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Old July 23rd, 2013 (11:35 PM).
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    As much as I think that genders don't matter, I can say that I have many female friends who are online. They seem to be super nice, that they can accept anyone's request. But in my case, I befriend them because of their interests.

    I have a few guy and girl friends IRL. Unfortunately, they come and go really quickly than online friends.

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    Old July 24th, 2013 (12:12 AM).
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      Most of my friends irl are guys while online it is mostly women. I do not mind having different kinds of friends just so long as they are not complete asses now.
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      Old July 24th, 2013 (5:54 AM).
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        it is fine to have other friends that are other genders. i mean why wouldnt it?
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        Old July 24th, 2013 (8:04 AM).
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          Offline I have a lot more male friends than female. Online it's much more balanced. I'm probably just socially awkward around girls IRL or something haha, but anyway there's nothing wrong with having friends of a different sex than you. Why would there be a problem? >_<
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          Old July 24th, 2013 (8:24 AM).
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          Originally Posted by WillPowerPedro View Post
          it is fine to have other friends that are other genders. i mean why wouldnt it?
          Maybe because there could always be some underlying sexual attraction that makes things awkward or something. I don't really feel that towards guys I've placed in the friend zone though. BAHAHA.
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          Old July 24th, 2013 (11:25 AM).
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          Well, Red's dropped the friendzone bomb haha...

          Okay, on topic. Quite frankly we are, in general, psychologically predisposed to go through weird phases in our lives where we get along better with our own or with mixed genders (I'll add a citation later if I can be bothered going through my Child Development text book). Basically when we are really young, we don't care, then in our primary/elementary school years we tend to gravitate more to our own gender and then once we hit adolescence we tend to have more diverse groups again as far as gender is concerned.

          Do I believe that this is a steadfast rule? Not really, I view it more as a developmental trend personally.

          Honestly though, I have almost always gotten along better with girls/women than with males. Whether it is children I have worked with, elderly people I've had a chat with or within my social circle I have always gelled better with the female species females. I don't think there is any real reason for this, I think it is just how life as turned out. I tend to care about the personality of the person a lot more than their gender - or anything else really.

          As for the whole "sexual undertones" thing - that can be present even in social groups where most people are of the same gender because homosexuality exists.

          In short, I really don't think it matters in the slightest and I wrote this response way too much like I would in debates instead of a chit-chat one.
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          Old July 27th, 2013 (11:26 PM).
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          My closest IRL friend is a girl. The closest person to being a friend who also isn't a friend is also a girl. But when your sample size is this small I don't think you can say much ^^
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          Old July 27th, 2013 (11:46 PM).
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            where is this thread even going. i think everybody has friends of the opposite sex.
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            Old July 28th, 2013 (5:08 AM).
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              i really don't see the issue with being friends with people of both sexes. although in my high school days, since i went to an all-girls school, i had mostly female friends, which was quite understandable.
              personally, i would be friends with you if we share the same interests and ideologies, or if we can both have random discussions and intellectual discourses. the sex matters not.

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              Old July 28th, 2013 (3:19 PM).
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              i have some male friends and they're just people don't control their feelings..they can be friends but to some limit if it's passed i say they can't.

              besides..i like my girl least we can talk about our silly girly stuff without ze silly guys nagging ;p teehee
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              Old July 28th, 2013 (7:08 PM).
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                Gender is irrelevant to me when I make friends. If you're nice to me, I'll probably like you. One of my best friends in real life is a guy and I love him to bits, but it's purely platonic :)

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                Old July 28th, 2013 (7:47 PM).
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                  Taking the title of the thread as you meant it and not as it would literally mean, I don't care what gender my friends are. Friendship is something where trivial things like that really don't matter.
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                  Old July 29th, 2013 (3:55 AM).
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                    I get a long with females just as well as males, I don't care which one they are. And like Sweets Witch said, I've got gay friends, different religion (I'm Christian and my bestfriend thinks God is the dumbest thing he's heard of, we both respect each others beliefs never the less), a bit socially awkward or even have some sort of disability or a bit strange. It's nice and interesting all the people you can meet and get a long with.

                    But I will admit, I did become best friends with a girl, who I then loved for a long time, and still do.. She liked me back, and we eventually dated. And it was great, a girlfriend who was my best friend, and it was awesome... But then she ended it, and now shutting me out of her life and now is 'best friends' with another guy (You can already see what's gonna happen), and it hurts like hell, losing not only someone I loved romantically, but with such great friend ship and trust, and like family..

                    But I guess it's life, and you will lose friendships, and form knew ones. I just wish I didn't have to lose that one..
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                    Old July 29th, 2013 (1:50 PM).
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                    I have girl friends. I have guy friends. Why do people care?

                    It's completely normal and everyone should just see it that way.
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                    Old August 3rd, 2013 (12:49 PM).
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                      To be honest, I think I've got an equal amount of girl and guy friends both online and offline. On both those platforms, I've got a group of like 5 guys offline and 3 online who I'd say are my closest mates overall, but I've got a whole plethora of other friends also. Problem being the girl I was closest friends with got a boyfriend and he's made it very clear he doesn't want me talking to her...xD
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                      Old August 5th, 2013 (1:13 PM).
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                      Generally I tend to only hang around with girls and I'd say the vast majority of my friends are female, but that doesn't mean I don't have guy friends.
                      I have no problem having friends of a different gender that I'm not the lover of, I don't see why that would be an issue with anyone? I'm just friends with who I'm friends with~
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                      Old August 5th, 2013 (5:15 PM).
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                      Most of my friends are guys and I'm about as promiscuous as a potato so I don't really care.
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                      Old August 5th, 2013 (5:47 PM).
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                      I see no problem with having friends of the opposite gender as you. Neither is it wrong to be friends with people who identify as intersex or genderless, or people born male but identify as female, or both genders or people who are gay. As a kid, I had more female friends than male friends. The number of male and female friends I have are a bit more equal today, but I still have a lot of female friends. I guess I'm just more comfortable around females than males at times. I can enjoy being around males, though. I just pick friends for the good qualities I see in them and if I like them as a person.
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                      Old August 5th, 2013 (5:56 PM).
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                      I have no problem with that. Male or female, we're all human. We are allowed to be friends with anyone we want to. I'm a female, and I have a few guy friends who I hang out with regularly. Online, I have even more guy friends. They're all really good people. =)
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                      Old August 5th, 2013 (10:22 PM).
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                      Because the school I was at was very male-dominant, I mostly had boys than girls when it came to friends. However I lost all contact with them once I graduated in 2010. But I don't think it's bad to have friends who are the opposite gender as yourself.
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                      Old August 5th, 2013 (10:30 PM).
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                      I generally play around girls nowadays but when I was younger, I used to hang around the boys a lot and I find no issue with it. I still get along easier with them actually since my personality is more like there's, but I generally hang around a mixture of both. I don't care what gender someone's friends are and I think multi-gender friends are awesome. Online I definitely know a lot more guys than girls but I'm not bothered by that at all. (:
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                      Old August 10th, 2013 (5:24 AM). Edited August 10th, 2013 by zakisrage.
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                        Most of my friends are male, but I do have a few female friends. My best female friend is my girlfriend, but I'm also friends with her female friends. Even then, most of my female friends are at least slightly tomboyish. It's hard for me to be friends with a complete girly girl who loves fashion and hates video games. I do follow a little fashion myself, but I couldn't care less about what's on Australia's Next Top Model (our version of America's Next Top Model). Though I do get along with my older sister, who loves fashion and rarely plays video games (she likes them, but she's very bad at them).

                        My friends tend to be quite diverse. Only a few of my closest friends are Muslim (mainly because there aren't as many Muslims in Newcastle as in Sydney, but in Sydney most of my friends were Muslim). Most of them are actually Catholic, strangely enough. I'm even friends with a Jewish girl and an atheist girl. I'm friends with many autistic people like myself too.
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                        Old August 10th, 2013 (11:11 AM).
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                        I'm fine with different-sex friends.

                        As for myself, I'd say I have a healthy balance of girl and guy friends. :-)
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                        Old August 12th, 2013 (1:23 AM).
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                          All of my super close friends are guys, but I have plenty of friends outside of that circle who are females. Totally fine to me.

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                          Old August 12th, 2013 (2:11 AM).
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                            To me, gender isn't really a factor when I make friends. I try to judge people based on their actions and personality, not their gender, sexual preference, style, race, etc.

                            That being said, most of my friends are female. I have like two male friends that I'm close to, and I've known one of them since I was 5. The rest of my close friends are all female. I just find it easier to talk to girls than guys. Guys can't take anything seriously and treat everything like a game, which bugs me a bit. Obviously I talk to my bros about sports, video games, girls, etc., but when it comes to anything else, it's easier to talk to my girl friends (not girlfriends, just thought I should clarify :P). They tend to be a lot more understanding and a lot less condescending.

                            I always get the "When are you and so and so going to start dating?" or "Are you two together?" question whenever I'm seen spending a lot of time with one of my female friends. I don't see why it's so crazy that a guy and a girl can be friends with no intimate feelings, but apparently that's not very logical to some people.

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