The Post Your Problems Thread 2.0

[TrinityLimit]

Big mistake, if you do that, then you're screwed. Most mail gets lost, I had that as a problem.

o-rly? i see...
well, i'm going to probably ask my stepdad for his credit card, so its all good aha.

 

[Blackberry]

I having some sleeping issues. I can't sleep properly. : (

Any tips, suggestions?

 

[hyperblast81]

Man, I really dunno how to describe this. Sooo... here I go.

@Blackberry: I just tend to just think about what i have planned to do for a while, I just relax and let my imagination or whatever take me where it wants me to go. It probably sounds a bit childish, but it works for me.


Alright I hope this makes sense to y'all:

Now normally, I am a pretty solitary person, I never complain about being alone, I like it just as much as being with others. However, lately, when I should be feeling just fine, all of a sudden I feel, dare I say, lonesome. I really don't know if anything coulda caused it, I mean I haven't shifted the time spent with friends/without friends balance. I'm 99% sure it isn't because of puberty or anything because it just started yesterday when I've been just fine since i turned twelve 11 months ago. I'm just confused and my parents are gone from the country for a while and Im home with my sister. Who; lets just face it, sisters don't make good parents substitutes, soo, I hope I can get this sorted out quickly, I'm a little scared it will affect my performance at school and baseball.

Sorry if you didn't understand,I just don't know how to type it better.

 

[The Cynic]

I having some sleeping issues. I can't sleep properly. : (

Any tips, suggestions?

Welcome fellow insomniac! I had this problem during my last 3 years of high school due to a combination of stress and a hyperactive mind. Here are the solutions I used. The are somewhat cliched, but the do work:

• Avoid caffeinated drinks (coffee, tea, coca-cola etc.) after 7pm, or 5pm if you are really bad.
• Have a milky drink with you when you go to bed. Warm milk, hot chocolate, whatever. Horlicks and Ovaltine are especially good but I'm not sure if they have those in the USA. They are malted milk drinks. Ovaltine tastes much nicer but Horlicks is more effective.You can get chocolate variations of them that taste just like hot chocolate if you don't like malted milk drinks.
• Drink plenty of water and eat a snack before going to bed. You are more likely to get to sleep if you are not plagued by hunger and thirst. Cheese is especially good as it contains milk. It s a myth that cheese causes nightmares and it actually contains endorphins which make you more relaxed.
  
• Avoid using sleeping pills. They make you groggy when you get up, if you manage to get up at all. Furthermore, the put your body's natural ability to get to sleep out of sync.
• Have a bath before bed. It really helps. Use de-stressing bubble bath with scents like lavender or aloe vera. Screw the envirnoment!
• Try some aromatherapy. A little lavender spread on your pillow will go a long long way. Don't over do it, or you'll feel groggy in the morning and the overpowering scent could give you a headache.
• Buy a help-you-sleep CD and play it in your CD player or iPod speakers. I know it seems New Age and everything but it does work.

I hope I've helped a little. :cer_smile:

Alright I hope this makes sense to y'all:

Now normally, I am a pretty solitary person, I never complain about being alone, I like it just as much as being with others. However, lately, when I should be feeling just fine, all of a sudden I feel, dare I say, lonesome. I really don't know if anything coulda caused it, I mean I haven't shifted the time spent with friends/without friends balance. I'm 99% sure it isn't because of puberty or anything because it just started yesterday when I've been just fine since i turned twelve 11 months ago. I'm just confused and my parents are gone from the country for a while and Im home with my sister. Who; lets just face it, sisters don't make good parents substitutes, soo, I hope I can get this sorted out quickly, I'm a little scared it will affect my performance at school and baseball.

Sorry if you didn't understand,I just don't know how to type it better.

Just try to spend more time with your friends than normal until your parents get back. Do something like go to the cinema or your local theme park with them just to keep your mind at ease. You still have your alone time late at evening for you to reflect, while still remaining sociable and defeating your feelings of loneliness.

If it just started yesterday then I'm sure this is just a fleeting emotion and you'll soon be back to your usual self. I personally think you just miss your parents. They can be naggy and annoying but in the end we all do feel lonely when their not there. The house must feel empty without them and that is why you feel so lonely.

 

[Blackberry]

I'll try it out, thanks for the informations you two~ : 3

 

[hyperblast81]

I'll try. Ima go see if I can start a baseball or football game at the neighborhood park soon.

 

[xJordan360]

Okay, here we gooo:
(WARNING, MAY BE TL;DR)

Spoiler:

I'm currently just a few weeks from completing my Junior or Eleventh year in school, to give you a bit of time reference. My little tale begins in 8th grade. There was a girl who moved to my small town, and here I will call her "Kat." So, Kat moved here, and I was instantly attracted to her. Attracted to her in one of those too-good-for-me I'll-never-have-her kind of way.

For the rest of that year, I never really got too close to her, but I did pride myself in being one of the few people who spoke to her frequently/showed any sign of friendliness. Freshman year, however, we had art and math class together, so I basically saw her everyday. We became pretty good friends, and I still had feelings for her. I still fed into that belief that she was the kind of girl I could never have, especially after getting to know her better, so pulled the typical Try-to-move-on-by-dating-everyone-you-possibly-can tactic. Never really works, and just makes you look bad in her eyes when you finally wake the eff up.

Throughout Freshman and Sophomore (9th and 10th grade), not too much eventful happened besides us becoming fairly good friends. The only thing of large note, and it was of rather large note, was the night I got back from a local metal concert. We were texting till Goddess-knows-when in the morning, and quite clearly, flirting. Which was soon withdrawn on her end, more or less because I was either A) Too Immature, B) Dated too many girls too fast, or C) Both. IT should be said, that I've always been told that I am mature for my age. By mature for my age, I mean often the 30 and later 20 year old friends I have are often stunned by my maturity.

Nothing this, let's move on to this school year. January, just after the new year, I pretty much stopped caring if I thought I'd never have her, and started trying. Really trying. At first, I was met with nothing but knife-in-the-heart style responses. But in doing this, in trying, I learned something that urged me to keep trying. She had, at some level, some feelings for me. Proof? The day before she moved out of town (her dad's job made her move), she came over and watched movies at my house. Long story short, we ended up holding hands. She's the kind of girl who doesn't just hold peoples hands if she doesn't like them.

It's at this point that things got really cluster-fudged for awhile. I got force-fed every time I tried with her, that she couldn't see me as anything more than a friend, and I was making her uncomfortable and all that. Which hurt, yes, but I'd gotten used to that. So I kept trying in different ways. Eventually, one of my friends got so fed-up with me always being hurt that he talked to her, and basically made her realize that the best relationships often come from good friendships, and oftentimes its worth the risk of hurting a friendship, to pursue something that h as potential to be a great relationship. And things got good for awhile.

We went and saw a few movies, held hands a few more times (I have to emphasize that I've never been so giddy just from holding someones hand), shared ice-cream, and all that other fun, movie-magic cliche stuff. She'd flirt with me on occasion, and we'd talk a lot. Until recently, of course. There's the catch, and the reason I'm here. She's recently been talking to this other boy (I should note that she endearingly refers to him as "Panda Bear" on occasion) and less so talking to me. I stress, however, that this does not mean she has stopped entirely. We still talk, and I still feel as if she has feelings for me, as we have had a few "dates" while she was talking to him, as well. The point is, however, that I feel that less and less she has feelings for me and more and more for him.

Which brings me to my request of advice. Should I keep trying, try harder, back off, or quit entirely? I'm not entirely sure, because, quite frankly, I've never been in a situation quiet like this, and, as most of you probably know by now, it's always easier to help with someone elses problems than properly evaluate and help yourself. So, throw me your best line. What do I do?

TL;DR: Boy likes girl. Girl doesn't like boy. Boy keeps trying. Boy gets chance. Boy feels good. Girl flirts with boy. Girl starts talking to other boy, and first boy less. Boy is confused. Boy writes 7 paragraphs in more detail about this problem, and asks for help.

 

[Zet]

Just confess to her, that's all you need to do. And if she doesn't feel the same way back for you and rejects you, then just move on.

 

[xJordan360]

Just confess to her, that's all you need to do. And if she doesn't feel the same way back for you and rejects you, then just move on.

So, basically.
Sit down, have a long talk about how I've had feelings for her on some level since 8th grade and basically just say everything I typed up there, yes?

 

[Binary]

@xJordan360: Simply..yes.

My problem.
When I go to bed, I think about the issues I'm having and worry about the future.
Because of that, I can't get to sleep even after 1-2 hours. I end up having headaches.
Any suggestions?

 

[NarutoActor]

That used to happen to me. Just wright everything you are worried about on a piece of paper and then let your mind rest. (that's what I did)

 

[Binary]

That used to happen to me. Just wright everything you are worried about on a piece of paper and then let your mind rest. (that's what I did)

I'll give it a try, thanks XD.

 

[Esper]

My problem.
When I go to bed, I think about the issues I'm having and worry about the future.
Because of that, I can't get to sleep even after 1-2 hours. I end up having headaches.
Any suggestions?

Spend a little time in your day working toward whatever it is you're worried about. You might feel more in control of your future so you won't worry as much and can sleep easier.

 

[Joey_951]

Please help me

Well i have a girlfriend and we are about to give our first kiss and i really want to but i just tend to get so nervous and well it makes it harder to give it to her so what should i do so i could give it to her.

Please PM/VM me

 

[Fxcking Tatertots]

I'm getting really mad over the smallest things [even if someone mentions something I dislike, I go on a ranting rampage.] And afterwards, I get depressed and start hating myself. It has been going on for months, actually. I'm generally not interested in anything anymore or feel like getting out of bed 99% of the time.

Sorry if that's not enough, but I don't want to hog the thread with a TL;DR.

 

[Feign]

See a family physician in this case. It is your best bet.

 

[WriteThemWrong]

Please help me

Well i have a girlfriend and we are about to give our first kiss and i really want to but i just tend to get so nervous and well it makes it harder to give it to her so what should i do so i could give it to her.

Please PM/VM me

well if she's your "girlfriend" then there really isn't anything to be nervous about. she's not going to laugh at you for messing up, she might giggle if you miss or something but in a cute way probably. If you really are having a problem trying reaching out and holding onto her like touch her face with your hands that way it'll feel more like a commitment and you are least likely to stop.

 

[Fxcking Tatertots]

See a family physician in this case. It is your best bet.

Was that towards me by any chance?

Spoiler:

I've already been to the "doctor" [AKA psych], but the pills were not working. I'm not arsed to change medications; 5 friggin' years of juggling 10+ different meds and getting worse each time.

 

[Joey_951]

well if she's your "girlfriend" then there really isn't anything to be nervous about. she's not going to laugh at you for messing up, she might giggle if you miss or something but in a cute way probably. If you really are having a problem trying reaching out and holding onto her like touch her face with your hands that way it'll feel more like a commitment and you are least likely to stop.

hey thanks for your advice

 

[Feign]

Was that towards me by any chance?

Spoiler:

I've already been to the "doctor" [AKA psych], but the pills were not working. I'm not arsed to change medications; 5 friggin' years of juggling 10+ different meds and getting worse each time.

Then perhaps some natural therapy? :3 If nothing is working you should still try to get the help you need.