I really didn't intend on replying to anyone who replied to my reply, but it was nice that it got some attention, so I feel the need to reply back to those who took the time to answer my questions.
Let's talk more than Hue :3
I dunno, personally it bothers me when people act very flamboyant but claim to be straight.
But not every straight male is 100% masculine 100% of the time. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with finding people who act flamboyant to be a bad thing because I'm sure one's view on what is flamboyant can be different to someone else. But that's besides the point.
I've grown to learn that if you do one thing that isn't accepted in society to be typically masculine, someone is going to think something is wrong with you and assume it's something regarding your sexuality. Just as how if you're a woman and you do something that's even a little masculine, eyebrows raise. And, of course, the thing they ask themselves first is "Is she a lesbian?" We have nothing but stereotypical gender roles to be blamed for this, however.
But you may have different opinions and a completely different reason for you feeling that way considering the fact that you're on the other side of it.
When I went to a school dance wearing a dress I didn't think it was such a big deal, but the kids who threw rocks at me sure did.
I mean, I knew I'd be noticed, but you get my point. Other people make it a big deal for you. It's important to know who it's safe to be open with so sometimes you say "Hey, I'm _____. That okay?" or "Are there other _____ people around?"
@ Patchisou Yutohru
I imagine one of many reasons has to do with societal beliefs and the norm... At a young age you more or less learn that it is inevitable you will grow up, and marry and have kids, or something to that effect. Throw in a few factors (like being gay) and that throws it out of wack.
Aside from repercussion from deviating from the norm, other things might occur so as for legitimizing the need for such a group thing.
That's what I don't understand. Why do people have to make a big deal out of what another person is doing with their life? Why do they have to make someone else's business their business and put themselves in the middle of it? We shouldn't have to live in a society so dominated by sexuality. So long as it doesn't affect someone, they should have no concern over how you live your life nor have any need or desire to criticize the way you're born. Of course, this clearly isn't the case.
Welcome to the debate, as this is what my point was 3 pages ago. Thanks for re-typing it for me and agreeing with me. At least someone agrees with me, and they didn't even read my posts.
I've been reading your stance on the matter for a while and at first I really didn't understand where you were coming from until you replied a few pages back or so with a rather long reply that most would consider to be a little bit tl;dr, but I'm used to that. It really got me wanting to reply, but I didn't know how. I find it strange how so many people are jumping to a conclusion that you're obviously not trying to make.
I understand where you're coming from and I agree with you on all but one. I'm aware that this thread is for support. Due to society, being any sexual orientation other than straight is not an easiest thing to be in the world. Looking for people you can connect with, which I believe is the point of this thread, not to debate the rights of others or anything that has also been discussed prior to this. It's only natural to look for acceptance of others and people who you can connect with. I don't think the original poster did anything wrong in creating this thread. This thread has managed to become a lot more active and lasted a lot longer than others have in the past and that's rather shocking to me.
