Why should you get to choose

[Kikaito plush]

Why is it that some people get to pick and choose important stuff then making you do it
using this as my example:

My Brother in law got to choose not to take his son to his Appointment tomorrow (reason: he's too scared too) and making me take him. Which I think Brother in law being selfish, he knows I don't like hospitals by not going into much detail here.

Why should you get to choose stuff like that ?

 

[Khawill]

Well it's all about how well you are at saying no, and then comes down to are you all bark or do you have a bite. People can't force you to do anything, you can easily leave his son considering you wouldn't even get in trouble, (but you have a moral obligation to do it)

In your situation this is just a case of your inability to decline, or maybe a fear of your brother (I doubt that, seeing as he trusts you with his son)

 

[.Skylight.]

As much as it is not right to drag someone along, a person always has a choice to say yes or no. It's not easy to say no to someone so we say yes, in return we feel content for doing it. If someone does not care about doing what is right even though it does not have a big impact such as that situation then it's not a big deal. However, it's their choice, but a lot of people feel good about being dragged along in the end.

If I had to go somewhere I would take someone with me as well, not because I have to but because it is company and that is always nice to have. It depends, you can do what you want, no pressure is actually forced upon you other than the pressure you force upon yourself when making the decision to accompany someone or not. I'm not the best at saying no, I'll admit that.

 

[Sydian]

That's...silly. That's his son. He should take him. It's his responsibility. There's the difference. When you have to do something for the benefit of your child, like taking them to the doctor, you should do it. Otherwise...just...idk that would piss me off and I'd tell him to take his own child. :| Seriously.

That being said, you do have the choice to do what you want, but if it's gonna harm someone then you shouldn't.

 

[Shiny Celebi]

I think the key is being assertive and knowing how to say no.It takes practice and a lot of people( including myself) are pretty scared of this but sometimes you have to stand up for yourself if you dont want to do something, otherwise, people will think they can walk all over you which isn't good.