And this is pretty humorous since the LGBT community has been continuously accused of trying to steal the word "marriage" from heterosexuals. And now you're going to turn around and accuse someone of "stealing" the phrase "coming out?" That is the very definition of hypocritical behaviour.
What's humorous about it is that you're arguing that reclaiming marriage which has absolutely no negative effects societally is somehow comparable to the trivialization of a word which is referred to the struggles of identifying and then being public and open about LGBT struggles.
Your point is moot because the term "coming out" is not exclusive to the LGBT community. It never was, and still isn't to this day. You say it's harmful, but what I think is more harmful is people trying to dictate to others how a certain phrase can be used. It's wrong for those against same-sex couples getting married trying to prevent us from using the word "marriage," and likewise it's wrong for you to trying to stop people from using "coming out" for anything other than announcing one's sexual orientation.
I'm aware that it wasn't really exclusive but at the same time, if you ask the majority of people about the phrase "coming out" they will probably think and refer to LGBT people who are coming out of the closet. What we have to understand about it is that a society words and phrases come with different meanings, but some meanings are more important than others, at least in this case. Marriage being re-defined isn't harmful. Coming out being re-defined is harmful. The only example I can think of right now is "Oh well you shouldn't be offended that I called you a ♥♥♥♥♥♥, I meant a bundle of sticks" which, you know, is accurate but still sort of thick headed. It's sort of like that.
You're right, for the most part they don't. However, you cannot deny that bringing home a partner to introduce them to the family isn't without risks. So I made the point to illustrate that all of our actions involve an element of risk and therefore nothing should be treated as trivial. Even something as simple as stubbing your toe could lead to death under the right (or wrong) circumstances.
There is risk in bringing someone home. It is not the same risk that LGBT people who are closeted face. There is risk all the same and I can accept that, so drop it.
@Moogles - Sorry, gotta go with Alessi on this one too. I will agree with you in as much as that generally speaking we tend to associate the term "coming out" as someone announcing to another person or group that they are homosexual or bisexual. So generally speaking, that's the most widely accepted interpretation.
Then why don't we work together to protect this and further protect LGBT people. Not like they're a marginalized group or nothing.
I don't think that we can criticise Alessi for his interpretation though, it's different and not as widely accepted but I can easily see how it could be applied to situations other than announcing one's sexuality. He is also correct in his statements that we all have to admit things about ourselves that others may not like at some point, and in saying that we all strive for acceptance even if we like it or not. Even "nonconformists" still tend to try and conform with other nonconformists.
I can criticize his interpretation all I want. Once gay people are less of a marginalized group (lol) then I think alessi's interpretation would be fine. Until then I think it does more harm than good and that's why I'm adamant on protecting it.
You also gave a pretty bad example before, because you used an example that pretty much every person in the world would consider as a positive achievement, whilst there are some people very opposed to the sexuality of others. This is also the result of you aiming for that goal (to score well) whilst nobody chooses their sexuality you made a conscious effort to work hard and to take that subject.
My friends, my family, my professors, etc. It's as laughable as an example as "finding a new job" so that's why I was brought it up.
I would suggest a better example would be a disability. We do not choose to be disabled, and I can personally tell you that there are plenty of people who will treat you differently - quite possibly negatively - if they discover that you have some sort of disability. I'm autistic, and have had people treat me like I'm incompetent or like I need special treatment and care after discovering this - including people who I am far smarter than and/or far stronger emotionally.
I agree that it's a better example lol my example was purely in reference of "finding a new job" that I quoted in my original post. At least touch on his too if you're going to be like this :P
Now to further add to my original argument against the whole coming out process. Do you think that if I made a big announcement on Facebook or similar that people would stop treating me differently? God no, this treatment would only increase and it would never go away until we stop treating a disability like it is such a big deal, I'm just another person. I just happen to be autistic the same as that I just happen to be straight.
The "coming out" process is no different. If you make a big deal out of it, society will continue to treat it like a big deal. I'm not saying hide it, I don't hide that I'm autistic - I don't try to conceal my idiosyncrasies or issues in some social settings and if they are mentioned I will happily give the reason why and then I'll move on. That way I create an impression of "Yeah I'm autistic, but clearly that's not exactly a big issue". If gay people just openly admitted to finding people of the same gender attractive casually or were able to do one better and just start dating someone of the same gender without a big announcement then it would do them far better quite similarly to the example I have given.
I actually understand the point you're making and I'll recognize that that the whole process of telling your friends your problems is a troubling and turbulent experience (I've never said otherwise) but applying this in turn to coming out which is a turn that, no matter if it wasn't originated in LGBT culture now has strong roots and foundations there is harmful and wrong. The only other problem I have is how you're telling gay people to act because I personally find that really obnoxious coming from straight people, even if it's well-meaning. I don't tell black people or people of other races how to react in the face of racism or their struggles so I wish straight people would do the same to gay people.
If your friend comes out, it would be pretty ♥♥♥♥ing stupid of you to treat them differently because of it. They were the same person before that happened, and will remain the same.
I'm being purely cheeky but when I came out I'd rather people refer to me as gay and talk about me dating a man vs. a woman :P I understand the main point but it's just something to consider.