eh no worries, I just wanted to say something because you obviously put a lot of effort into that post and then received no responses.
judging from your latest post also, unfortunately seems like she's not into it. you said you'd already started getting over her, it's not easy, but at least you've started taking those steps.
I was going to suggest that you should basically set some goals. Not "do this and that on this date right now" but definitely make it known that things need to change otherwise the relationship can go nowhere. Encourage her to talk about her needs also, of course, but if she isn't open to discussing and accepting what you need, then it speaks for itself.
She's been through a hard time, but considering none of it is the fault of your own it's not really a valid reason to be distancing herself from you without any sort of explanation. Seems like she's just using it to hide how she's really feeling.