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Connecting can mean a lot of things, percentage%. It really depends on how she acts around you off the phone. If you notice things about her behavior that don't seem like her when she isn't around you, chances are she's interested, but I wouldn't jump the gun too quickly because that could prove to be a wrong decision. Things like simple crushes where someone falls for someone else and doesn't know how they feel in return are often very difficult, but if you can pinpoint if she likes you or not on her behavior around you, then you shouldn't have a problem. How she presents herself and speaks to you is important as well.

The only way you could be able to tell if she's interested in the phone is how she talks, how she laughs, does she laugh at all? These seem to be important things to look for on phone calls that could make it worth your while and give you that hint of whether or not she likes you. If you're willing to risk something and maybe crack a corny joke that typically people wouldn't laugh over and she laughs over it... chances are there is something there in her mind. Unless she has a very poor sense of humor or something.

A big role in this also depends on the personality she has. Things are different for everyone and since everyone has a personality, that only makes it that more difficult to detect emotions. Especially if you think someone likes you. One way to find out if she likes you or not is to ask her friends. Seeing as how most girls around the teenage years tell their friends absolutely everything about who they like and everything, they'd likely tell you if she's interested or not. But there's always a chance their friends may not be too keen on you two starting a relationship if she does and all that.

So yeah, there are ways of telling but I'd suggest waiting until you know for sure to do anything that may come to haunt your decision. Get to know her. Get to know her friends. Get to know her quirks and get to know how she acts in public vs. how she acts when she's around you. If she acts differently around you than she does when you're not there, I'd say there's a likely chance that she's fallen for you just how you've fallen for her. But, like Chris said, I wouldn't go off on one phone call and jump to conclusions like that. After all, it's a phone call and in most cases, a lot of people act differently over the phone and she could be the type of girl who prefer talking on the phone and can do it for hours and naturally "connect" with anyone she talks to.

Just watch for signs in her behavior, how she presents herself towards you, the way she talks and things like that. Don't forget to put her personality into consideration, too, when you do try to look for signs that she may or may not be dropping. In the end, there's really no sure fire way to know unless you take the chance to go for it or ask her directly.
 
..Uhm, hey there guys..
I really got this problem that makes me want to quit school. Anyway..

Have you tried explaining your side to people who won't even try to understand?
I always understand, in fact, I gained a lot of friends for I never judge a person without understanding them.
But they're different when they treated me, but I never did something to them, they just label that what I did was " bad and unforgivable "
and I really got shocked about it. The next day, as I entered our room, eyes that pierces my very heart, they stared at me
with malicious kind of thinking. I am afraid.

One of them talked to me, and I explained what happened. You know what he/she said? ( covering the gender )

" Bah! just shut up will you, I don't care about you anymore! " ...

that was my best friend. :(
and now rumors spreading, things I really dislike, many of my classmates are avoiding me,
I'm afraid to loose them all, I love all of my classmates, I treasure each,
but hell, I got misjudged... I just told my best friend.

" You know, I'll always understand... and I'll understand why you're acting like that, but please, for my sake,
... will you do the same...? "

and he/she just repeated the same thing. " I don't care "

then I got a text message from one of my close friends,
and my god, he/she was also furious about me,

I'm afraid I'm losing my touch in going to school.
But I feel a little relieved that I found somebody to talk to, I told everything,
and he/she just said,

" You know, you belong to us, but the question is, do we belong to you? "
I never answered him/her. I just said, I need to think for a while.

But now, everything seems to be so damn cold. The atmosphere of my classmates becomes icy cold.
I feel really depressed. Is it right for me to just always understand? Is it right for me to let them think what they want to think?

Is it right for me to just lay down and let them stomp me with their harsh words?
Please, I really need help. Or am I just being too affected?
Will they soon understand? Or am I the one who will let them understand again?
Is it right for me to feel this way? To be mad at the same time denying my anger because they're my friends?

I really don't know, I'm so confused!
Please, I beg you guys, I really need help...

Thank you for reading...
 
my problem is...
im almost out of pokemon candy :p
otherwise im fiine.
 
my problem is...
im almost out of pokemon candy :p
otherwise im fiine.

Well, I've never heard of Pokémon Candy before... so, I suggest that you go back to wherever you obtained this and get more. Or order some online from a reliable retailer.
 
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So what exactly do people think you did?
 

Have you tried explaining your side to people who won't even try to understand?
I always understand, in fact, I gained a lot of friends for I never judge a person without understanding them.
But they're different when they treated me, but I never did something to them, they just label that what I did was " bad and unforgivable "
and I really got shocked about it. The next day, as I entered our room, eyes that pierces my very heart, they stared at me
with malicious kind of thinking. I am afraid.
One of them talked to me, and I explained what happened. You know what he/she said? ( covering the gender )

" Bah! just shut up will you, I don't care about you anymore! " ...
Well, think it over -- were your actions justifiable? (It'd be nice to know what you actually did so people who want to help you can give a better judgment, but if you really would rather not post what happened, know that you may not receive very helpful feedback.)
If these people aren't even willing to give you the time of day to let you justify whatever you did, then they're not exactly being good friends themselves. They might need a little time to get over whatever happened, but if their anger persists, perhaps it's time for you to try making new friends.

I'm afraid I'm losing my touch in going to school.
Don't let social issues get in the way of your education, you'll probably regret that more than any mistake you've made in the past. (There are worse adversities you could be facing.) Just try to move along, and hope that your friends will give you a second chance. We've all made mistakes, I'm sure they have, and it seems a bit unfair to leave you high and dry when you (claim to) be the one to, as you said, always understand. Of course, like I said, this situation is hard to judge considering you haven't told us what you did.

I feel really depressed. Is it right for me to just always understand? Is it right for me to let them think what they want to think?
It's okay to "understand" as long as you're not letting people walk all over you. It's hard to trust people, especially when they've hurt you, but I don't think it's best to hold grudges -- which is actually what they seem to be doing. If you really had a good reason for doing whatever you did and your friends are that stubborn, then you'll have to let them think what they want to think until the situation blows over. But if you get an opportunity (don't constantly bother them about it), try to get them to acknowledge your stance, and at the same time listen to theirs. Even if your actions were justifiable, I suggest you throw in some apologies. Also, don't spaz out and ignite a crazy argument (you don't seem like the type to do that, but just in casies), remain calm and rational.

Just keep your head up for now, you control your emotions, don't let this get to you so much.

 
It wasn't really that considerable as a bad act.
More like I was hanging out with friends where they think I was finally
"changed"..

Know what I mean?

I am a kind of person who never sticks to one group of people, I hang out to many.
And when they found out, they misunderstood me and
now starts hating me. :(

Hnhhhhh... it's still going on though, nothing progressed..
Why am I hated so much just because of it..?

The other one even put me on a shameful situation
during English Class...
 
It wasn't really that considerable as a bad act.
More like I was hanging out with friends where they think I was finally
"changed"..

I am a kind of person who never sticks to one group of people, I hang out to many.
And when they found out, they misunderstood me and
now starts hating me. :(

So...what I'm getting from all this is that you've changed in a way your friends don't like, or they're butthurt because you're not just hanging out with them. I feel like I'm completely misinterpreting you though. If you didn't do anything to hurt anyone, your friends are the ones who should be sorry. If you still want to be their friend, all you can do is wait til they're done >:(-ing and/or try to reason with them every now and again; I still suggest, if you haven't done anything wrong, to move on and find new friends who will respect your decisions if you feel the need to "change" (unless it's a destructive change) and who aren't so selfish as to get angry that you're getting along with more people. If they're mad because you aren't spending enough time with them, their decision to ignore you and embarrass you in class is certainly not helping, and I don't know why you'd want to remain friends with those kinds of people.
 
ok so i have this little problem,my friend told the girl that i like that i like her, aparently she new this for bit and i just found out yesturday! the teacher makes me seat next to her in science class and she is always staring at me, i dont know if its because she likes me or because she thinks im a creep, i have made her laugh a couple times but she very quite and EXTREMLY hard to talk to...what should i do?
 
Stare back till she averts her gaze.

Haha jk. I dunno. Sometimes the best thing to do- is nothing. Wait it out. That's what I say;) She probably likes you! I don't see why she would be staring at you if she didn't. People tend to avoid stuff like that, lest the other people get the wrong idea;)

Good Luck~
 
ok so i have this little problem,my friend told the girl that i like that i like her, aparently she new this for bit and i just found out yesturday! the teacher makes me seat next to her in science class and she is always staring at me, i dont know if its because she likes me or because she thinks im a creep, i have made her laugh a couple times but she very quite and EXTREMLY hard to talk to...what should i do?
I say communicate with her. Yeah, you said she's hard to talk too, but after you two talk for a bit she'll get comfortable talking with you. I remember being very quiet at first when meeting new people, but then I'm able to open up more.
 
K, I have a problem. My hair has gotten to the point were my dad either brings me to the barbershop or he buzzes it off. It's a super sexy mini afro I refuse to cut :O

He is threatening to force me with him to some evil barbershop tomorrow just because I got a 76 in English (advanced). How do I stop him from getting my hair cut while not sounding like some ridiculous emotional teen?

BTW, I am asking here because he is a 50 year old unreasonable Mexican :(. Perfect combo for a dad.
 
^At least you have a dad. BTW, he sounds like a great, responsible father. :]

LOL! There's a Vent Thread. ahh...Let's see. My problem is that I'm not sleeping. :) If I sleep now or later, I'll wake up before work. Which is at 3. Lol ahh weekends.
 
I'm thinking about telling my best friend, Unique, that I love her but I don't want to lose her as a friend if she doesn't like me :/

I would rather live as a coward and not tell her how I feel than not have her in my life at all <3

I only wanted to meet her in 6th grade because she is REALLY hawt..But then I became her best friend and we always say "I love you, Babe" to each other and I got feelings for her other than in my pants..I truly love her more than a friend...

The question is...What should I do? :(
 
I'm thinking about telling my best friend, Unique, that I love her but I don't want to lose her as a friend if she doesn't like me :/

I would rather live as a coward and not tell her how I feel than not have her in my life at all <3

I only wanted to meet her in 6th grade because she is REALLY hawt..But then I became her best friend and we always say "I love you, Babe" to each other and I got feelings for her other than in my pants..I truly love her more than a friend...

The question is...What should I do? :(

Go for it. You don't want to let an opportunity pass you by, do you? If it turns out to be a flub, no worries. There'll be other opportunities, other fish in the sea and the like. Really, I don't think you want to be stuck in the friend zone. It's the worst place to be if you like someone.
 
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