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Old August 19th, 2011 (9:16 AM).
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Do you feel guilty very easily, even if someone isn't really your fault, or do you just shrug things off and move on? Do you believe more things are your fault than they really are, or do you try to make excuses and place blame elsewhere? How do you deal with guilt?
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Old August 19th, 2011 (10:27 AM).
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Nah. My conscience is well... I dunno how to explain it. If it was a horrible thing, I would probably feel very guilty.

...But I mostly shrug things off. I'm a horrible person. But I don't blame other people for my actions.
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Old August 19th, 2011 (2:55 PM).
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I tend to glaze over things, and not worry about them unless it's a very severe situation.
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Old August 19th, 2011 (3:06 PM).
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I feel guilty for a lot of things, even though I may not be involved in some of them. I deal with guilt by pacing around or apologizing to the person in question.

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Old August 19th, 2011 (4:37 PM).
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Generally the only time I'll do something wrong and not feel guilty is when I can tell the person I've wronged is trying to make me feel guilty. Once that happens, it's quite easy to snap out of the guilt and deem it their problem. Apologising is all you can do, really - if people still want to be angry about whatever it is you did then all you can do is detach from the situation and let them deal with it on their own time rather than wasting yours with the pettiness of it all.

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Old August 19th, 2011 (4:52 PM).
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Baaaw I feel guilty about everything. If I do something wrong I'll feel bad, even if it's the smallest thing in the world. ;___; I blame my low self-esteem; it makes me think everything's my fault even when some things are, or I'll blow things out of proportion.

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Old August 19th, 2011 (6:04 PM).
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Yup. One of my many flaws. Even if I didn't play a major part in it, I'll still feel bad. Hopefully I'll be able to get over that, but so far it doesn't look like I will.

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Old August 19th, 2011 (8:50 PM).
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I have a pretty active conscience. I'll feel bad for a lot of things, but if it's something I have no control over then I just shrug it off.
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Old August 19th, 2011 (9:09 PM).
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I feel overly guilty when I do something even remotely bad, unless the person that I did something "bad" to doesn't deserve what I did.

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Old August 20th, 2011 (3:06 AM).
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I feel guilty about everything that I do wrong. And when other people do things wrong, especially if I was with them I'm like "I should've stopped them this is my fault oh my God."

However if the person involved comes to me and tries to make me feel guilty then I generally don't feel guilty, that's almost as if they don't really care they're just trying to get the satisfaction of making me guilty about something. When I feel guilty I'll go out of my way to fix things and stuff.
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Old August 20th, 2011 (4:23 AM).
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I don't really feel guilty about stuff unless it was something really horrible and I had a rather large part in it. Other than that, I don't feel much guilt. And I'm definitely not the type to try to blame myself for something that's mainly another party's fault.

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Old August 21st, 2011 (1:27 AM).
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    People tend to say I have very high moral flexibility, but I do tend to feel guilty about bad stuff that I've genuinely caused. As for feeling too guilty, that's something I don't experience, but I like to think I experience a requisite amount of guilt for my actions. I'd like to think that, but it's probably not true!
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    Old August 21st, 2011 (4:06 AM).
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      I don't feel guilty at all especially when I have done something very bad. I guess I can withstand my conscience.


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      Old August 25th, 2011 (5:48 PM).
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      I feel guilty pretty easily for anything I do wrong, even if it's a mistake. Just today I knocked over a glass on accident and chipped the lip and I was just mortified that I'd done that. It's not something that happens all the time, but it's often enough so I'm generally someone who feels guilty for something or other.
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      Old August 25th, 2011 (6:13 PM).
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        Yes. I do tend to feel guilt quite often, though its typically one large series of events rather than a singular act. I will go to extents to place myself more blame than I really should have.

        And on how I deal with guilt, I do many things to keep my mind busy and away from thoughts. I just can't get over stuff, so I do random things like writing, or playing music, drawing, any form of expression really.
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        Old August 26th, 2011 (8:11 AM).
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        I feel guilty about tons of stuff even if it wasn't my fault/mistake/etc lol.
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        Old August 27th, 2011 (5:55 PM).
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          I tend to feel guilty after every single thing that I happened to be involved in even if it happened really early such as over ten years ago or longer. It sure would be nice if I could shrug things off like some other people can because such memories stay with me for life and I tend to be dwelling on such stuff constantly.

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          Old September 5th, 2011 (12:53 AM).
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          I do the slightest big wrong and I feel really guilty xD Like I accidentally drop a piece of paper.. I feel guilty for not picking it up. If I accidentally nudged someone who was doing art... I feel guilty. It's another reason why I say sorry so often to the fact it gets annyoing
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          Old September 5th, 2011 (6:45 AM).
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          Yes. I get guilty way too easy. I also get guilty when somebody hates me and I know it. I feel like I did something really wrong and it eats me away. Sometimes it's bad because even if I hate somebody because of something they did and I don't do something for them I feel bad.


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          Old September 5th, 2011 (5:42 PM).
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            something i've noticed about myself and others is that, in the moment we're called to make a decision, we don't always think we're in the wrong. actions usually aren't revealed to the decision-maker to have been the more destructive choice until the situation is played out. that said, we learn from our mistakes, and no one should ever feel super low for making mistakes. dwelling over your faux pas is as useless and detrimental as holding a grudge against another, no one learns from being pitiful and no one has clean hands.

            someone i care about very much is very self-loathing and guilt-ridden (he's catholic, go figure), he digs himself deeper and deeper into a hole of responsibilities because his misery makes him too exhausted to face them. i have to constantly remind him that he's not dismissing his faults by only trying to understand himself and his circumstances. that way, he's not a person who is bad, but a person who is growing. i guess that's my advice for anyone who is in a similar state of perpetual self-condemnation.
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            Old September 5th, 2011 (5:49 PM).
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            I feel guilty when things go wrong or if there is a problem. I hang on to it forever and its hard to forget. Even if its a little mistake, I am rather hard on myself about it forever and try too hard to fix everything, because I often think its my fault, that its my responsiblity to fix it. I never want anyone else to be blamed for what I feel I did.
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            Old September 8th, 2011 (6:04 PM).
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            Yes, I feel guilty of most situations whether they are my fault or not, really. And I'd feel even worse if it was my fault because I usually would try anything to remedy the situation or be forgiven in any way. ;___; I don't like it when people are mad at me or when certain situations turn out to be my fault, so I try to make it better somehow, idk. D:

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            Old September 8th, 2011 (6:42 PM).
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            I get pretty guilty as well, even if I know it wasn't me or am not at all responsible for something, if somebody, even as a joke, blames or puts guilt onto me, I will feel it, I will feel bad...
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