Serious Who are you?

[Nina]

What defines you as a person?
Do you even have something that does?
When in your life did it become clear?
What happens if that were to change?
What happens when someone can't define themselves?


I thought my value in this world was being an artist, but it turns out it's become increasingly desperate to separate myself from that being my value as a person. While I've made positive changes, I don't know how to define myself anymore. If I skip straight to my new job being who I am, what happens if I fail again? Nevermind the implications of your self-worth being what your job is, in the first place. But yeah, I'd like to hear some thoughts about this. I'd like to hear if your answer is I don't know as well, as I feel like a lot of people might not know.

 

[colours]

Count me in as one of those "I don't know" people, yet.

To a large degree, I have a firm belief that working anywhere in tech is pretty much my only value as a person... but I've never really given thought to any sort of backup plan should that fail. In fact, the very thought itself just kind of makes me uncomfortable, because I realize I'm putting all of my eggs in one basket.

I suppose I don't want to be defined as what I do anymore. I'm me, and that's what should matter in the end right? I'm not my job, I'm my own person just working a job to live like everyone else, right?

 

[juliorain]

What defines you as a person?
My personality, my appearance, my actions and what I have done so far. I am, metaphorically, speaking, I have yet to truly realize. My family history, my position in society, and everything else relating to me.

Do you even have something that does?
I have plenty of adventures, experience, and a career ahead of me

When in your life did it become clear?
It is a continuous process of self-discovery for me.

What happens if that were to change?
I'm open-minded so ready to change if need to be. I thought I was going to be an artist, theoretical physicist, now planning on becoming a game developer. Life leads you in many ways, just have to be open to the changing currents in life.

What happens when someone can't define themselves?
Then they live life in existential limbo. Some people are content with living their lives as they do and some want more specificity. Recently gender identity and sexual identity has become a defining and important label for those who aren't heterosexual and cisgendered and are part of the majority.

 

[noa]

What defines you as a person?
Do you even have something that does?

I am me. I'm Noa, I'm (name I use irl with family and coworkers). I'm just me. I'm a person who just wants to be happy, and to make the people I love happy. Being as simple and clear as possible, that is who I am.

When in your life did it become clear?

Always? I think i've always had a good sense of self awareness and my purpose in this world, but my purpose has become especially clear over the past two years.

What happens if that were to change?

If who I am changes, I don't think i'd notice. It's human nature to change. My purpose in life might even change in the next few years. That's the nature of life.

What happens when someone can't define themselves?

I imagine they would feel very scared and lost. I've had many times in my life where i've lost my way and thought "who am i, really?" but I always end up working it out with myself and once again realizing my purpose in life, which is to be happy, and to make the people in my life happy.

 

[VisionofMilotic]

Ever since I can remember I had a strong sense of self, and who I was, and was fundamentally comfortable. My life also was full of constant change as well ever since I can remember, my parents split up, their jobs, income levels and schedules changed, I lived in many different houses and apartments and with different family members, moved to new cities, states, countries, changed schools, lost friends. Life does not stand still, and for that reason I think trying to "define yourself" is a fallacy. If your identity is built around a label then it is not a strong one, If and when the thing you define yourself by is taken away (say your appearance, career, home, the relationship you are in) then your whole identity is also in doubt, and that is not knowing who you are. The core "me" is deeper than that.

"I exist as I am, that is enough." - Walt Whitman

 

[gimmepie]

Human beings are far too complex to define with a single trait. Everyone from the most evil tyrants to the purest of souls aren't just those things, they are a complex patchwork of a million different traits that come together to form a distinctive and unique personality. Personally, I think the idea of choosing to define yourself by a single trait not only makes you kinda boring, but it's going against your very nature and that can't be healthy.

Me? I'm a smartass, I'm sarcastic, I'm a creative, I'm a dancer and choreographer, I'm a writer, I'm too sick to do half the things I want to do, I'm frugal but have bursts of being the opposite, I'm bullish and stubborn, I'm loyal, I have strong principals that I won't deviate from, I'm depressed, anxious, autistic, I've probably got OCD, I'm a weeb, enjoy TV and movies, I like to read, I don't like non-fiction books but love documentaries, I'm a good cook, I love pie, I'm cynical and a realist, I don't trust easily, I enjoy gaming but I'm not super dedicated to it except maybe for Pokemon, I don't like fast-paced group conversation or small talk but love deeper conversations in small groups, I have a tendency to come off as an asshole, I'm intelligent, I can't stand inequality or being talked down to etc etc etc etc. That's just some of the things you could say to describe me and there's probably a lot more things that I'd never even think of too. I'm not defined by a singular one of those traits, but together those traits help make me who I am.