Are opposites a good thing..

Frokage

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    ..in a relationship? ..in friendship? in your family? ..anywhere really?

    Let me know what you think! Lets just say a man who's rather talkative and likes to boast a lot would meet a shy girl. Do you think it'd work out?
    Ofcourse there are way more opposite characteristics than that! It was only a mere given example. :)

    So tell me PC, how you think or feel about two people with completely opposite characters in a relationship. Is it a good thing? Do you think they'll adapt over time? Or is it something you think that's just not gonna work?

    Not only in in a relationship, but everywhere around us we see different people. They behave differently, think differently.. and yet, we befriend them.
    As for myself, my best friend's character is nearly the same as mine. I think that's what makes us best friends. But what if his character would've been totally opposite of my own? Would we still get along like this? surely that also depends on your own character, but still.

    Opposite characters even closer to you are the worst of all, in my opinion. My very own mother, for example.. she's always in a hurry, taking 'stressing out' to a whole new level, and tends to worry about even the smallest of things. None of which I also do. We get on each other's toes more and more recently, and that may just be why.

    Your turn to discuss, PC! What's your opinion on this matter?
     
    I think opposites can be a good thing, but it is also good to have things in common in both a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship and a friendship relationship. The last long lasting girlfriend I had we were similar but also very opposite. We both enjoyed many of the same shows, movies and were both considered smart. However, we were different in a plethora of ways as well. She was obsessed with musicals, loved slow dancing; I did not. Yes, I do believe in the saying that opposites do attract, but not complete opposites. I think a good example, would be the jock and the gothic girl from The Breakfast club. xp

    Your family is definitely going to be different! If you had all the family that had the same ideas an interests then reunions would be very boring. My family has so many different interest, my dad and my uncle fight all the time. however we share some of the same interests: we all love barbecue and we all love basketball. We fight, but in the end we all love an care for each other. That's just how families and relationships work imo.
     
    My opinion is that the whole "opposites attract" cliche isn't entirely correct. I think that people should have complementary personalities in order to get along with each other. An example would be two friends: one who is talkative and one who is less talkative. If the two friends share common interests, then the less talkative friend wouldn't mind the more talkative friend rambling on about said interest, since both friends are interested in that topic/subject/whatever. If both friends were not interested in the same thing, the less talkative friend might not be as inclined to listen to the more talkative friend ramble on about something he honestly didn't give a crap about.
     
    I agree with [user]Route 18[/user], the problem being opposites is you will find eventually your common interests can become scarce and a relationship cannot exist without common ground. It is good to be opposites in certain things in a relationship but being polar opposites how did you get into a relationship in the first place.
     
    I definitely agree with all of you, but I'm the same as 007 when it comes to feeling attracted to people who are the opposite of who I am. It's weird really, not knowing what to talk about and such. But after a while you adapt pretty well to eachother's lifestyle. common interests grow when spending time together, which creates a basic foundation for relationships.
     
    I actually think to consider someone the "opposite" of someone else, is rather misguided.
    But for conversations sake lets take one trait.

    I think it's really 50-50 whether or not opposites are compatible. I do NOT get along with anyone even vaguely similar to myself. Immediately I know I don't like them just from meeting them and only later when I learn of our similarities do I justify these feelings to myself.
    The only way I would say opposites are compatible in my situation is when I'm actively mirroring someone else to get on their good side or try and get them to like me even though I don't particularly want to be their friend.
     
    Of course! Haven't you heard the term opposites attract? :3 I think opposites are good because if we didn't have them, we'd all be the same people, and it'd be boring. XD I like to have someone who's a little of both. I've been friends with people who were completely opposite of me, and I've had a hard time talking with them. That's usually why I like there to be a balance.
     
    It's perfectly fine to be opposites. My dad's younger brother and his wife are complete opposites and they've been married for nearly 30 years. My uncle is shy, soft-spoken, and loves reading, while my aunt is talkative, boisterous, and prefers watching movies to reading books. I'm surprised that they get along as well as they do.

    I'm different from many of my friends. Take me and my friend Ashley. I'm an extrovert, energetic, talkative, and friendly, while Ashley is an introvert, shy, quiet, and lethargic. I'm also a lot more confrontational than he is - and I tend to curse a lot whereas he rarely curses. Plus we're different in our attitude towards politics (I have an interest in politics while he prefers to avoid them). Also, I'm a great swimmer and Ashley cannot swim. We do have some things in common - we're both autistic.

    Same with other friends. I can't stand soccer or rugby, but many of my friends like soccer and a few like rugby. I also love pop music, while some of my friends strongly prefer rock (a few even hate pop). Some of my friends aren't into Pokemon at all - and some don't like anime. Also, I tend to dress rather neatly and some of my friends dress like slobs.

    I don't mind living with different people. I get along with my older brother even though we have totally different interests and personalities. My parents and I don't have that much in common, but we get along well.
     
    I have a very hard time picturing the exact opposite of my personality and my personality getting along. I don't see myself having a relationship with whomever this person may be. I don't see myself enjoying the company of this other person. And I don't see myself having any interest at all in getting to know that person.

    I don't think two people can fall in love with each other if they're complete opposites from one another. I think anyone who claims someone is a complete opposite someone is is exaggerating. People always seem to list these personality traits that "sum someone up", but there are hundreds of other personality traits in that individual that makes them relate to you in some way.

    I want to be with someone I share interests with. I want to be with someone who values the same things in life that I do. I want someone to appreciate the same things that I do. I think it's great to be different from others, and I think that's incredibly important. But if I don't share something in common with someone, I'm not inclined to get to know them. And that's a problem if we're talking about having a relationship with someone in my life.

    So yes. Opposites are a good thing, but not in relationships. Whether it be familial, romantic, or platonic.
     
    I think opposites are a way of life and are not just present within society/personalities etc. I live by the motto that:

    Happiness needs sadness.
    Success needs failure.
    Benevolence needs evil.
    Love needs hatred.
    Victory needs defeat.
    Pleasure needs pain.

    You must experience and accept the extremes. Because if the contrast is lost, you lose appreciation; and when you lose appreciation you lose the value of everything.
     
    Opposites attract, and can complement each other nicely. But I think for real, lasting compatibility to work, there needs to be a good degree of common ground somewhere, in like a relationship, for instance. Or any kind of close partnership, romantic or not. It's more of an ability to understand or empathize, really.
     
    One can learn a lot from people different to themselves, but no, one won't get along.
     
    I think the whole "opposites attract" adage tells us something about human attention. Realistically, we need commonality to co-exist, yet we focus on the differences.
     
    The problem with the "opposites attracts" concept in a relationship is that it has the potential to increase the rate of a breakup if either side has had enough of the other's hogwash. Let's say one is an intelligent person and the other is an imbecile. The intelligent person, who knows what he must do, will have trouble coping with problems when paired with the imbecile, who has no idea what's going on and has the mindset of Peter Griffon from Family Guy. After having many failed objectives together, the intelligent person will have to break up with the imbecile in order to find a better partner.
     
    I think intelligence and class and even race are factors in which we see more similarities than dissimilarities within couples.
     
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