I do not let my anger control me, I control it. I am not perfect, however, so there will indeed be times where I say things I don't mean. These tend to be on my REALLY bad days, when I REALLY don't feel like ********. I rarely have those days, and when I do, I tend to distance myself from people, I don't need to snap at them. At least until I calm down, a few deep breaths, a few hours to cool off, whatever I need.