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    When it comes to relationships, do you have high standards?

    When it comes to friendships, the person simply has to be someone I can see myself being friends with for a while, someone who is 'cool' in my eyes. Nothing too particular about that, I just want a good friend.
    As for boyfriends, my main rule is that you have to be over 5'9, lol. I refuse to date short people, sorry.
     
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    As for boyfriends, my main rule is that you have to be over 5'9, lol. I refuse to date short people, sorry.
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    I remember that from irc lol

    My personal relationship standards are nullified, actually. If you turn my switch, that's it. And I have no freaking clue how it turns. As for friendship, I just feel better with people who are more composed than all-out independent and such. Being understanding is a bonus, really.
     
    I'd say my standards have kinda gotten higher as I've gotten older and dated people and figured out what I liked/didn't like. As of right now, they have to be taller than me, older than me (or at least, right at my age, but the thought of anyone younger than 19 weirds me out rn), be a ~sweetie~, don't make me feel totally awkward, we have to be able to have good conversations, and...that's kinda it. I'm also kinda picky with looks. I used to not be but ;< Usually if I like someone's personality though, I think they're good looking anyway.
     
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    I have no standards when it comes to friends. As long as I get on with the person everything's great. I honestly don't know what standards you could set with friends :x

    As for relationships I have like no standards, I have like no self esteem so yea. xD Only thing that I might say no to is if the other person is physically younger than me, like if they look younger and stuff. But that'll probably change when as I get older myself.
     
    I enjoy friendships with anyone who doesn't offend my sense of morality or smell. I don't think a person has to be something particular in order to bring something to my life or be worthwhile company. I enjoy what comes my way, because I only expect to have a meager 70-90 years to experience this world and the people in it, and while I've had bad experiences I've yet to have any I'd erase from my life.

    As for relationships? I dunno. It's not really about standards, although if someone really rubs me the wrong way they're definitely out. When it comes to who I date, I often remember a phrase that I think was, "Don't marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can't live without."

    I mean, dating and marriage are totally different, but the concept still applies to serious relationships. I want something totally out of the ballpark of the very idea of "good enough" or "not good enough."

    I dated on and off for several months after leaving my previous partner, but I only found people I could live with. I was constantly disappointed though not displeased and my standards only ever met. Eventually I was looking for him minus his flaws, until I realized that they wouldn't do if they didn't have those, too - I simply wanted a him that hadn't hurt me.

    Is he the type to meet or exceed standards? Hell, no. I have no illusions about this person being in any sense of the word an ideal human being or the type of person I would have imagined myself (having once) found happiness with, but if home is where the heart is, then home is in a crappy little apartment with a grumpy anti-intellectual intellectual.

    Sapsapsap. I forget where I was going.
     
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    Friends: I don't have any standards for them, as long as they have common interests with me.

    Girlfriends: Same as above. That and they have to look pretty.
     
    I really hate to say it, but I'm really... somewhat picky when it comes to who I would be exclusive with. I mean, it's not like the "look" I go for isn't everywhere, but my own low self-esteem and the fact that I don't know their, um, sexual persuasion keeps me from asking out potential candidates for the most part. ]: Buuuut beyond what my "type" is, I'm typically pretty easy-going in terms of whom I'll at least go out on a date with. As long as you don't make me too nervous, you're well-groomed, seem sweet, and at least somewhat take care of your body... chances are good I'll find you cute. :]

    As for friends... if I can talk to you, you're a good friend to me. :D
     
    I guess my opinion would be when you are looking for someone, it doesn't happen, and when you aren't it does. Sometimes you fall for someone who maybe doesn't look like how you thought they would, or doesn't do something you wanted them to, or make a certain amount of money. Love is a natural thing. When you have too many expectations, you'll get too caught up in it and miss love when it's looking you in the eye. I've been in the same relationship for 7 years now, so maybe I don't know, but I do know that being best friends is the key to a successful relationship!
     
    People tell me I have really high standards... I don't see it though. I'm usually into anyone who I find attractive and isn't a crazy psycho or dumb b*tch. :P
     
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