To Love, or be Loved?

To love, or be loved?

  • To be with someone who loves me even though I dont' love him/her

    Votes: 16 37.2%

  • To be with someone who I love even if I won't be loved in return

    Votes: 27 62.8%
  • Total voters
    43
Pft. Be loved and not love. I'm naturally a very touchy person, so at least this supposed love-laden girl would get hugs and whatnot. Liking without returned feelings can be extremely rough.

I know that the girl I like (I say like, because we both are skeptical to believe love is possible at younger ages) is the most amazing person I know, and if she didn't like me back I might go crazy o.o
 
I picked the first option simply because it was the most reasonable.

To love and not be loved in return is absolutely horrible. To go on everyday and give out my heart to a person who doesn't do the same seems too hurtful for words.

Now, To be loved and not love that person is actually ok, and probably more likely in the real world. If I came home to someone that truly loved me, then I would be truly happy. I could even grow to love the person. Plus its a much better option than just to not be loved in return.
 
I'm sorry to say I've experienced both in my life, I can say from that experience it's better to not love and be loved than vice versa.....

To not love and be loved is kind of....empty. You're not really happy or sad, almost like a zombie, so to speak....

However, to love and be unloved is worse.... it's not the emptiness from before, it's nothing but sadness and gloom, all around... you wonder why you even get up in the morning. You wish you wouldn't. You may get a spark of happiness here and there, but only rarely, and I mean very rarely.... Unrequited love is the worst kind there is.... >_>

However, now I love and love back, and I can truly say I've never been happier... ^^
 
Dylan said:
I'm sorry to say I've experienced both in my life, I can say from that experience it's better to not love and be loved than vice versa.....

To not love and be loved is kind of....empty. You're not really happy or sad, almost like a zombie, so to speak....

However, to love and be unloved is worse.... it's not the emptiness from before, it's nothing but sadness and gloom, all around... you wonder why you even get up in the morning. You wish you wouldn't. You may get a spark of happiness here and there, but only rarely, and I mean very rarely.... Unrequited love is the worst kind there is.... >_>

However, now I love and love back, and I can truly say I've never been happier... ^^
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I <3 those words~

Its impossible to love someone that doesnt love you back or even be loved by some you cant stand or something. It's better that the person shares the same feelings as you because it makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside and you know they will be with you forever.

As Dylan said, I've never been happier than what I am and I'll be with him forever and for always. <3
 
I'm in the first option's position all the time,so I'd choose what I'm used to,I guess....
 
I'd prefer to be with someone I love. However, that person would have to want to be loved. XD

Anyway, I know I'd feel less comfortable to be with a person I love, but I'd also feel better. If I was with someone who loved me but that would get no love, I'd feel pretty bad.
 
I'm probably a girl who would choose to be in love with someone even if I don't get love back. I wouldn't want to be with someone I don't like even if he loves me.
 
To be loved is nothing; it is to be preferred that I desire. -- Gide.

I'd rather be the unrequited lover, as I'd hate for anyone to feel bad over me. O_o
 
I like the reciprocal love, but if I only can choose those, then I choose to love o!o
 
It's kinda selfish but I'd rather someone love me rather than me loving someone else and them not returning the favour (I've already tried that and it hurts >.<). Plus the feeling of being acknowledged and loved for who you are is a great feeling, selfish maybe, but great nontheless. I'm actually quite surprised with the results myself, thought there'd be more of us neglectors ^^".
 
Kylie-chan said:
To be loved is nothing; it is to be preferred that I desire. -- Gide.

I'd rather be the unrequited lover, as I'd hate for anyone to feel bad over me. O_o
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Really? o_o I find it extremely easy to deal with those whom love you, whether I love them back or not. But when I love I become in danger of making many blind or wrong comments. =D
 
I would rather see if somebody loved me and I wouldn't love him in return than vice versa.. I can't help myself.. I am a very touchy person when it comes to realtionships (in terms of partnership as well as friendship). I cannot stand being rejected, neglected or generally ignored by other ppl. This is the thing that get's me down the most. That is also why I have phases from time to time when I question myself: ˝Do my friends and family actually love me?˝ and so I'm always very happy when I meet yet another person who loves me in whatever way. Maybe I am spoiled.. but due to family problems that I have been experiencing through my life.. it is very hard for me to love somebody and recieve nothing in return. Even if I do love someone it is hard for me to just show my feelings that is why I am a very closed-up person.


So basically I choose #1. The only thing that would bother me if I was in such a situation, so if a guy loved and I wouldn't return the favor, is that I would always worry for the person. I mean I would try to make him as happy as possible.. but there's always something missing.. not enough. I would esp feel bad if I was to date somebody knowing that there is also this other person who loves me.. Ah well life can suck sometimes.
 
~Sceptile~ said:
I am loved but i not love that person!
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All your love are belong to us.

I suppose they all have their disadvantages...

Loving someone [if they don't love you back] could potentially be very frustrating...

Someone loving you can make you feel bad, since you may feel you're not good enough, and/or that they should love someone better than you.

Not loving anyone, or no one loving you, can make you feel lonely.

And being truly in love with someone...you could become paranoid of losing them.

NEGATIVE BE THIS POST.
 
To love or be loved; it's hard to choose. To be completely devoted to someone and doing whatever you can to make that person happy, or to be hopelessly loved by someone without conveying the same feeling in return; it's a bleak situation. I've always wanted to be truly loved by someone. I can honestly say I've experienced true love before, or at least I feel I have, though my life experiences have made me realise something. I've learned it's far better to give than to receive. So, while it would be more painful for me, I would much rather be the one to love and be unloved. Assuming I would also be aware that this other person did not love me back, I would do my best not to burden them with the guilt of leaving me loveless.

Well, that's about all I'd like to say on this topic, though I'm sure I could have said more.

~Kelsey
 
I'm not sure its quite confusion so I pick the second one because it made more sense to me

:t354:~*!*~Queen Boo~*!*~
 
That's a really difficult question. I think I'd take the first option, provided that I have a certain affection for the other even if I can't return the love they have for me. I would really get very depressed in the other situation.
 
I'd love and not be loved. I'm one of those people who likes giving things even if I don't recieve anything back. So, same thing applies for this topic. Plus, I always feel bad when I cannot return someone elses feelings when they like me.

So yes, to love.
 
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