate had a book called "The aethiest bible". We were good friends, the bastard. Always, ALWAYS stealing my Kool-Aid.

Two notible examples of aethiest I respect are El Gofe & Jaimes, just to name two. They don't get bent out of shape.

And look at Jaimes profile for an example of a christian that makes me look bad.

This thread was a huge opinions thread, asking if one has any thought on the meaning of life. One person used the bible to back up his OPINIONS. And we get this.

I fully rofled in rl when I read that. Is discussing religion against the rules? Seems like it would be.

The bible also says the sun orbits the earth, the earth is flat, and the earth has four corners. I guess if I try to go to Australia on a boat I will fall into space! D:

(Yes I am mocking and not seriously believing that will happen.)

Me being atheist, I believe there is no true, complex, "You are here to do great things!" universal meaning of life. You are not here for a reason. You create your own reason for life. My reason to life for me, to be successful. The meaning of life in a universal sense is to stay alive then die. :3

Seriously, that isn't needed. The only reason discussing religion is taboo is because BOTH SIDES are walking on eggshells.

Everybody, on both sides (I mention Aethiests more because I am christian, and that behavior upsets me more, all religions are guilty of this) needs to grow up, and learn that their are far too many people for everyone to agree. While we don't have to agree, you must at least accept the fact that others has a different opinion, and while you don't have to respect their choices, respect the fact that they have them. Too many people on teh intarwebs for this level of intolerance & immaturity.


I don't know if this belongs here, I thought it deserved it's own thread, but I'm not sure.

 

[LethalTexture]

I am an athiest myself, sims, and I agree with what you said one bit. I'm sorry that what you believe in is not my type of thing, and I stand by my reasoning for that. But I'm not going to attack you because of your beliefs; I respect them. Everybody is entitled to believe in what they want to, but my philosophy is that if you want to believe in something, believe in yourself.

If I was in your situation, what I would do iis ask the person kindly if they would mind stopping, because they are badmouthing your religion and it bothers you. If they don't listen, then either report them or ignore them.

Again, you are entitled to your beliefs even if I don't believe the same thing. I'm not selfish and I don't think it's fair to be abusive towards another's beliefs.

 

[sims796]

You don't even have to apologize for having different beliefs. That's what makes us who we are.

It's just that, the aetheist that I've seen on teh intarwebs are just hypocrites. Agian, only the few that I have seen, mind you, not as a whole. They say that they are tired of being treated bad for being aetheist, yet they are the first ones to poke fun at others. It's so annoying.

I'll do what you said, though. I shouldn't be afraid to say the word bible because some stupid children are acting up on a pogeymanz forum.

 

[Aurafire]

You don't even have to apologize for having different beliefs. That's what makes us who we are.

It's just that, the aetheist that I've seen on teh intarwebs are just hypocrites. Agian, only the few that I have seen, mind you, not as a whole. They say that they are tired of being treated bad for being aetheist, yet they are the first ones to poke fun at others. It's so annoying.

I'll do what you said, though. I shouldn't be afraid to say the word bible because some stupid children are acting up on a pogeymanz forum.

I hate that as well, sims. Forcing one's beliefs on someone else is one of the most annoying things you can do, IMO. I'm an atheist of sorts (I kind of do my own thing), but I never force my beliefs on anyone, nor should they do it to me. I don't think it's a problem that can be pinned on one specific belief system. It's really about the person. Some people feel the need to force their religion on others for whatever reason they see fit. It's a real character flaw and to me, it shows insecurity and just plain ignorance.

If someone mocks your beliefs, simply say "My beliefs are my own. I don't judge you for what you believe, so don't judge me." And if that doesn't do anything, ignore them. Arguing just makes it worse.

 

[Joey the Cockroach]

this is very tragic. i have lost 4 friends (not dead) in the space of 2 months, and i really feel downhearted and very hurt by this because these are my closest friends. i cant really do anything now, i just feel alone. all of this, is a huge misunderstanding. i have even thought of the worst: you know what that is. i lost two even when i was in the hospital.

could anybody possibly help me? this has been the WORST EVER year of my life.

 

[kissing. raindrops]

this is very tragic. i have lost 4 friends (not dead) in the space of 2 months, and i really feel downhearted and very hurt by this because these are my closest friends. i cant really do anything now, i just feel alone. all of this, is a huge misunderstanding. i have even thought of the worst: you know what that is. i lost two even when i was in the hospital.

could anybody possibly help me? this has been the WORST EVER year of my life.

Joey, I'm so sorry to hear that.. =(
Would you mind telling me how you lost those 4 friends? It would help. Please do not even think about "the worst". If you need anything or someone to talk to, I'm always here.

 

[Azzurra]

Okay, here is my problem.
My long-term girlfriend dumped me for another guy, just because he earns more money then what I do, and apparently look's a lot more handsome.

I have been delving in self pity for a while now, simply because of that, and whatever anyone does to cheer me up fails, because I can't see the meaning of being happy anymore, however, I've read that people become happy after a while, and get over it, I'm just not sure if it's going to work with me.

 

[Motsuko Live]

Not to be rude or anything, but this is so cliche.

Anyway, it's hard to cheer somebody up in situations like this, for the reason you've already provided. Don't mean to break it to ya so hard, but yeah; it does take time. Which, in my opinion, is a good thing. Anything of great value causes much grief when it's gone.

So, all you can really do is think about the good times spent, and how happy you'll be when you find somebody ten times as great. Besides, if she's willing to give up your 'long term relationship' for a bit of cash and good looks, she's really not worth having. Sorry, but that's just the way I see it. :>

 

[Anxiety.]

I don't know if I should post this here, but I don't know where it goes.

I am getting a little pissy at aetheist on the internet. I am a religious person. Not extremley religious, but it's up their. Now, I am not mad at what aetheist believes in, not one bit. If they don't believe in God, that's their good. Or their problem, in my point of view, but I keep that too myself. I am not a preachy sort of person, and I have never really met a Christian who is. Sure, Jahova's Witness is annoying on those rare occasions (even though they are nice dressers), but at the very least, I never go preaching about how you must go for God. And it's not that I don't accept what aetheist believe in, its that I just don't care. I don't care what muslims believe in, I don't care what Jews believe in, I know what I believe in ,and I stick with it. I don't have a problem, but I just don't care. There fore, if any other religion says anything, I don't get all huffy, with the whole "u r stewpid, believe in MEEEEE!!!!" crap.

So that is my problem with aethiest. Not all aethiests, mind you, just the ones that I have seen lately. For example, the second somebody mentions the bible, you get several posts either

1)making fun of the bible
2)Explaining why they are wrong, when it ISN'T PROVOKED OR ASKED
3)Basically flamming

So I ask, why? I have no problem with you, so what is your problem with me?

And this thread goes both ways, so if aethest are constantly getting bombarded by christians, when it ISN'T WARRENTED, that is just as bad, and worse for me, since it makes ME look bad. And I always look good.

I say this now because I've seen a few threads, where as soon as someone mentions their fiath, we get two or three posts basically calling him stupid, as if they are a bunch of children making fun of the different person. If you don't agree with something that someone has said, don't flame, or cal them stupid. don't mock their beliefs, because it makes you look small, not the other way around. It makes you look childish.

In my dorm room, I had the bible. My roomate had a book called "The aethiest bible". We were good friends, the bastard. Always, ALWAYS stealing my Kool-Aid.

Two notible examples of aethiest I respect are El Gofe & Jaimes, just to name two. They don't get bent out of shape.

And look at Jaimes profile for an example of a christian that makes me look bad.

This thread was a huge opinions thread, asking if one has any thought on the meaning of life. One person used the bible to back up his OPINIONS. And we get this.






Seriously, that isn't needed. The only reason discussing religion is taboo is because BOTH SIDES are walking on eggshells.

Everybody, on both sides (I mention Aethiests more because I am christian, and that behavior upsets me more, all religions are guilty of this) needs to grow up, and learn that their are far too many people for everyone to agree. While we don't have to agree, you must at least accept the fact that others has a different opinion, and while you don't have to respect their choices, respect the fact that they have them. Too many people on teh intarwebs for this level of intolerance & immaturity.


I don't know if this belongs here, I thought it deserved it's own thread, but I'm not sure.

Ah, I've had that sort of problem before!

Well, I'm agnostic, but there was this girl that I was arguing with, and all of a sudden, she seemed to be forcing me to become Christian, conversations like the following became frequent

In R.E I was stuck on something, and we were doing Christianity, now, considering she was in front of me, and she is christian, my initial reaction was ask her, considering there was nobody sitting next to me, and nobody behind me, so, she was the only person I could ask

'Hey ____ I don't get number 15, what's the answer?'
'Oh, you should be Christian then'

I was like:0____o did she just say that?
And she kept telling me the reason I got bullied for 8 years was because I wasn't Christian, and that I should find the light, so I kinda got annoyed, because I knew that being Christian wasn't the reason why I was being bullied!

Anyway, I understand what you're on about Sims, because I've been through it too! And, it annoys me when anybody forces their religion on other people, I don't mind them having religions, but sometimes I wish that they would keep it to themselves, because doing that is racist, and it pisses me off.

Oh, and, by the way, me and that girl are friends now, I dunno how, but we are! It makes me smile on the inside :D

 

[Saltare.]

Okay. Here it goes!


Alright, so there's this guy, Jarred, in my gym class. I think he's really cute but all my friends hate him. And now I have to ask him out due to a game I played on the bus.


So now I need to go to gym tomorrow, and ask him out. I hope he'll say yes, but I'm also hoping he'll say no.


I really really like him and I don't want to be alone at the dance. So I'm gonna try to encourage him to go.


But. He's also my friend too,


I found it kinda weird that whenever we played football, I was always on his team. And when he was captain, I was the first he chose. So. Idk.


PLease PLease help me.

 

[Aurafire]

Okay. Here it goes!


Alright, so there's this guy, Jarred, in my gym class. I think he's really cute but all my friends hate him. And now I have to ask him out due to a game I played on the bus.


So now I need to go to gym tomorrow, and ask him out. I hope he'll say yes, but I'm also hoping he'll say no.


I really really like him and I don't want to be alone at the dance. So I'm gonna try to encourage him to go.


But. He's also my friend too,


I found it kinda weird that whenever we played football, I was always on his team. And when he was captain, I was the first he chose. So. Idk.


PLease PLease help me.

Well it sounds like you like him quite a bit, but is there any particular reason why your friends don't? I mean, he can't be a horrible guy if you like him =/

Anyway, you should do what makes you happy. Don't hope that he won't want to go with you just because your friends don't like him. I know this sounds corny, but just do what your heart tells you to do ^_^

 

[Saltare.]

Well it sounds like you like him quite a bit, but is there any particular reason why your friends don't? I mean, he can't be a horrible guy if you like him =/

Anyway, you should do what makes you happy. Don't hope that he won't want to go with you just because your friends don't like him. I know this sounds corny, but just do what your heart tells you to do ^_^

Your right. Also about the corny thing. I think they don't like him because he's more athletic than them(and me), he's also in the lower classes while we are all in the upper classes.....hmm....what else....I can't think of anything else.

And his other friends are also my friends and one of them is in my mom's class, soooo. And, you know what. I think I'm just gonna go up to him and ask him durring gym tomorrow!

 

[Aurafire]

Your right. Also about the corny thing. I think they don't like him because he's more athletic than them(and me), he's also in the lower classes while we are all in the upper classes.....hmm....what else....I can't think of anything else.

And his other friends are also my friends and one of them is in my mom's class, soooo. And, you know what. I think I'm just gonna go up to him and ask him durring gym tomorrow!

Well that's a silly reason to not like someone....Anyway, good luck, and glad I could help! ^_^

 

[Thrace]

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I'm really sorry for the comment I made on that thread if it offended people. It was really just a spur of the moment thing and the way his post was worded (at the time) sounded sarcastic to me. I whole heartedly apologise for offending anyone.

 

[Saltare.]

Well that's a silly reason to not like someone....Anyway, good luck, and glad I could help! ^_^

It is. And hey, I don't like the boys they like cause they are pudgy, totally un-athletic, and eat a lot.

And thanks :)