As others have said, it's not true that all women want a Channing Tatum. Honestly, if you look at movies and TV shows, there are
way more narratives about average/below average-looking, dorky guys getting the girl. I can't think of many narratives where average/below average-looking, dorky girls get the guy (especially without first undergoing some kind of makeover). But that's another story.
Relationships are very rewarding if you find the right person and put time and effort into it. That said, relationships are not for everyone. Some people just aren't mature enough to be in a serious relationship, or have too many trust issues, or don't know how to treat their partners respectfully. Plus monogamy just isn't for everyone. Sometimes these are things you can work on and fix, and sometimes they're not.
Rule of thumb:
if you're unhappy when you're single, and think the only way to be happy is to be in a relationship, then you are not ready to be in a relationship.
Disregarding the Reddit upvote-worthy opening post, relationships can be any level of good or bad for a person. Some people simply cannot handle or don't desire relationships, so they stay away from them. But that's not them necessarily saying relationships are bad, it's just that they are unhealthy for the person involved.
I tend to find that relationships (referring specifically to dating or experiences similar to it) are positive experiences for the most part. It's most likely going to fail, but the aftermath doesn't erase the happiness that was previously experienced in the relationship. They tend to be wonderful things that, if you're lucky, make you feel things you never thought possible.
I'm trying hard to remain mindful of the unfortunate people who are stuck in abusive, dismal or otherwise awful relationships (hence the ambivalence of my post), but they're not as common as those with real, loving ones.
Ultimately, I believe that relationships are mostly worthwhile experiences in one's life that shape and mould you in ways few other facets of life can.
I also believe that blaming women for not finding you attractive based on some assumed higher understanding of the female psyche is utterly pathetic and I do not care for it at all.
I pretty much love every part of this post. :D
Edit: I think what I'm trying to say here is that if you enter a relationship, it'll do more good than harm. I mean, it sucks when you break up but, you'll get over it pretty quick. Unless you've been dating for a longer period of time, then I'd imagine your take it a lot harder but, I would also imagine that you'd eventually get over that. Don't be afraid to try it out though! Relationships also help you figure out what it is you want in a person and what makes you shine in other people's eyes.
As Harley Quinn said, I think it's important to be mindful of the fact that a lot of relationships can be abusive and destructive as well. This obviously isn't the majority of relationships, but some people are just manipulative, controlling abusers, and when survivors finally
do manage to get away, they may not have been able to take anything positive away from the experience.
Different people also get over break-ups at different rates. Otherwise I agree that fearing a break-up shouldn't be a reason to avoid relationships altogether.
~Psychic