Divorce?

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    Some people are heartbroken by it, some people see it as a second Christmas. What do you think of it, and if you've had anything to do with a divorce in the past, what are your comments on it?

    Personally if my parents divorced I would go with my mom in a heartbeat, but I don't think it would make a difference (dad's always in China). I think if they wanna do it they can do it but it's wrong.
     
    I always thought I wouldn't care if my parents got divorced. But now that they have..My house just seems empty. And my mom just bashes my dad a lot. And my dad is trying to make up for lost time. Which I don't really want. They got divorced like 2 weeks before christmas. So I barely got anything and it was weird not being together. Not that I care about the gifts. But yeah. This year I'm spending Christmas with my dad and I think it will be weird. It's sad. Not going to lie.
     
    My parents got divorced over 10 years ago. It was nasty and it messed a lot of things up but my family would be worse off now if it hadn't been done.
     
    As heartbreaking as it is, I think divorce is sometimes necessary. People grow apart, they grow unhappy with each other and they need to move on in order to be happy. This might suck for any kids the couple has, but if they're at the point where they want to get divorced, the energy in that home is going to be pretty toxic. Sometimes divorce is just the right thing to do. I know I'd hate it if my parents were miserable and staying together just for me.

    I do think if you're getting divorced with kids though, it's a good thing if you can stay friends with your ex. It's a lot healthier for them and for you.

    I've never been involved with divorce, the most I've seen of divorce is my friends who I met after their parents separated. But those are my thoughts on it.

    Oh, and if my parents got divorced, I'd definitely go with my mother. My father and I have never had a great relationship so I'd prefer to just make life easier on myself :P
     
    It used to bother me a lot. It still bothers me because if my parents did split, I'd worry about money and all that as even now, things are a little tense between my parents due to money issues and all that. I'd go with my mom in a second but would still feel terrible for my dad.
     
    My parents divorced, for three times. The first time was the worse considering I was relatively young and couldn't really comprehend why my dad wasn't around. The second time was a little less ugly, and the third time was the last time. Hopefully. My parents were obviously unhappy with their marriage life and their relationship seemed dull, but they had a tendency to repair their marriage for the sake of their kids. I guess in their third trial they realized that they shouldn't live under the same roof. I am okay with that. I don't see either tbh, maybe once every 4 months or so for expenses and payments.
     
    I'm sorry for all you guys who have parents who got divorced. I know how it feels. :(

    Anyways, my parents could never divorce, since my father has passed away. However, if they did get a divorce before he passed I would go with my dad, no question. (Considering he wouldn't be sick like he was.)
     
    I don't know what it feels like to have divorced parents, but it wasn't all that uncommon at my schools growing up. Kids might hate the thought of divorce, and it seems sorta selfish, but in the end, as mentioned, it's better for a couple who are constantly feuding. Raising a family in such a hostile environment obviously is the wrong thing to do. Some will argue that the single parent method is just as detrimental, but parents will often remarry, if not share time with the children.
     
    I'm okay with it. Better for a couple to divorce than for them to live together in misery. It's a shame, but sometimes a relationship just doesn't work.

    Ideally they should attempt to work things out before divorcing, but even then sometimes I'm sure it's better to end it quickly. It all depends on the situation.
     
    I remember how sad my friends were that their parents were getting divorced as a kid, but mine fought every. single. day. and it was awful to live with because they were never happy and they always took their anger out on us. In spite of hearing my friends complain, I wished my parents would get a divorce. However, near the end of my junior year of high school/start of my senior year, my parents had their big ~is this it or are we gonna make it work moment~ and made it work and my family has been a lot better off since, so i'm glad they made it work in the long run.

    The point of the above? I didn't have a good relationship/close relationship with my parents growing up because they were so focused on fighting and being upset. So, if that's the environment you're going to raise kids in, I say end it.
     
    Divorce is fine for me, if it's only effecting you and your partner. I think one of the most selfish things a couple can do is get a divorce when they have a young child and make a huge thing out of it. If it's really not working out and you've tried everything you can to make it work then calmly go your separate ways. Don't spend months arguing in front of your kid and then split up treating the child like an old bike where one parent has it for a week and then trades it to the other while constantly arguing and trying to get full custody because it's really not fair on the child.

    My parents didn't get divorced, because they were never married and it was incredibly traumatising to have to see two people who you've been taught are suppose to love each other forever arguing and fighting and trying to keep you for themselves.
    Even when I had to watch my mum almost split up with her current husband is was heart breaking having to watch my sisters in the middle of all of it.
     
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    Certainly not the worst thing that could happen to a marriage, regardless of the circumstances. If two people are unhappy with each other and see no chance at finding resolution and have tried to do so, then there is no point in them being together. Assuming the divorce doesn't affect their parental duties, which from what I've seen from the people I know, that hasn't happened. But I know some families aren't as lucky, and after divorces, one of the parents seem to stop being in the picture.
     
    I think if the people involved would be happier if the weren't married then they should divorce. Simple as that. But they should try to get on at least minimally after if they have kids and not say things against the other parent in front of the kids because that's... not cool. Nobody wants to hear it really.

    My parents got divorced when I was like five, but they're actually still friends. Mum even came back to spend time with us three days a week until Dad moved, then we went to see the opposite parent every other weekend. So we were kind of... phased out of not having both parents around all the time. And now my brother and I both live with Mum, who is married to one of Dad's high school friends. And we go see Dad every other weekend and he is married to one of Mum's sister's high school friends and sometimes they all go out to a bar together and yeah ok my family is a bit weird.
     
    I can see why one might do it, and I'm not saying to have a divorce is bad. But it's a disappointing thing to see. When you marry someone, you've decided to spend all your life with that person. To want to cut such a vow shows that you jumped the gun. It's a weird form of hypocrisy to me.
     
    I don't really believe in getting divorced. I think it's a religious thing for me, and that people should set aside difference to MAKE their vows good. I'd never get a divorce myself, the other person would have initiate it. When I love, I love forever. And that's the same standard I hold everyone else to. Plain and simple.
     
    I think sometimes it's nessesary. Unfortunately sometimes people change overtime or grow apart and are no longer compatible. They should be allowed to divorce if this is nessesary and they can't work it out. They should at least try to work it out though if they can.
     
    Divorce isn't the ideal solution, but honestly, if abuse/control/neglect is involved, it's better than letting the current situation continue unchecked. I've heard too many stories of people who believe that spousal murder is a suitable alternative to divorce, and in those situations everyone loses.

    My parents never got divorced, but if they did, it honestly wouldn't be the end of the world.
     
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