The Post Your Problems Thread

[Retro Bug]

Well, my first problem is that I want to get over a person that I am, in "love" with. Or I'll just call it major crushing,and it hurts so much to know I'll never be able to go out with that person. If you're wondering, he's straight, I'm not. [:P] Anyhow I can't seem to get him out of my head/heart, I'm always thinking about him, sometimes dreaming about him, gaah.

One of my friends suggested that I tell him how I feel so that my emotions for him aren't bottled up, and keep increasing. If that made sense. >>: Anyhow he sits right next to me on A days, which would be on Tuesday, so my friend suggested I slip a note to him. Te thing is I don't know how to tell him how I feel, I'm not bluntly going to say, " I Love You", sorry can't do that. But I also want to remain "tight" with him.

How do I explain my emotions to him, without him overreacting, and causing a scene. Plus I don't want to give him the note as class is over, because then he'll [possibly] show everybody it. And I'll die. DD: Help?

 

[Percy Thrillington]

Well, my first problem is that I want to get over a person that I am, in "love" with. Or I'll just call it major crushing,and it hurts so much to know I'll never be able to go out with that person. If you're wondering, he's straight, I'm not. [:P] Anyhow I can't seem to get him out of my head/heart, I'm always thinking about him, sometimes dreaming about him, gaah.

One of my friends suggested that I tell him how I feel so that my emotions for him aren't bottled up, and keep increasing. If that made sense. >>: Anyhow he sits right next to me on A days, which would be on Tuesday, so my friend suggested I slip a note to him. Te thing is I don't know how to tell him how I feel, I'm not bluntly going to say, " I Love You", sorry can't do that. But I also want to remain "tight" with him.

How do I explain my emotions to him, without him overreacting, and causing a scene. Plus I don't want to give him the note as class is over, because then he'll [possibly] show everybody it. And I'll die. DD: Help?

Well, Symphonic., old buddy, old friend, old pal of mine, my advice is to go for it. If this kid is as nice as you say he is (he's a pretty decent guy, from what your Livejournal tells me), he's not going to freak out nor show the class the note should you pass him one. In fact, if he is the sort of person who would pass around a note filled with someone's secrets, you should forget about him. Just get him alone and tell him. You know he can't be with you and tell him that you accepted that, but you need him to know your true feelings about him.

Or you could just not say anything. Then the situation is much easier.

 

[Weatherman Kiyoshi]

Well, my first problem is that I want to get over a person that I am, in "love" with. Or I'll just call it major crushing,and it hurts so much to know I'll never be able to go out with that person. If you're wondering, he's straight, I'm not. [:P] Anyhow I can't seem to get him out of my head/heart, I'm always thinking about him, sometimes dreaming about him, gaah.

One of my friends suggested that I tell him how I feel so that my emotions for him aren't bottled up, and keep increasing. If that made sense. >>: Anyhow he sits right next to me on A days, which would be on Tuesday, so my friend suggested I slip a note to him. Te thing is I don't know how to tell him how I feel, I'm not bluntly going to say, " I Love You", sorry can't do that. But I also want to remain "tight" with him.

How do I explain my emotions to him, without him overreacting, and causing a scene. Plus I don't want to give him the note as class is over, because then he'll [possibly] show everybody it. And I'll die. DD: Help?

UGH. That must be a freaking awkward situation.
(Can't wait 'till I got through it)

well, It's worse if you just bottle it up.
Especially if its serious.
Then if you two get seperated, you'll always have thoughts of what could have happened if you said something.

You should atleast get him somewhere where on one can hear that kind of thing.

If he's enough of a friend, he'll understand.

or, hey,
what if he's questioning his sexuality?
or in the closet?
that would be something.

The point is, try.
You'll never know the answer until it's given to you.

 

[DDD'SSCEPTILE]

It's a particle accelerator? My friend is doing an experiment involving those buggers. Not the LHC.



Educate them. Tell them what it is. Provide facts as to why you think it won't end the world. Prove their eschatologic theories incorrect. If they will not see your point of view, it's not worth talking to them about it anyways.

I'm actually very, very concerned about this project. But I could not help but truly LMAO about a guy saying this, and having "The world ends with me" in his sig!

Looks like I don't have anything to worry about but you, buddy! XD

 

[Cherrim]

Help me as I am dealing with ignorant people who know nothing of the Large Hadron Collider and they think it will generate the end of the world.

Considering we're on our, what, 10th "end of the world" now, you think they'd have a clue. :/

 

[Master Electrician]

You wanna know my problem? I have about thirty-five hours of work a day and only twenty four hours to accomplish it in, presuming I forgo sleep, eating, and a social life. But I've learned to deal with this, such is life as a Theater major.

My main problem? There's a girl I like, a girl I think I'm falling for. And no, it's not what you're thinking, she actually returns my feelings. The problem is that we have close to opposing schedules, so we almost never get to see each other. It's doing no good for either of us, and I'm trying to set something up before this weekend, but thus far, no dice.

 

[SethCullen]

You wanna know my problem? I have about thirty-five hours of work a day and only twenty four hours to accomplish it in, presuming I forgo sleep, eating, and a social life. But I've learned to deal with this, such is life as a Theater major.

My main problem? There's a girl I like, a girl I think I'm falling for. And no, it's not what you're thinking, she actually returns my feelings. The problem is that we have close to opposing schedules, so we almost never get to see each other. It's doing no good for either of us, and I'm trying to set something up before this weekend, but thus far, no dice.

Hm. Thats really hard. Maybe you should get different Hours for work. Or Just get a new job. Love is something hard to find so cherish and precoious it. Really Listen to your heart.

 

[Percy Thrillington]

You wanna know my problem? I have about thirty-five hours of work a day and only twenty four hours to accomplish it in, presuming I forgo sleep, eating, and a social life. But I've learned to deal with this, such is life as a Theater major.

My main problem? There's a girl I like, a girl I think I'm falling for. And no, it's not what you're thinking, she actually returns my feelings. The problem is that we have close to opposing schedules, so we almost never get to see each other. It's doing no good for either of us, and I'm trying to set something up before this weekend, but thus far, no dice.

My serious advice for you is to become an owl. Honestly, if you wanna meet up with this girl, do so at a time you'd normally be sleeping. If you don't want to do that, either forget about her or get a new job. The first option seems much easier to me.

 

[Master Electrician]

*laughs* Thanks, both of you. But I'm already a night owl, I usually get to bed at three-ish. And I don't have a job per se, just endless hours of work in the Theater. Things should clear up some once we're done with the first show of the year, and thankfully, she's also a Theater major, so she does understand how this goes.

 

[Retro Bug]

XD I think this might be my favorite thread, ever.

Well a report from last time, I have "told" him that I have "feelings" for him, I didn't say it I wrote it down on a piece of paper. So the main problem is, how is this going to work, because first of all he won't even talk to me. Today's my birthday rightt, everybody says happy birthday to me, BUT him, now that hurt, seriously. He's completely ignoring me, and guess what tomorrow I sit right next to him, in Honors Biology, now I'm not sure what to do here. One of my pet peeves, is when people sit right by me, and ignore me, it so freaking drives me up the wall. Also I know regret telling him, all my friends were like, " I'm proud of you, at least he heard it from you," but seriously is this something to be proud of, having someone you love, completely ignore you.

Yes, one of my friends also said that it could get some getting used to, since he has probably never had another guy said, "I like you," especially since he's straight. Again, I don't feel very good for telling him, it's like I ruined his life or anything. Another thing I notice, when he does come around me, he always starts touching up on the girls, but basically this is when I am around him. I don't know about you, but I see this as a sign, " I like girls, not you," I take it that way anyhow.


I'm confused, I'm not sure what to do, I really don't want something to go "down" in Hon. Bio. =/


EDIT://Sorry Mods, posted that post in the wrong thread. :x

 

[Percy Thrillington]

Well, Symphonic., it is no surprise that this could be your favourite thread ever. I find that I enjoy reading through the advice given by many of PokéCommunity's members to be interesting and well worth the read. And asking for advice always helps as well, as it proves that the people of this thread are esoteric regarding counseling and it's not just talk.

Okay, so your friend (who's name won't be typed by me seeing as you want to be all secretive) is obviously scared. You can't blame him for that. Yes, it's your birthday, but this might also be a life-changing experience for him and you have to accept that before you try to renew your friendship. Teenagers have enough angst in their life to fill a book so when a friend just tells them something like that randomly, they tend to revert to the mental well being they had when they were five. Unless you gave your friend hints that you weren't just into girls, I' say he's going through the same thing. Give him time. He'll eventually realise that you're not a freak of nature.

 

[Tokin]

I agree, you have to empathize, by which I mean, think about what's going through his mind, he's probably giving it a lot of tohught, perhaps he is shy as well, give it time, and be patient, and don't assume the worst just yet^^

 

[Weatherman Kiyoshi]

XD I think this might be my favorite thread, ever.

Well a report from last time, I have "told" him that I have "feelings" for him, I didn't say it I wrote it down on a piece of paper. So the main problem is, how is this going to work, because first of all he won't even talk to me. Today's my birthday rightt, everybody says happy birthday to me, BUT him, now that hurt, seriously. He's completely ignoring me, and guess what tomorrow I sit right next to him, in Honors Biology, now I'm not sure what to do here. One of my pet peeves, is when people sit right by me, and ignore me, it so freaking drives me up the wall. Also I know regret telling him, all my friends were like, " I'm proud of you, at least he heard it from you," but seriously is this something to be proud of, having someone you love, completely ignore you.

Yes, one of my friends also said that it could get some getting used to, since he has probably never had another guy said, "I like you," especially since he's straight. Again, I don't feel very good for telling him, it's like I ruined his life or anything. Another thing I notice, when he does come around me, he always starts touching up on the girls, but basically this is when I am around him. I don't know about you, but I see this as a sign, " I like girls, not you," I take it that way anyhow.


I'm confused, I'm not sure what to do, I really don't want something to go "down" in Hon. Bio. =/


EDIT://Sorry Mods, posted that post in the wrong thread. :x

tell him to freakin stop >>

Even if I was completely straight, and a guy told me he had a crush on me, I would be flattered. It would make me feel like I'm good looking. I wouldn't be interested, but still.

He's acting like an ass.
he wouldn't even tell you happy birthday?
seriously.
It's not like you killed his dog.

he's killing his good friendship with you because you like him?
he could have just said:
"Hey, um... thanks and all, but, I'm not into guys."

TA FREAKING DA. MAGIC SENTENCE.

But no. He just handles it like a magikarp with down syndrome and suddenly becomes homophobic about you.

talk it over with him. eventually, he'll understand.
you just have to do something before you turn into mortal enemies.

 

[Cherrim]

XD I think this might be my favorite thread, ever.

Well a report from last time, I have "told" him that I have "feelings" for him, I didn't say it I wrote it down on a piece of paper. So the main problem is, how is this going to work, because first of all he won't even talk to me. Today's my birthday rightt, everybody says happy birthday to me, BUT him, now that hurt, seriously. He's completely ignoring me, and guess what tomorrow I sit right next to him, in Honors Biology, now I'm not sure what to do here. One of my pet peeves, is when people sit right by me, and ignore me, it so freaking drives me up the wall. Also I know regret telling him, all my friends were like, " I'm proud of you, at least he heard it from you," but seriously is this something to be proud of, having someone you love, completely ignore you.

Yes, one of my friends also said that it could get some getting used to, since he has probably never had another guy said, "I like you," especially since he's straight. Again, I don't feel very good for telling him, it's like I ruined his life or anything. Another thing I notice, when he does come around me, he always starts touching up on the girls, but basically this is when I am around him. I don't know about you, but I see this as a sign, " I like girls, not you," I take it that way anyhow.


I'm confused, I'm not sure what to do, I really don't want something to go "down" in Hon. Bio. =/


EDIT://Sorry Mods, posted that post in the wrong thread. :x

Well, if you knew he was perfectly straight going into this, you probably aren't too shocked about the fact that he's not into you, right? ._. I don't know what things are like in your area, your school, but homosexuality is still a touchy subject anywhere. If it's in a conservative area, it's touchy because no one approves. If it's in a more liberal area, it can be touchy because if someone doesn't approve, they get jumped on.

Maybe his parents raised him "against" that sort of thing, who knows. It might not be that he's homophobic, but he just doesn't know how to respond. While the above poster said he would be flattered if another guy said he liked him since it meant he was attractive, what if this guy is just thinking "oh man I'm straight and I only attract other guys? what's wrong with me?". Not to be blunt but... I've known straight people with that mindset. It takes convincing to get them out of that.

If he is avoiding you and, whenever around you, making obvious moves on girls, I think he's just nervous being around you. My suggestion would be to try to talk to him one-on-one and explain that even if he won't return the feelings, you don't want the way you two interact to be completely different. You may have to use a line like "let's forget I ever said anything" or something like that. I don't know this guy so I don't know how best to approach it, but if you want his behaviour to change, you're going to have to talk to him about it. Notes aren't going to do it in this case. You have to find a time/place that both of you would be able to talk about this or else things probably aren't going to improve and he'll have set his ways to avoid you for a long time.

 

[The Confuzzler]

oaky i got a problem

I have a crush on this girl,but they like my best friend and they both like each other. So we were writing love poems in school so we knew how to write poetry and the whole time i was thinking to send it to her - yes we were allowed to send it - but..i dont wanna get in the way between them. So someone help me please!

 

[Percy Thrillington]

oaky i got a problem

I have a crush on this girl,but they like my best friend and they both like each other. So we were writing love poems in school so we knew how to write poetry and the whole time i was thinking to send it to her - yes we were allowed to send it - but..i dont wanna get in the way between them. So someone help me please!

You're ten years old, right? If you don't want to come between them, let them get together and break up. As heartless as it sounds, relationships with people around that age tend to end as soon as they start. Once that happens, tell her your feelings. At least that way you won't look evil.

 

[.inLOVE]

HELP ME!

I went to the doctor yesterday and they told me I was anorexic. Okay, I admit I have abnormal eating habits, but I'm not that thin. I'm 18 and I weigh 100 pounds. Does that sound anorexic to you? (Tell the truth.)

 

[Guillermo]

18 and 100? That doesn't sound anorexic. I am sure you aren't anorexic to be honest. What sort of eating habits do you have? Like do you feel fat when you are skinny or do you just feel like not eating at all?

 

[.inLOVE]

After I weigh myself, I can't eat for 14 hours. And at Thanksgiving, I only eat 3 bites of Turkey and a cookie. I have lots of 11-year-old friends who weigh more than me and are skinny.

 

[Guillermo]

Hmph, well 3 bites of Turkey and a Cookie isn't good. Do you look at a mirror and see yourself to be fat and disgusting? If so then it could possibly be anorexic.