Hey guys, I have a little problem. My new university is so huge and I have yet to make any friends. The school is in DC and I'm from New York, so I am used to huge places, but I still feel a little over whelmed and nervous.
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I'd surrgest trying to mix with some people. You'll soon get some friends, I am sure. Ask people you like to go out drinking or something. Bond and play console games and the likes.
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You might feel overwhelmed, but there are pros and cons to everything. Try to look on the bright side about the fact that your university is huge: it's got tons of people. That pretty much guarantees that you'll find someone you get along with very soon and before you know it you'll have a group of friends to hang out with. Try putting yourself out there a little more, that's all there is to it.
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Hi guys... If you read previous posts of mine in this thread, you should know the situation I was in...
Those who don't, I was wanting to go live with my boyfriend but was refused to and shoved to college.
Well, there in lies my problem...
I did some typing of what I felt there yesterday. This was orginally meant for my dA journal, but it explains everything.
If anyone can help me, please do so... *hugs*
Those who don't, I was wanting to go live with my boyfriend but was refused to and shoved to college.
Well, there in lies my problem...
I did some typing of what I felt there yesterday. This was orginally meant for my dA journal, but it explains everything.
If anyone can help me, please do so... *hugs*
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You seem to have your mind set on living with your boyfriend, not getting a job, and living off of disability and other people's money judging how you respond to other people suggesting that you get out and do something with your life. What you do is entirely up to you, but you aren't going to get far in life living off of monthly checks of a set amount. If you decide to do that, I surely hope that you're not thinking of bringing a child into this world because he or she is going to have an incredibly difficult life ahead of them. You need to set your priorities straight. If you want to be, basically, a willing mooch, so be it. But if you actually want to make a living, get the notion that you can live off of disability out of your head, listen to your mother, and go to college. Make a living. Otherwise, ten years from now, you're going to regret not taking the initiative.
Don't want to do what I and others suggested for whatever? Sucks for you. Enjoy not having a life. If you think college is hard, just imagine how life would be if you go on, skip college, go on to living off of other people's money. You'll get so far. A two bedroom home in a horrible neighborhood. I can see it all so clearly. I don't care either way, it's your life. If you want to screw it up and throw away the past 18 years of your life, so be it.
Don't want to do what I and others suggested for whatever? Sucks for you. Enjoy not having a life. If you think college is hard, just imagine how life would be if you go on, skip college, go on to living off of other people's money. You'll get so far. A two bedroom home in a horrible neighborhood. I can see it all so clearly. I don't care either way, it's your life. If you want to screw it up and throw away the past 18 years of your life, so be it.
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So back in May, I started dating this girl. She lives about 2 hours away and we met at a summer camp. I totally fell in love with her. I absolutely love her personality. And believe it or not, I think she might be "one". So she broke up with me about a month ago. She said it was only because she couldn't handle having a bf with all the problems in her life atm. She also said she wanted to get back together in the future. I've asked her a few more times over the weeks if she really wanted to get back together, and she said yes. (In the future). So...I'm still madly in love with this girl. So what should I do? Just keep talking to her as a "friend", wait, and hopefully she'll want to get back together?....
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The only thing you can do is be supportive and wait it out. However, if she's postponing the relationship for too long and you start to question whether or not she really wants to be with you, I'd start socializing with other (insert sexual preference here...because for all I know you could have the hots for men too)s...because you probably don't deserve to just be seen as another responsibility if you've stayed long enough for her to decide whether or not to commit. I'd say save yourself some heartbreak and terminate the relationship now, but since you've known her for awhile and seem to have really strong feelings for her, that would probably hurt the both of you.
Just keep seeing her and perhaps she'll come around.
Just keep seeing her and perhaps she'll come around.
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Alright I'll try. And I really hope so. There isn't a day where I'm not depressed and not thinking about her...I even had a dream about her two nights ago. :/
Hyper Chibi Absol
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We're still debating on children... I know James said before when he was talking to a friend that maybe we should have kids so he can leave something of himself behind so I can remember him. But he also doesn't want to bring new life into this horrible world...
I'd rather live a happy life then die of suicide for too much stress from school/parents/ect.
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I'm starting to see why so many people are aggravated with you...
Oh yes, because school and parents are so incredibly stressful. Escaping all that by taking the money from others just due to your situation is the easy way out. You're bound to get far that way.
...not. Honestly, anytime someone here tries to give you advise, you continue on with your horrible plan. I don't see why you're bothering telling us about your problem if you're not willing to at least consider the fact that your plan is, to be blunt, rather thoughtless and immature. You're 19 years old, you're not 9. Stop carrying over this helpless attitude that your life sucks and that you don't know how to fix it.
You're not interested in doing what we suggested, so why continue trying to seek our help? It's getting incredibly irritating and so many people have tried to help you but you continue the "I'm right, lulllzzzz" attitude you have, despite knowing nothing about what you're getting into. Because what you're planning to do is something that's going to ruin your life and you're going to regret it.
Maybe that's what you need. A slap of reality because you clearly don't have enough of that in your life. Grow up.
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So, I have been dating this girl for ten months and last night she just left me, didnt give me a reason why, it hurts alot, idk what to do at all, whether i should move on, wait to see if she wants me back in a few days. Its probably the hardest thing im going through right now and not even all the things that make me smile on a daily basis have been able to, not music, not my friends, not anything... All i can think about is, all the memories i made with her and how great my life was til after reading one text message it all went spiralling down to hell, any advice is thankful, i just wanna know what to do.
Hyper Chibi Absol
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You don't know what it's like to feel trapped in one spot with no way out, against your will. You don't know my parents. My dad used to beat me while my mom made me felt so guilty, I cried. THAT's how they parent, not just me, but my little sister and my little brother.
I'll do what people suggest me as long as it leaves my parents out of the question. If my parents found out ANYTHING I'm going through, I might as well be dead... That's pretty much all it comes down to because if I'm put on meds again, I will kill myself... I can't go through that again...
Immuture? You may think so because we're two different people. You don't know what I go through on a daily basis.
Look... I need answers from people who don't resort to posting rude comments and thinking I'm acting like a child when I'm trying to make a choice between life and death.
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Text message? Move on, she's clearly not worth the anguish. There are plenty of Magikarp splashing around in the ocean.
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She broke up with you via text message? ;___; that's horrible.... First off. *huggles* Second off, I'd give it a few days to sorta blow over [the 3 days idea was good] but if she blows you off for trying to talk to her again, you're just going to have to try, as best you can, to just take steps forward. Time won't heal your wounds totally but it'll get easier as the days keep on going. Maybe talk to your best buddies about it too? It's always okay to talk about your feelings. ;--;
>>; Hun you know my opinions on alot of this but you aren't the only person to be beaten and you aren't the only one with a horrible childhood. Using it as an excuse is just going to give more people ammunition to go after you.
On your parents finding out, you do realize that PokeCommunity is Google-able? Be careful how much you reveal on the internet, nothing's ever as private as it seems.
On the second part of it, I still think you should seek help from people who aren't 14 - 22 years old. :/ We can offer advice and a shoulder to cry on but we're really not the people you should be using to decide what you do from day to day. That's just not going to work in the long run, I've learned that the hard way. :<
Do you know what he goes through on a daily basis? That comment, saying that he can't understand because he's not you is irrelevant. We can say we empathise with eachother but each person has to live their own lives and their lives and their drama and their issues are different from everyone elses in the whole wide world really. :< You can't look at Suzy and tell her to man up just because she's struggling with something you've 'overcome'. People have issues. Nobody's perfect.
Saying "MY PROBLEMS ARE WORSE THAN YOUR PROBLEMS" is redundant and it comes across as immature. We're not in nursery school hun, we're a bit too old for the constant one-up game. :< I know you're just trying to be heard, but you're acting like you have the worst problems in the whole wide world which makes people feel insignificant and offended because you're making them feel insignificant.
If that's how you feel, why'd you post something here again? I understand why you posted it elsewhere because you're dealing with a different crowd on that other site but you got slaughtered last time you posted this here. Again, average age of PokeCommunity is Highschool - College.
:< Not to mention anyone can read this with a couple google searches.
If you want "mature" people, you need to find people older than you because you're not getting anywhere here. Again. Highschool - College age. There's also the fact that you've repeatedly ignored people older than you who are simply trying to help you [Lightning for one] and who know more than you because they're older than you. If you don't want to listen and give an ear to all the advice you get and if you don't want to stress yourself out further, don't keep posting this stuff on PC. You have to be able to take the in good and the bad and at least respond respectfully when people give you advice, even if you don't agree with it. When you respond so negatively to everything constructive people say, it makes them angry and it makes people respond in harsher ways.
Like I've told you before, take a step back from it and look for smaller steps to happiness instead of huge leaps. You're setting yourself up for misery and failure and not looking at the little glints of light I know are all around you. ;; I hate to see you tearing yourself so up by all of this but, again like I've said before, I'm not really qualified to help you.
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Try to actually read my post, reflect on it, then reply. Opposed to wanting to defend whatever I'm saying and make more excuses... because we all know how that's going to be. It'll end up with you getting nowhere.
My point is. If you decide not to go to college just because you don't want your mother to think she's won, you're being very vain and very selfish. Sometimes, you have to "pull one for the team", so to speak. The team being the people who you want to spend the rest of your life with. The people you care about. The people who care about you. I assure you, you not going to college is going to be something that, to be frank, will ruin your life. And if you think childhood is hard... what makes you think adulthood is any easier? Adulthood is far harder than childhood, especially when you're living alone with a family. College is the transaction as far as I'm concerned between childhood and adulthood. It prepares you for what's behind getting that college degree. It prepares you to a little game known as life that we all have will be playing one day.
Clearly I'm not here to attack you or I wouldn't have wasted ten or so minutes out of my day to try to show you something as there's a difference between being rude and being honest.
And... you don't know my parents. Who's to say that I haven't had a worse childhood than that? Lately, it has been improving dramatically, but when my dad feels that he doesn't have the money to support my brothers and I, he turns into a completely different person and there's no one around here that can help him get out of it. The only person who could would be my mother, who died. You're acting like you're the only one in the world who has a problem and putting that in your top priority at the current point in time. Granted deciding between going to college and not is a difficult choice, one that will affect the rest of your life, you'd think that when so many people in this community (especially Mika) have tried to help you, have tried to reason with you, have tried to give you options, that you'd realize that your only choice in life is not to move in with your boyfriend and live off of money that is ultimately given by other people. You're not a little girl anymore, you know. This choice alone should not have waited until after you graduated from high school. This is something you should have been thinking about all your life. It could very well be one of the most important decisions in somebody's life.
You're resorting to suicide over one choice (out of so many others) in life and questioning me calling you immature? You're acting like your parents are never going to find out about whatever the choice you do make when they are. They're probably going to find out sooner rather than later, and most likely, they do know what's going on with you already. Parents aren't these stupid little things anymore that raise you until you're 18 and don't want anything to do with you. Clearly your parents care about you or they wouldn't be putting so much pressure on you. Regardless of what happened in your past, the past is the past and there is nothing that you can do to change it. You can sit there and think about how horrible of a childhood you had, or you can let it shape you. You can let it make you become a better person and say "Hey, I don't want to have kids and treat them like that. I want to be able to provide for them in a way my parents couldn't provide for me. I want to make sure that my children live happy childhoods and see that I care for them more than anything in the world."
That right there is what makes you immature. Saying that nobody knows what you go through and acting like you have the worst possible life you could have when in fact you don't. You don't have the worst life you could have, and there are many many people out there who don't even have parents. There are people out there who don't have a privilege to go to college. After all, going to college is not at all a right. It's a privilege. If you don't want to take advantage of that privilege, so be it. The ultimate decision rests on your shoulders, however. The way I see it, the only thing stopping you from going to college is the fact that you don't want to do it because that's what your mother wants you to do. You're going to ruin your future if you do something as selfish such as that. There are colleges all around the world. Apply to one close to the ones you care about because that obviously seems important to you. But at the same time, ask yourself what you're going to lose if you don't decide to go to college. Think of all the open doors that would be shut closed right before you if you skip going to college. Not the mention how you're going to look at the decision in the long run. This is not a short term decision. Once you make a decision of going to college or not, your life changes completely. Regardless of the decision you make.
Hardly life and death. You're trying to make a choice between going to college and spending the rest of your life with your boyfriend. I'd hardly call that life and death; don't be so dramatic. Besides, you posted here pages ago. So many people have tried to help you in these pages, you turned down every single one of them with an excuse that came out of nowhere, and you expect people to smile about it? No. I was simply saying what so many other people were begging to say, but didn't have the heart to do so due to the fact that you were in such a problematic time in your life. But in reality, this is only such a bing as a problem as you're making it out to be. You're overdramatizing the situation, saying that if you do something, you're going to die, compared to if you do something else, your life won't be the same. You think school is hard, try living on your own. If you're not ready for moving onto higher education, what makes you think you're ready to live on your own? You think you can just move into his mothers house and expect her to treat you like royalty or something? I highly doubt she's that nice. Eventually, cases such as these always end up the same way. The one you're moving into draws the line when you do something to piss them off and they throw out an ultimatum. What would you do if you didn't have the ability to get a decent paying job when that ultimatum was finally given? Nothing. You would find someone else to take you in and do the same thing over again.
My point is. If you decide not to go to college just because you don't want your mother to think she's won, you're being very vain and very selfish. Sometimes, you have to "pull one for the team", so to speak. The team being the people who you want to spend the rest of your life with. The people you care about. The people who care about you. I assure you, you not going to college is going to be something that, to be frank, will ruin your life. And if you think childhood is hard... what makes you think adulthood is any easier? Adulthood is far harder than childhood, especially when you're living alone with a family. College is the transaction as far as I'm concerned between childhood and adulthood. It prepares you for what's behind getting that college degree. It prepares you to a little game known as life that we all have will be playing one day.
Clearly I'm not here to attack you or I wouldn't have wasted ten or so minutes out of my day to try to show you something as there's a difference between being rude and being honest.
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Hyper Chibi Absol, it sounds to me like you came to this thread for pity instead of advice. Believe it or not, you're not the only facing obstacles. Your situation is pretty trivial compared to what many people endure on a daily basis. You should channel all the energy you're using to feel sorry for yourself towards those who are seriously suffering. Take a look at the issues in Darfur and Tanzania and compare your petty, easily resolved dilemma to their daily lives.
I'd love to help you, really. I just don't have a lot of compassion for someone who asks for help, receives advice, and turns it down with poor excuses and cheesy theatrics.
I'd love to help you, really. I just don't have a lot of compassion for someone who asks for help, receives advice, and turns it down with poor excuses and cheesy theatrics.
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I know this isn't really a problem for you guys but I have a problem on knowing if a girl likes me? Any hints or something?
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Do you talk to this girl?
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Yes, actually its two girls, I like both of them and yes I talk to them both and they talk to me lol.
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