Yeah. I agree with you there buddy. I too will value something that I have earned by doing hard work for it. I believe that the happiness, that you recieve after you've successfully accomplished a really hard task by working hard for it, is....a feeling that is incomparable to any other feeling.. It feels so fantastic. Its like we experience a sense of pride in ourself or something. :PAnything that I work hard to achieve, especially through a significant amount of adversity, will be more valuable to me than something that was just given to me.
I'm currently struggling to pay my way through school, and I think that when I'm done, I'll appreciate my education that much more than the lucky people who won grants or had parents wealthy enough to afford to pay it themselves. :D
If we agree that one gets their family for free, then I'd go with family.