Is it acceptable to not want kids?

There's nothing wrong with not choosing to have kids, the "oh she's an old hag with no kids" is just a stereotype, there's no rule that says you need to.
Sure, most of us do end up having kids, but at 21 you shouldn't have to make the decision, just enjoy your life.
 
I don't want to be in a relationship, let alone have kids. I ain't gonna be judging you, o0PinkSquid0o!
 
It's perfectly acceptable for someone to not want kids. Your life, your choice.
As for me, I don't think I've reached a level of mental maturity in which I can really decide. But, I can see myself settled down with a family in the future.
 
There's nothing wrong with that at all, if you don't want kids it's your decision, lol.

Although reproduction isn't all about physically having kids, you could always share your thoughts with parents and or their kids, and possibly influence them. It's like having a mind child, lol. :P

Because really, what's the point in having kids just to have them? Wow, your genetics are passed on, such an accomplishment. :|

I think the real reason why a lot of people want kids is so they can influence them and hope they stay on a good path and do good in life, otherwise there's no point in just popping out babies left and right. :P
 
Thanks for all the comments guys :O its good to see I am not alone in thinking its fine not to have them!

I think The ladies reaction to me not wanting them just made me think that it was frowned upon or something! I'm 21, I'm still really young and have a lot of growing to do, but I do live with my BF in our own house and sometimes think about kids, I'm pretty sure I don't want them but never know what the future holds :S
 
Rekky said:
I don't want to be in a relationship, let alone have kids. I ain't gonna be judging you, o0PinkSquid0o!
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Basically what he said. Too much of a hassle to go through marriage and such.
 
Some people just don't want to have kids and that is just that. Although, I do know some people that never wanted kids and got pregnant, and they are glad that they had a child. Not everyone is like that I know, but you can never know what can happen.

Ayselipera said:
As far as I'm concerned it's completely fine to not want to have kids. As of and now and maybe even forever I have no intention of ever having a child. I just don't have the slightest interest.

I'm pretty vocal about never having kids and often times it's met with angry adults, but when it comes to certain things I just don't care at all what other people think. I know what's right for me and as of now not having kids is working just fine. I don't even like children to begin with and I know I'll be a terrible parent. With that said I think it's far better to recognize why you don't want to have children and then go from there. You'd think those same people who get so angry would realize I'm actually thinking for the child who would suffer under my parenting. :)

To sum it all up. You know why or why not you want to have children and that's all that matters.
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I agree with you.
 
If you don't them then you don't have to have them.
 
The shock and anger you might get from some people when you say you don't plan to have kids is probably because the idea isscary to them. They might have been raised in a time or place when it was an accepted thing that everyone wanted to have children. Your not fitting into that worldview can be difficult for them to accept and cause them to lash out, calling you the strange one because you don't fint into their mold. They may also have their own desire to have children and they may not be able to conceive of someone who doesn't (similar to how some heterosexual people can't conceive of the possibility of people being naturally homosexual). They might also have children who they hope will give them grandchildren one day and are afraid that their kids will be influenced by the idea that people don't have to want to have children so they try to keep that idea from spreading.

I'm just speculating about that last one.
 
I don't have a problem is somebody doesn't have kids.

I don't know about writing it off altogether. When your in your early 20s isn't necessarily how you'll feel in your early 30s. Your lifestyle changes. People change.

If you want kids, that's great. If you don't, that's cool too.
 
Whatever you do, don't let people dictate what you do. Having a child is indeed a HUGE choice to make...it's best to avoid rushing it if you can.

That being said, if you never feel ready for children of your own, then so be it. It's nobody's place to judge you for that.

I know that I personally don't want children yet. I'm far from ready for it, and I know I'm far too immature to deal with it. Just the thought of having a relationship with a woman who insists on having kids right away scares me to death! I don't ever want to be rushed into that decision, and I don't want to have kids until I know I'm ready to support it.
 
Scarf said:
The shock and anger you might get from some people when you say you don't plan to have kids is probably because the idea isscary to them. They might have been raised in a time or place when it was an accepted thing that everyone wanted to have children. Your not fitting into that worldview can be difficult for them to accept and cause them to lash out, calling you the strange one because you don't fint into their mold. They may also have their own desire to have children and they may not be able to conceive of someone who doesn't (similar to how some heterosexual people can't conceive of the possibility of people being naturally homosexual). They might also have children who they hope will give them grandchildren one day and are afraid that their kids will be influenced by the idea that people don't have to want to have children so they try to keep that idea from spreading.

I'm just speculating about that last one.
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I really like what you wrote, I think this also works towards a lot of other things too. For instance, religion, if you tell a religious person you're not into their religion they'd probably get a bit annoyed (not all religious people, just some) So it must apply to some people who really want kids or enjoy having kids.
 
"I expressed my feelings about having children and children in general to a lady at work who was pestering me about her own child and she was outraged by my attitude towards having children, like it was so politically incorrect for me to never want kids. shutting down my opinion like it was nothing but hers meant everything."

She needs to realize everyone is entitled to what they see fit for themselves. If you don't want kids that is perfectly acceptable. A lot of people can barely get by financially to feed themselves much less children. On top of that it takes a huge responsibility to care and raise children for some people it is just not for them. I personally wouldn't mind either way, but I am not going to down somebody because they want or don't want children. If you don't want children more power to yea. Some people that have children say out of unprotected sex don't even want them so that says a lot about some people that have children. It seems more incorrect for those type of people who are irresponsibility then it does for people who don't want children period.
 
It's perfectly acceptable. I know myself that I would be financially unable to raise a child and with my temper I probably shouldn't raise any, either. I don't believe there is any sort of law requiring having kids, and so it should be your decision.
 
Honestly, I don't really want kids..
okay maybe just one

I think its perfectly fine to not want children. Everyone has different views on it, and we should respect that. Having a child is quite the responsibility.
 
No kids for me, thank you very much. I have a slew of reasons, but I'm too tired right now to remember them all. XD
 
I think its fine to not want kids, just because one couple decides not to have kids, it won't effect the entire population dramatically. We're already overpopulated enough if you ask me :/
 
I've never been shot down for it, but I'm very openly vocal about the fact that I don't want kids. Spending a couple of decades or more out of my own life to bring up others does not sound like something I want to pursue when I'd rather dedicate myself wholly to my career, my hobbies, and basically myself. I'd like to get married, too, but again, I'd want for me and my husband to just enjoy each other and our partnership, and not bring kids into it. I also don't want to pass on my genes and have to put up with what my parents put up with when I was little. And, obviously, if I don't want kids at all, I won't want them enough to bother adopting either.

Gotta agree with Charizard, there, too. The human population is ridiculous, and if anything it's helping matters when people who don't want kids don't procreate. People shouldn't have kids unless they want to and are prepared for it. It's no one's 'duty' to have them, especially now.
 
I don't see how it can be not acceptable to not have kids, to be honest. It's really the choice of you and your pair to decide that. However, if it comes to me, I would most likely have children, seeing as I like to have a kind of big family, and it would feel lonely with only my wife around me. Not 5 or so kids, two would be more than enough.
 
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