Maybe it's only cringey when I say it... quite impressive that you can work it without making him cringe, but I kinda think the fun is in the cringe factor.
Because a few of my friends from the forum are people I meet up with, we can casually say "fourplay" in public and we will get very strange looks depending on the context of what we're talking about. It's worth it. The great thing was, because we were into it for like 15 months, it just became a name rather than like, anything with ulterior connotations!