The Post Your Problems Thread

[Chibi-chan]

Ah, yet another one of the multitude of 'girl/guy' problems...
moving this over to the Problems thread. Maybe the original poster can find some solutions in past problems solved.

moved~

 

[dc_united]

Alright, I know this another teenage stereotype boy/girl problem, but it's really got me scratching my head. There's this girl I like, and during the first half of the year she really took to me(It's probably worth noting that she was also going through a rough patch with her toolbox boyfriend). I don't know if she was just fooling around, but she is one of the kindest people I've met, so fooling around seems unlikely. Anyway, she breaks up with the tool, then stops showing any romantic interest in me. This was kinda puzzling when it started- She's local aristocracy, and I'm a prole. She's republican, I'm socialist. Also, girls of her caliber don't usually go for average looking guys like me, least of all guys who are their polar opposites on most things. Can anyone help me with this?

 

[kissing. raindrops]

Alright.
So, this is most likely going to end being rather long winded, so turn back now if you don't have time, or don't intend to help, understand?

Theres this girl I've known for a few years. We've had a thing before, and we're having one again right now.
In the past, we've had problems, but that was based on my immaturity, my depression, and the fact that she was recently getting over my best friend at the time. But we really wanted this to work this time. Or, she said she did.

But, recently, she just stopped talking to me, and rejects my calls. I haven't been doing anything different. So.. what happened?
Does anyone have any idea?
I'm clueless.

So.. you did nothing different?
When have you noticed that she's started to act differently? Could it be something small that happened without you noticing it?
When do you talk to her? Are you in any classes together, etc?
To what extent has she "stopped talking to you"?

Give me a bit more information.

 

[Ashbox]

This should be the answer to everyone's girl problems

Spoiler:

Taken from Lt.Col.Ashbox's magical book of answers Volume 1

"girls = nobody understands them except other girls, guys never will, if you have a problem understanding a girl....ask another girl about it..... they have most of the answers.....in fact most of the answers in this book came from girls........ the others came from my therapist...."

 

[Wish]

So here is my problem:

I come from a grade of 23 people. It's very hard to make friends with a small number like that. I managed to have a friend who's friendship I treasure from the bottom of my heart. He's been with me for three years now and now I'm confused. I have always been at the top of the class in academics. All of a sudden, he surpasses me, which he would have never done a few years back. Now, I am wondering if I should really continue to hang out with him. I sit next to him in every class and that's when he acknowledges me. In other activities outside school, he doesn't acknowledge me and I'm usually stuck by myself. He always has his friends to back him up. Whenever I do anything to him, I get it back to me tenfold. He has other friends which he hangs out with much more often then he does me. He frequently calls me about homework and school related stuff. I have never had a sleepover or went out with my friends that was not related to school what so ever. He, on the other hand, invites all of his friends and has a good time with them all the time. This morning was the breaking point. He told my teacher that I was plagiarizing by copy and pasting my report. I was not suspended since I did the report the night before while he told the teacher the day before that. So with that, I'm starting to wonder what is more important. It's hard to make friends and I want to still be friends with him since without him, I'm a loner, but if it's hurting my physiologically and academically, why should I care? He's nice to me at times, but it's those bitter times that question whether or not keeping the only friend I have is worth all the stress I carry.

I know it's stupid and hard to understand, but when you walk in my shoes, you would realize what I go through.

Any help will be appreciated.

 

[Ashbox]

Spoiler:

So here is my problem:

I come from a grade of 23 people. It's very hard to make friends with a small number like that. I managed to have a friend who's friendship I treasure from the bottom of my heart. He's been with me for three years now and now I'm confused. I have always been at the top of the class in academics. All of a sudden, he surpasses me, which he would have never done a few years back. Now, I am wondering if I should really continue to hang out with him. I sit next to him in every class and that's when he acknowledges me. In other activities outside school, he doesn't acknowledge me and I'm usually stuck by myself. He always has his friends to back him up. Whenever I do anything to him, I get it back to me tenfold. He has other friends which he hangs out with much more often then he does me. He frequently calls me about homework and school related stuff. I have never had a sleepover or went out with my friends that was not related to school what so ever. He, on the other hand, invites all of his friends and has a good time with them all the time. This morning was the breaking point. He told my teacher that I was plagiarizing by copy and pasting my report. I was not suspended since I did the report the night before while he told the teacher the day before that. So with that, I'm starting to wonder what is more important. It's hard to make friends and I want to still be friends with him since without him, I'm a loner, but if it's hurting my physiologically and academically, why should I care? He's nice to me at times, but it's those bitter times that question whether or not keeping the only friend I have is worth all the stress I carry.

I know it's stupid and hard to understand, but when you walk in my shoes, you would realize what I go through.

Any help will be appreciated.

apperantly you have been "stepstooled"


it happens to me ALL the time

 

[Spinor]

So here is my problem:

I come from a grade of 23 people. It's very hard to make friends with a small number like that. I managed to have a friend who's friendship I treasure from the bottom of my heart. He's been with me for three years now and now I'm confused. I have always been at the top of the class in academics. All of a sudden, he surpasses me, which he would have never done a few years back. Now, I am wondering if I should really continue to hang out with him. I sit next to him in every class and that's when he acknowledges me. In other activities outside school, he doesn't acknowledge me and I'm usually stuck by myself. He always has his friends to back him up. Whenever I do anything to him, I get it back to me tenfold. He has other friends which he hangs out with much more often then he does me. He frequently calls me about homework and school related stuff. I have never had a sleepover or went out with my friends that was not related to school what so ever. He, on the other hand, invites all of his friends and has a good time with them all the time. This morning was the breaking point. He told my teacher that I was plagiarizing by copy and pasting my report. I was not suspended since I did the report the night before while he told the teacher the day before that. So with that, I'm starting to wonder what is more important. It's hard to make friends and I want to still be friends with him since without him, I'm a loner, but if it's hurting my physiologically and academically, why should I care? He's nice to me at times, but it's those bitter times that question whether or not keeping the only friend I have is worth all the stress I carry.

I know it's stupid and hard to understand, but when you walk in my shoes, you would realize what I go through.

Any help will be appreciated.

It's just my opinion. I don't know about you but:

No friend, close or new, is worth sacrificing education for

Talk to your counselor. I believe you can word it correctly. I'm not sure about you, but it's just not worth having friends if you are gonna get distracted from education. I've never had friends in school since 3rd grade. I'm actually doing pretty good.

There are only a handful of people that can handle being loners, so I recommend you talk to a counselor before taking that last resort.

 

[Zet]

So here is my problem:

I come from a grade of 23 people. It's very hard to make friends with a small number like that. I managed to have a friend who's friendship I treasure from the bottom of my heart. He's been with me for three years now and now I'm confused. I have always been at the top of the class in academics. All of a sudden, he surpasses me, which he would have never done a few years back. Now, I am wondering if I should really continue to hang out with him. I sit next to him in every class and that's when he acknowledges me. In other activities outside school, he doesn't acknowledge me and I'm usually stuck by myself. He always has his friends to back him up. Whenever I do anything to him, I get it back to me tenfold. He has other friends which he hangs out with much more often then he does me. He frequently calls me about homework and school related stuff. I have never had a sleepover or went out with my friends that was not related to school what so ever. He, on the other hand, invites all of his friends and has a good time with them all the time. This morning was the breaking point. He told my teacher that I was plagiarizing by copy and pasting my report. I was not suspended since I did the report the night before while he told the teacher the day before that. So with that, I'm starting to wonder what is more important. It's hard to make friends and I want to still be friends with him since without him, I'm a loner, but if it's hurting my physiologically and academically, why should I care? He's nice to me at times, but it's those bitter times that question whether or not keeping the only friend I have is worth all the stress I carry.

I know it's stupid and hard to understand, but when you walk in my shoes, you would realize what I go through.

Any help will be appreciated.

I suggest try talking to other people and make new friends to sit with, it may be hard but giving him up is worth it even if you end up alone(you'll probably get even better at the subjects you're learning)

 

[xxlucifera]

So.. you did nothing different?
When have you noticed that she's started to act differently? Could it be something small that happened without you noticing it?
When do you talk to her? Are you in any classes together, etc?
To what extent has she "stopped talking to you"?

Give me a bit more information.

No, i only get to talk to her on the phone/texting usually.
She lives twenty or so minutes away.

And we used tot ext all day and talk before we went to bed or throughout the day.

But she just stopped replying and never returned my calls.

 

[Zet]

maybe her phone was stolen or she's out of credit

 

[xxlucifera]

maybe her phone was stolen or she's out of credit

Except I had our mutual friend text her.
She talked to him.

 

[Ashbox]

This should be the answer to everyone's girl problems

Spoiler:

Taken from Lt.Col.Ashbox's magical book of answers Volume 1

"girls = nobody understands them except other girls, guys never will, if you have a problem understanding a girl....ask another girl about it..... they have most of the answers.....in fact most of the answers in this book came from girls........ the others came from my therapist...."

hope this helps.............................

 

[xxlucifera]

hope this helps.............................

Did you just quote yourself?
Really?
xD

And yeah, that helps.

 

[Ashbox]

Did you just quote yourself?
Really?
xD

And yeah, that helps.

yes i quoted myself XD ............

 

[kissing. raindrops]

No, i only get to talk to her on the phone/texting usually.
She lives twenty or so minutes away.

And we used tot ext all day and talk before we went to bed or throughout the day.

But she just stopped replying and never returned my calls.

Actually.. I'm doing the same thing to this guy. I've only stopped answering his texts (2 of them he sent) just today. And the reason is cause I don't want to be in a relationship with him. I mean I like him quite a bit, but it's way more complicated (trust issues and he lives 2 hours away so..) than that, not worth explaining. My answer for your problem is kinda harsh, but I don't think she likes you anymore. Ask her about it.

 

[.inLOVE]

I have done that too, Yukio. And it's just the way us girls are. So that means that she pretty much has decided she only wants to be friends. From what I can interpret :(

 

[Sonido]

I have a girl who I went out with but she dumped me because, apparently, I was cheating on her but now she found out I wasn't. I got over her and now I like this other girl, she's really beautiful and she's got a great personality, and I probably don't have a chance but I'm still going to ask her. Now, the first girl likes me again and keeps flirting with me and asking me to go out, which is ruining it for me and the girl I like because she thinks I'm interested in the first one. I've told the first one, as nicely as I can, that I just want to be friends but she doesn't want to listen. I really like the other girl, can you guys help?

 

[Ashbox]

if one likes you......and you like another but you don't have a chance........
go for the one who likes you.....because then you would hurt her and prove you were cheating...... and that's the last thing you need.......

 

[.inLOVE]

I have a girl who I went out with but she dumped me because, apparently, I was cheating on her but now she found out I wasn't. I got over her and now I like this other girl, she's really beautiful and she's got a great personality, and I probably don't have a chance but I'm still going to ask her. Now, the first girl likes me again and keeps flirting with me and asking me to go out, which is ruining it for me and the girl I like because she thinks I'm interested in the first one. I've told the first one, as nicely as I can, that I just want to be friends but she doesn't want to listen. I really like the other girl, can you guys help?

Maybe you should give the first girl a chance again. But she WAS pretty rude to you...

And the girl you like now? Just tell her you don't like the other. Take her out on a date, then ask her to be your girlfriend if it goes well :D

 

[Ashbox]

Maybe you should give the first girl a chance again. But she WAS pretty rude to you...

And the girl you like now? Just tell her you don't like the other. Take her out on a date, then ask her to be your girlfriend if it goes well :D

what......are you nuts......thats a huge slap in the face for the first one =O