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    hopefully we are all out of the woods and understand that there is so much to gender than just boy/girl and that we are past thinking that no one can ever change what they were assigned with
    the world is a melting pot of gender identity & expression and i would like to think that pc has a fair amount of those who do not fit in the binary

    so, that being said, what gender do you identify as, if you identify with one at all?
     
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    Captain Barnacle said:
    I identify as a male. And this is because I am a male. Therefore I must be male.
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    dragonnite said:
    i identify as 80% female but was born male (sigh) i just like to say
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    i'm interested in both your responses, given that they're p much the opposite of each other and allow me to use this thread for it's intended purpose: openness and discussion

    how did you two come to your respective conclusions about your identities?
     
    I identify as a male. Born a male and identify as one.
     
    Aphrodite said:
    no one can ever change what they were assigned with
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    Maybe I'm a little hazy today, but I disagree with this statement. Depends on the semantics really I guess though.

    I identify as trans female though so I guess that explains my opinion.
     
    Very unfamiliar with the subject honestly as I have never really questioned myself about it. I have always been attracted to women, tend to have an A-Type male personality and just never really got in touch with my feminine side I guess. How this happened I will never know because I was raised by a single mother and I guess that may have something to do with it because psychologically I always had to be the "Man of the house" as it were.
    Anyways like I said I never really questioned it or felt uncomfortable with my gender identity. I have always felt like a male and I was born a male so it is what it is. I do have some gay friends who are male and identify as males but are also gay and it never seems uncomfortable either because we all know what is what.
    I know it seems a little sexist and closed minded to say, "I am a male because thats how I feel" but thats pretty much how simple it is for me.
     
    Nyro said:
    Very unfamiliar with the subject honestly as I have never really questioned myself about it. I have always been attracted to women, tend to have an A-Type male personality and just never really got in touch with my feminine side I guess. How this happened I will never know because I was raised by a single mother and I guess that may have something to do with it because psychologically I always had to be the "Man of the house" as it were.
    Anyways like I said I never really questioned it or felt uncomfortable with my gender identity. I have always felt like a male and I was born a male so it is what it is. I do have some gay friends who are male and identify as males but are also gay and it never seems uncomfortable either because we all know what is what.
    I know it seems a little sexist and closed minded to say, "I am a male because thats how I feel" but thats pretty much how simple it is for me.
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    There's nothing sexist nor closed minded about that. :)
     
    That would make sense lol, most of your post conflicted with that which is why I brought it up.
     
    technically I am androgynous but I don't care so I usually just accept my sex, which is female

    I had a phase where I didn't understand but that was more due to external pressures, I've always felt comfortable with my androgyny, I am physically very androgynous which helps as well.

    so I am androgynous, but for simplicity's sake I call myself a chick, since most times people want to know your sex and not your gender I have noticed.
     
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    You know what I don't understand? A lot of the time, people who identify more as the opposite gender, also be the ones who tend to not believe in gender binaries and roles, which is so incredibly confusing because if you identify as the opposite gender, you subscribe to their gender binaries and their gender roles.
     
    This reminds me of a personality test that we did at my highschool where for whatever reason they measured our 'masculinity' and 'femininity'. I guess it worked as most guys scored measured highly in masculinity and low in femininity, and vice-versa for the girls, but weirdly for me I measured very low in both. So apparently I'm an alien or something.

    In all seriousness though I am a male and I guess I identify as such. I would say it's less of a case of 'identifying' as such, but I just am a male and I've never seen any need to question it. I think that sort of stems into the thing I don't fully understand about the transgender issue which is the need to be identified as the other sex from the public at large. I don't have any problem with how a person wants to dress, whatever sexual orientation, or whatever they do behind closed doors with other consenting adults, it really doesn't bother me at all, but I just don't understand the need to be referred to as by certain pronouns. It just seems so arbitrary to me. I actually don't know any trans-gender people in my personal life, so maybe I'd have a different perspective if I did. Maybe someone could explain it to me in person and educate me as to how it is necessary, but otherwise I've known plenty of gay people who dress however they like and break the typical mould of how to typically dress, speak and act relative to there gender, but they still ultimately identify as the sex they were born as. Maybe it's just a hang-up on my end as I don't even really care if someone accidentally calls me a 'she' as it's just a pronoun. I just don't get how people can put so much stock in what pronoun people use to refer to them.
     
    Vinny Vidi Vici said:
    In all seriousness though I am a male and I guess I identify as such. I would say it's less of a case of 'identifying' as such, but I just am a male and I've never seen any need to question it. I think that sort of stems into the thing I don't fully understand about the transgender issue which is the need to be identified as the other sex from the public at large. I don't have any problem with how a person wants to dress, whatever sexual orientation, or whatever they do behind closed doors with other consenting adults, it really doesn't bother me at all, but I just don't understand the need to be referred to as by certain pronouns. It just seems so arbitrary to me. I actually don't know any trans-gender people in my personal life, so maybe I'd have a different perspective if I did. Maybe someone could explain it to me in person and educate me as to how it is necessary, but otherwise I've known plenty of gay people who dress however they like and break the typical mould of how to typically dress, speak and act relative to there gender, but they still ultimately identify as the sex they were born as. Maybe it's just a hang-up on my end as I don't even really care if someone accidentally calls me a 'she' as it's just a pronoun. I just don't get how people can put so much stock in what pronoun people use to refer to them.
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    it matters that we get referred to by our correct pronouns because to not do so is to deny us our identity
    to deny us our identity is an act of violence that so often results in our murder or suicide
     
    Aphrodite said:
    it matters that we get referred to by our correct pronouns because to not do so is to deny us our identity
    to deny us our identity is an act of violence that so often results in our murder or suicide
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    That's sort of my point though, you shouldn't base your identity from a mere pronoun. When it comes down to it, I will refer to anyone as whatever they want to, it just confuses me as to why that is so important. I'm actually not big on pronouns anyway, I prefer to call people by name.
     
    Vinny Vidi Vici said:
    That's sort of my point though, you shouldn't base your identity from a mere pronoun. When it comes down to it, I will refer to anyone as whatever they want to, it just confuses me as to why that is so important. I'm actually not big on pronouns anyway, I prefer to call people by name.
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    not being referred to in a way that supports and encourages ones gender identity reinforces the dysphoria a person may be having
    the pronouns come after the decision of gender identity happens

    but this isn't a debate thread so anything else will have to come to my profile
     
    I am a female, and... I am a female. But I like to say I am human. Not because I am not confortable with who I am, but because I don't like labels. I am not "looking like a woman" only because I am one. I like to like what I want and not what society want me to like.
     
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