The (un)official crush thread!

[Bug Catcher Nick]

I don't know if this applies to 13-15 year olds, but telling a girl 'how you feel' isn't very smart if you want the girl. It makes you look like a wuss and you need her approval and that you can't keep your own emotions in check, hence why you "need" to tell her and get that stuff off your mind.

You don't need to spill your guts like that to let someone (mainly a girl) know that you I care about them. Instead of being a needy and clingy guy who has to let the other person know how they feel, you shouldn't care. From what it sounds like, you're just saying that to get it off YOUR chest because it is 'killing' you inside and you believe it's going to let her know you care about her in some way. That's not respectful at all.

Telling someone how you "feel" is bull****, as it takes away all the magic out of the attraction. Never tell a girl you like her, as that's the end of the game. I don't see this as some big, melodramatic thing that kills you inside. I think of it as something that can be enjoyable and fun, rather than something to 'kill you inside'.

It's good to make the girl think you're not interested, then you are, then you're not. You'd be playing hot and cold, hard to get. You'd let them wonder about what you're thinking, doing and whether you feel the same way. Then they'd miss you a bit because they'd then be more into you.

It's a fact: girls AND guys enjoy the chase.

I would go along with that. Obviously the odd hint helps, but you don't want to lead them onto a guilt trip.

Thinking back to my ex-girlfriend, I remember sitting watching a film with her, then just I just went to hold her hand, and she grabbed mine back, then it kind went on from there. I think I must have had a pretty good idea she fancied me though.

The girlfriend before that came about a pretty strange way. I went to boarding school not a private school, one used by ex-pats and forces children. During the 6th form (that's the final year before Uni to the American's) I went over the the girls house to lounge about and watch telly, except the room was empty. Some girl in the year below walked in and sat on the opposite side of the room without saying a word. Now she was pretty hot, though I hadn't spoken to her for about 6 or so years since she wasn't in my circle of friend, I think I was drunk, but I don't remember too well. I just said "hey, what's wrong with this sofa?". She looked at me, laughed, so I said "fair enough". Later that week I found myself in the same situation, and with saying a thing she just came and sat under my arm. Little bit strange, but it kinda flowed from there. I still look back and wonder why the hell that happened.

 

[The Infinite Devil Machine]

I don't know if this applies to 13-15 year olds, but telling a girl 'how you feel' isn't very smart if you want the girl. It makes you look like a wuss and you need her approval and that you can't keep your own emotions in check, hence why you "need" to tell her and get that stuff off your mind.

You don't need to spill your guts like that to let someone (mainly a girl) know that you I care about them. Instead of being a needy and clingy guy who has to let the other person know how they feel, you shouldn't care. From what it sounds like, you're just saying that to get it off YOUR chest because it is 'killing' you inside and you believe it's going to let her know you care about her in some way. That's not respectful at all.

Telling someone how you "feel" is bull****, as it takes away all the magic out of the attraction. Never tell a girl you like her, as that's the end of the game. I don't see this as some big, melodramatic thing that kills you inside. I think of it as something that can be enjoyable and fun, rather than something to 'kill you inside'.

It's good to make the girl think you're not interested, then you are, then you're not. You'd be playing hot and cold, hard to get. You'd let them wonder about what you're thinking, doing and whether you feel the same way. Then they'd miss you a bit because they'd then be more into you.

It's a fact: girls AND guys enjoy the chase.

Are you chasing girls or training your dog? Christ, man. No offense, but you sound like you haven't had many girlfriends. .__.'

No crushes at the moment but I think I have a girl stalking me now, if that counts. xD;

 

[Warheart]

I don't know if this applies to 13-15 year olds, but telling a girl 'how you feel' isn't very smart if you want the girl. It makes you look like a wuss and you need her approval and that you can't keep your own emotions in check, hence why you "need" to tell her and get that stuff off your mind.

You don't need to spill your guts like that to let someone (mainly a girl) knowt that you I care about them. Instead of being a needy and clingy guy who has to let the other person know how they feel, you shouldn't care. From what it sounds like, you're just saying that to get it off YOUR chest because it is 'killing' you inside and you believe it's going to leher know you care about her in some way. That's not respectful at all.

Telling someone how you "feel" is bull****, as it takes away all the magic out of the attraction. Never tell a girl you like her, as that's the end of the game. I don't see this as some big, melodramatic thing that kills you inside. I think of it as something that can be enjoyable and fun, rather than something to 'kill you inside'.

It's good to make the girl think you're not interested, then you are, then you're not. You'd be playing hot and cold, hard to get. You'd let them wonder about what you're thinking, doing and whether you feel the same way. Then they'd miss you a bit because they'd then be more into you.

It's a fact: girls AND guys enjoy the chase.

Blatantly put, that will only make you look like an arrogant douchebag :]

I made the mistake of trying to do that once; there was a girl I really liked, but I never actually let her know it. Instead, I put up this front about being "hard to get." There was actually a time where I thought she liked me, but i was too busy playing the "I don't care,"
part to pick up on it until much later on. I kept playing it out, and seeing if it was going anywhere rather than just telling her how I felt about her from the beginning like I should have. We started distancing apart more and more after that, then when I finally decided that i was going to end it, and tell her how I felt, I found out she was already going out with this other dude. I had my shot with her, but I blew it because I was trying to act cooler than I actually was. At first I was pissed at him about it, then I realized that it wasn't his fault, it was mine. I could have had her, but I lost her to my own egotism.

This happened a while ago, though, so it's not really something i think about too much anymore =/

the moral of my story is simply put as this:

"Don't be a dick, be a dude"

 

[Smarties-chan]

Yeah, I have a huge crush on this girl who I've been friends with for over a year now. I could go on for hours about how awesome she is, but I'll spare all you people from that. I've had a bunch of crushes before, but this one's the first one I've actually taken seriously. Eventually it became too much for me to bear and I went ahead and told her. I would have done it earlier if it I hadn't been afraid it'd ruin our friendship, which it thankfully didn't. I'm content with the two of us just being friends although it'll take some time before I can let go of my crush on her for good since it's a rather persistent one. ._.

 

[ShadowofTime01]

One of my current crushes is really into the whole Christian thing. Personally I don't fall under any specified religion, but the closest thing I am is a secular humanist. And we keep falling into this rut of seeing each other a lot in the first part of the quarter and then end up too busy to go out later on. She keeps inviting me to this Campus Crusade thing, but i keep turning her down because that's not my thing, I don't want to detract from everyone else's experience there, especially not her's. i just can't get her out of my head though. I wish she'd either give me a clear sign that she may like me or not, then i'd be able to know what move to make (or not make). this game of hot and cold is really messing with my head....

 

[Soul Eater]

LMAO!! Fine... I guess its okay... In that case, dang... I got a list of em...
Thinkin back... this is soo sad :P

In that case, I'll choose Inuyasha.

Alot of you girls who like Inuyasha, he belongs to me. Inuyasha isnt just that hot anime guy. He's my anti-drug. I will never give him up because whenever I feel like wanting to break down into a depression mood, all I have to do is watch Inuyasha and I feel so much better. I have just anything Inuyasha and I'm not about to explain those things and even a PB of over 700 pictures of him. Inuyasha is my anti-drug and even though I may not show it, he will always be mine and I will never give him up. I will always be PC's NUMBER 1 Inuyasha fangirl. >O

 

[Loki]

I don't know if this applies to 13-15 year olds, but telling a girl 'how you feel' isn't very smart if you want the girl. It makes you look like a wuss and you need her approval and that you can't keep your own emotions in check, hence why you "need" to tell her and get that stuff off your mind.

You don't need to spill your guts like that to let someone (mainly a girl) know that you I care about them. Instead of being a needy and clingy guy who has to let the other person know how they feel, you shouldn't care. From what it sounds like, you're just saying that to get it off YOUR chest because it is 'killing' you inside and you believe it's going to let her know you care about her in some way. That's not respectful at all.

Telling someone how you "feel" is bull****, as it takes away all the magic out of the attraction. Never tell a girl you like her, as that's the end of the game. I don't see this as some big, melodramatic thing that kills you inside. I think of it as something that can be enjoyable and fun, rather than something to 'kill you inside'.

It's good to make the girl think you're not interested, then you are, then you're not. You'd be playing hot and cold, hard to get. You'd let them wonder about what you're thinking, doing and whether you feel the same way. Then they'd miss you a bit because they'd then be more into you.

It's a fact: girls AND guys enjoy the chase.

I simply have to add to the fire, I'm very sorry, but:

If a guy did that to me, I wouldn't miss them, I'd wonder how many times their mother dropped them off the second floor when they were an infant, and also wonder how many girls they've banged out over the past week or so. Ten? Maybe more.

Or if they were normally a decent person, I'd just think they flat out weren't interested and was just treating me like every other girl in the world, and I'd move on, depending on how "hard to get" the guy is playing. I'm not going to bother him if he gives me the cold shoulder. :/ That's my hint that tells me he's not interested, and if he turns around and suddenly seems interested, that's my hint that tells me he's a very indecisive person that wouldn't make for a good boyfriend.

I am not going out of my way to play a game of cat and mouse for some souped up guy who thinks he's fifty times more desirable than he really is, and I can say that a majority of other girls have the same viewpoint.

Actually on-topic, sharing only because I simply had to respond to Cody Swablu!
Basically the story-of-my-life. <_< not caring about anything but my grades? :x

Spoiler:

Anyway. Back on topic. Like most girls my age, I do have a crush on someone, but it's not going anywhere anytime fast, because both of us are total nerds and are more interested in our grades than our love lives, and we have... pretty much nothing in common. He's an outdoors-exercise-all-day, eat-all-the-junk-food-in-the-world kind of guy, and I'm the never-want-to-go-outside, can't-eat-a-bowl-of-ice-cream-without-a-total-guilt-trip type.

Oh, wait, now that I think about it, there is one thing we have in common. one... that's kind of pathetic Our older brothers are really influential for both of us, (we get along great with our siblings. |D) and they always influence like, 90% of our decisions.

But.

His brother is a marine.

Mine is a brain surgeon.

Go figure.

x_o

And I'm not planning on making a move anytime this year, because I'm quite content with stressing out over finals and driving, rather than a boyfriend who probably won't last me through highschool. And if he does last through highschool, well. He can wait a year or two.

 

[Gunn]

Yes, yes, I have a crush on someone. Eighteen years old and in high school that I am, so its kind of hard to avoid these types of things. Thank goodness its almost over though. Anyway, I have a crush on this boy. He's younger than me and what I have really noticed about him is how he frequently changes his physical appearance. I remember his hair being longer than it is right now. And I have to say, it looks better short. We don't know each other that well, and I think he is assuming that I hate him. I called him a name last year; a name which I cannot reveal here. He didn't seem to take it seriously, but I think what I said to him is being held against me and used as a reason to hate me.

Oh well. I admit that I don't have much of a crush on him now as I did last year.

 

[Minuteman III]

I'm personally not in love, buuuuuuuuuuuuut..............


Three girls seem to have a crush on me. One of them is not very obvious(i.e. She doesn't say "I Love John Doe*", at least not very often). The other two are completely opposite. You know what, I'm really pissed off at that. I don't really give a damn about them unless someone brings it up, in which case I tell them to go get a sanity check, because I'm-not-in-love-and-if-I-was-I'd-be-dead.



*placeholder for real name, which is classified.

The bomb is metaphorical, not literal.

 

[Binary]

Yeah, I've got a crush on a girl, shes so nice, so beautiful and we're good friends....
I think she knows about my feelings for her, but oh well no biggy. The problem is, she has another boyfriend :( Ohwell, life is life....

 

[LethalTexture]

I don't know if this applies to 13-15 year olds, but telling a girl 'how you feel' isn't very smart if you want the girl. It makes you look like a wuss and you need her approval and that you can't keep your own emotions in check, hence why you "need" to tell her and get that stuff off your mind.

You don't need to spill your guts like that to let someone (mainly a girl) know that you I care about them. Instead of being a needy and clingy guy who has to let the other person know how they feel, you shouldn't care. From what it sounds like, you're just saying that to get it off YOUR chest because it is 'killing' you inside and you believe it's going to let her know you care about her in some way. That's not respectful at all.

Telling someone how you "feel" is bull****, as it takes away all the magic out of the attraction. Never tell a girl you like her, as that's the end of the game. I don't see this as some big, melodramatic thing that kills you inside. I think of it as something that can be enjoyable and fun, rather than something to 'kill you inside'.

It's good to make the girl think you're not interested, then you are, then you're not. You'd be playing hot and cold, hard to get. You'd let them wonder about what you're thinking, doing and whether you feel the same way. Then they'd miss you a bit because they'd then be more into you.

It's a fact: girls AND guys enjoy the chase.

I have to agree that is total rubbish, too. Don't do this people, or you'll end up really regretting it like I did. If I can find my post from the old problems thread, I'll plonk it in here.

EDIT: I can't. *Sigh*, I guess I'll try and reiterate what I put. Well, to me this isn't a crush, it's much depper than that. She is a beautiful, slender girl with long flowing brown hair and deep brown eyes that make you melt when you look into them. She is like a female version of myself and I love her more than anything in the world. Trouble is, my best friend decided to abuse my trust and go out with her instead. After he knew how I felt about her and how much I'd tried. My heart was ripped out by the one person I thought I could trust with my life, and I'll never regret anything more than not asking her sooner than I did. We felt the same way, and I decided not to ask her out because I didn't want to compromise the friendship. So at the moment, I can't be with her. But I've made it quite clear that my feelings aren't gonna change.

 

[Phanima]

I'm not the kind of person who'd probably do well in an intimate relationship or get married, but that's just getting waaaaaaay ahead of myself. x3 Friends til the end~ C:

Anyway~ I've only had two significant crushes irl (heaps with anime/manga xP), the first starting in primary school and the second in high school. My first crush was on a girl who was kind of vertically challenged (not a little person but she was short) and she was just really sweet, kind and nice. I specifically remember how we first met, it's quite stupid really but a fond memory nonetheless. She dropped her pencil shavings case and it spilled out all over the floor and since I was sitting right next to her, I helped pick everything up. We became friends (you can become friends with people for the simplest reasons in primary school xP) and it kinda got out that I liked her. >> Still, nothing ever happened and after grade 7 we never saw each other again, which was a little disappointing.

Anywho~ my next crush was on a friend of mine from high school. We still keep in contact today and he's a really great guy, although a little shameless at times. xP He's your typical tall, light and handsome, plus he tends to tease me a bit which I enjoy for odd reasons. Of course, he's undeniably straight so I guess nothing'll ever happen, but he still woos me from time to time. ^^;

 

[LipstickTraces]

i used to have a crush who i have recently got over. she told me she didnt want us to happen, which was a real shame because i really liked her. ah well, its not the first times its happened to me. but i stand aside what i believe, that nobody is out of anybodies league, its an FA Cup / Superbowl final out there, anything goes and anybody can win it ;)

 

[Storm-DC]

I love Gofre.. he is cool. i have a crush on him

 

[Bug Catcher Nick]

its an FA Cup / Superbowl final out there, anything goes and anybody can win it

...only if you qualify

 

[LipstickTraces]

Yeah, I have a huge crush on this girl who I've been friends with for over a year now. I could go on for hours about how awesome she is, but I'll spare all you people from that. I've had a bunch of crushes before, but this one's the first one I've actually taken seriously. Eventually it became too much for me to bear and I went ahead and told her. I would have done it earlier if it I hadn't been afraid it'd ruin our friendship, which it thankfully didn't. I'm content with the two of us just being friends although it'll take some time before I can let go of my crush on her for good since it's a rather persistent one. ._.

yes ive also been inthis situation, its very annoying isnt it? but its all for the best cause, youll learn a lot of things that may one day save your marriage... lol

...only if you qualify

lol true, but keep in mind if you dont believe you can win it then you never will get hold of those crown jewels... or the cup. lol