Children in Divorcements

[crimsoncero]

In the case of divorcement between parents, should the children not take side and try to accept the new situation, or can they side with one of their parents?

Does it matter how old the children are, and if they are adults by law (18) but still lives with one of their parents,(depends on the custody, so opinions may vary), because they are still in school and other reasons?

And lastly, should they try to find the "truth" about the relationship between their parents, to try and understand what is happening around them?

 

[gimmepie]

In the case of divorcement between parents, should the children not take side and try to accept the new situation, or can they side with one of their parents?

I think that no child should be forced to live with one parent over the other against their wishes unless it can be proven that the other parents actions are harmful to the child. So in as much as that I think the child should have a say in what happens.

Does it matter how old the children are, and if they are adults by law (18) but still lives with one of their parents,(depends on the custody, so opinions may vary), because they are still in school and other reasons?

No it shouldn't, the preference of the child should always be taken into account.

And lastly, should they try to find the "truth" about the relationship between their parents, to try and understand what is happening around them?

I think it's important for the child to understand the situation. It would help them come to terms with the changes in their life.

 

[Klippy]

Or the parents should have a moral responsibility to find suitable ways to meet the child's needs. My parents divorced and I split my time between them half of the week and then the other half. They have a friendly relationship though, so I know that isn't going to always be the situation. Parents should work together to find compromise for the best of their children and not use them as pawns during a divorce.

 

[Nah]

And lastly, should they try to find the "truth" about the relationship between their parents, to try and understand what is happening around them?

I think that this is the most important bit. You hear stories about how a divorce basically scarred a child for life, and a lot of the time they seem to tend to think that "they split up because of me" or "I could've saved their marriage, but didn't" and it haunts them for a long time when it wasn't their fault in the slightest. Kids really should be able to learn everything about why their parents are getting a divorce so that doesn't happen.