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Are you a good friend to all of your friends?

Nick

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    Question: Consider your relationship with all of your friends. Not just the close ones that you are excited to talk to everyday, but the friends that kind of get on your nerves, the friends you rarely see, the friends you aren't very close to, etc. With all them in mind, are you a good friend to them all? Why or why not?

    My answer: I don't think I'm a good friend to all of my friends. In fact, there are only about four or five people I really put my all into the friendship with. I also spend a lot of time thinking about dropping friends all together and meeting new people to replace them and starting new, closer friendships with them so I don't think I value their friendship that much. That being said, I don't think they really value the friendship they have with me either, so it doesn't make me feel guilty. But with the people who I feel I put my all into the friendship with and are excited to talk to and everything like that, I do think that I'm a great friend to them.
     
    I'm not really sure what makes someone a good friend. I'm always nice to everyone friend or not. I do on the other hand ignore, avoid, and lie to them all the time because I usually don't want to hangout or be bothered to do anything with them. I just rarely have actual fun with any of them so I rather do my own thing.
     
    I'm the best friend I can be to everyone. I don't go out of my way to involve myself with them constantly; I mean, if it's someone who isn't that good a friend themselves then what's the point in being in their face all the time? But if anyone comes to me looking for help or advice or just someone to talk to, I'm always there.
     
    I have a lot of good friends but not extremely close ones. I was good friends with this one guy since kindergarten but we haven't been very close since high school. We used used to be best friends, but now we're not as close.
    I dont really have a best friend, just a bunch of good friends. I just to see my friends at least twice a week when I used to go to youth group. But now since I'm too old to go, I don't see my friends very often.
    There are some people who I never or barely talk to, mostly people who are just Facebook friends.
     
    I only care a lot about my close friends. They always come first. Often with my other friends I find I'm not always as loyal (I'd never go telling other people their secrets or anything, but I can't stay close to them and don't feel as bad when I upset them).
     
    I don't really talk to all of my friends, but I try to be on good terms with them, which makes me a good friend to them (to an extent).
     
    Its really hard to be good to alll of ur friends ;) but i think to most of them, yup :D i am. But some think i talk to childishly, if u know wut i mean 8DDD
     
    I certainly try to be, but I definitely do play favorites. Sometimes I'm just having so much more fun with one person than everyone else, that when other people want to do stuff, it almost feels like a chore.
     
    I try to be nice to my friends when i see them - however lately I have been finding out who are my real friends and who are fake friends...
     
    I'm definitely not an equally good friend to everybody. I have two friends irl that I will do anything for, but the rest not so much. I'm always happy and pleasant to everybody and really enjoy their company, but I'm only a really good friend to people I'm really close with.

    I'm not talking about online friends here, just offline. Online is a totally different paradigm where it's hard to gauge how good a friend you are because there's only so much you can do with or for somebody online. So I know how much people mean to me online but I don't know how to judge whether I am a decent friend to them.
     
    Vendak said:
    I'm the best friend I can be to everyone. I don't go out of my way to involve myself with them constantly; I mean, if it's someone who isn't that good a friend themselves then what's the point in being in their face all the time? But if anyone comes to me looking for help or advice or just someone to talk to, I'm always there.
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    This is sort of how I feel. I don't actively do a lot to see friends or be involved with their lives, but when I am I try to be good and nice to everyone who I consider a friend.

    I suppose I'm a bad friend because I don't always make much of an effort to initiate things and if I were a better friend I probably would, but when I do I make a good effort to consider everyone. Like if it's summer and I'm all "let's go to the beach" I'll probably invite everyone I know who could go and I think would want to go even if a part of me would sometimes prefer a smaller groups.
     
    Nick, I'm gonna agree with your opening post, because I'm almost exactly the same..

    I care about my friends, yeah, but I know the relationship that I have with most of them now days could barely pass as friendships. I talk to people online more than I talk to most of my real life friends, and I also think about how I want to find new groups of friends some how. I mean, I constantly think about wanting to move out of state, and when I do, it's an after thought that I'd be leaving friends behind. With the exception of my best friend, who would probably go with me whether I said it was okay or not, I don't really have many ties.

    I suppose I could put more effort into the friendships, but our schedules just clash too much, and I honestly don't care enough, apparently. I'm a good friend in the sense of keeping secrets, or giving advice, listening to them, etc, these days it's just really shallow. I have days off where I could see what they're up to, but I mostly just stay on my own.
     
    I try to be nice and such to everyone I consider at least an acquaintance, but interacting socially takes a huge toll on me so I avoid hanging out more than you'd expect from a 'good friend', unless it's under the idea circumstances. :(
     
    Oh god no. I'm a terrible friend to those that I don't see on a regular basis. My friends are sort of divided into 'uni friends' and 'school friends'. When I'm in London, I spend more time with my 'uni friends' so my 'school friends' fall by the wayside. Similarly, when I'm visiting my parents, I spend more time with my 'school friends' than my 'uni friends'. I've tried to be better at keeping in contact with each of the respective groups, but I always revert back to my crappy friend ways within the space of, say, a week.
     
    I like to think I am when I'm around them, but right now when I don't see them on a regular basis, I tend to forget to contact them regularly. But back in college I would regularly talk with them, go with them to hang out, eat, see a movie, and all that.

    So, it seems I can only be a really good friend when I'm actually with them.
     
    I guess I am... All my friends say I'm really nice. Which surprises me, because I think I can be a huge douche. :T
     
    I'm a pretty darn good friend to all my friends......50 percent of them. I'm the jokester, for some odd reason despite not even knowing I'm joking. I tend to avoid those I don't know much or am not interested in...which is what makes up most of my friends. The only reason I hang out or consider them my friends is to simply...well, have friends. Nothing else to say really.
     
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