out of sight out of mind

[Yoshikkko]

I had a very good friend in primary school, but after we "parted ways" we stopped seeing eachother and that made us grow apart, while when we were together I didn't hesitate to say that she was the best friend of my life.

Does this go for you? When you are not seeing or hearing someone for a long period of time? I know of myself that I have to maintain my friendships and put effort in them or else they just water away kinda. Also, how do you deal with it if you, like me in primary school, part ways with the friends you had there? no bullet points :(

 

[Overlord Drakow]

The friendships I have made in my younger days usually wither away with time. I moved country from Australia to the United Kingdom aged thirteen and I pretty much lost contact with all of my old buddies in down under. I finished my secondary school and when I went to university, my previous friendships also receded away. I've finished my degree and though I have met up with my university friends once, I also believe those friendships will slowly disappear too. I think it's just the way I am. It's cool if I get to hang out with old friends again and stuff but if it doesn't happen, then it's not such a big deal to me either way. Very rarely am I the one to put forth the effort to re-establish contact with old friends.

 

[Broken_Arrow]

actually i don't think that out of sight out of mind..personaly,i lost dear people and also left lots of dear friends and i keep thinking about them from time to time...also Umm,there is someone i don't see but isn't out of my mind though *rolleys*..i'm just not agree with that...^^

 

[Rogue planet]

My friendships never last, I have pretty much gotten used to it. I've never had a friend for more than 2 years, and even then it's only a handful who have lasted that long. Most friends last 6 months to a year at most. Sometimes I get sad, but then I remember there's a reason we're not friends any more; none of them were very good friends lmfao.

 

[Broken_Arrow]

^i believe when you find a good friend..it's hard to let him\her go that easy even if he\she left or lives away from you...that's my opinion..:)

 

[Misheard Whisper]

I moved schools a fair bit up until starting high school, so yeah, most of my friends just faded away. I can't even remember the names of any of my friends up to age seven, and only then because I had a friend then who I still see on the bus now and then. But I only tended to have one or two friends at a time, and then when I moved schools I didn't see them again. Last few years, I've settled down a bit, though, which means I've had the same friends for a while now. Half of them graduated last month, though . . .

 

[Mr Cat Dog]

I'm very bad at keeping in touch with old friends. Facebook can only go so far in that regard, and while I'll sometimes comment or 'like' an old friend's status or photo upload, the actual friendship will end up decreasing with time. If said friends try and keep talking to me, I'll certainly not object to it (and I'll reciprocate for the most part), but I'm not the best at making the first move in situations like these, unfortunately.

 

[Oryx]

I moved schools a fair bit up until starting high school, so yeah, most of my friends just faded away. I can't even remember the names of any of my friends up to age seven, and only then because I had a friend then who I still see on the bus now and then. But I only tended to have one or two friends at a time, and then when I moved schools I didn't see them again. Last few years, I've settled down a bit, though, which means I've had the same friends for a while now. Half of them graduated last month, though . . .

Pretty much this. Before my sophomore year of high school I had never been at a school for longer than 2 years, and had moved across the country 3 times, and as a kid I wasn't allowed social networking sites so I couldn't keep up with them. I tried later on but I didn't ever get a reply from my best friend when I was a kid unfortunately. :/ So yeah, most of my friends have faded away over the years except for my best friend, who I've been close to for nearly 8 years now and even though we barely see each other I still love her.

 

[Sammi]

As a kid who never stayed more than four years in one place, sadly all my friends I'd made, I'd forget about once I left. Started back in elementary school: lost an old friend's address. Never mailed her because of it. Sometimes I wonder how bitter she was about it.

Like, I couldn't name any friends from elementary, middle, or high schools. I vaguely remember them, and maybe a handful of fond memories, but for the most part I just plain don't remember. :(

I'm awful with friendships, period. No wonder I'm forever alone.

 

[Meganium]

I move a lot. So it's kinda hard to maintain a lot of friendships along the way. I mean, when I was little I switched schools a lot, and sometimes it's difficult to remember which friends I've made and how I've made. Recently I lost a really good friend due to lack of contact. I promised him that I'd keep in touch, but he got offended. :(

Overall, I love making so many friends... just that my own self comes first thanks to IRL. Keeping in touch with them by facebook, twitter, and maybe a few phone calls or texting are pretty much the only ways. And since I'm moving AGAIN this weekend, I'll be leaving behind even more friends that I've made. I.. really need to stop that, but again... it's life.

 

[ReyRey-Pyon]

I'm barely friends with any of my old friends.
I believe I only have one friend that I managed to stay friends with, even after she's moved away.
I really suck at maintaining friendships, I feel really awkward talking to my friends online, and making the first move and saying hello to them. I almost never message them in IM or invite them to chats or anything. much less call them on the phone/text them. /terrible friend D:

 

[Halcyon]

It just feels awkward to keep in touch with old friends. I mean, they'd went to different schools, they'd continued on with their lives; the person I'd been close relationships with might have changed over time, and I might not like them as much. It just feels weird to keep in touch.

 

[mishy.]

I've been able to maintain some friendships for quite a few years, even though I haven't really spoken to some of them in a while. Still when we do talk it's really great, especially considering that I have never been able to meet her irl. My Best Friend from Elementary School is another I haven't spoken with in a while, but she managed to find me on Facebook after several years, so there's that, I suppose.

Then there is a irl friend that moved away, so she's basically an online friend now. We still keep in touch from time to time, and last week when we were catching up, another person who was in the chatroom we were in basically told us that nothing has changed and everything is the same, since I hadn't been in the chatroom to talk in like...a year, haha!

 

[PlatinumDude]

Sometimes, when I get an RL friend's contact info, I don't really talk to them that much. But then again, I don't really talk to much people in RL.

 

[Yoshikkko]

Pretty much this. Before my sophomore year of high school I had never been at a school for longer than 2 years, and had moved across the country 3 times, and as a kid I wasn't allowed social networking sites so I couldn't keep up with them. I tried later on but I didn't ever get a reply from my best friend when I was a kid unfortunately. :/ So yeah, most of my friends have faded away over the years except for my best friend, who I've been close to for nearly 8 years now and even though we barely see each other I still love her.

Same regarding the friend really, even though I never see her anymore I'll always love her anyway. It's not only highschool that caused it though, she got a boyfriend and she gets obsessed, and kind of neglected our friendship, she's like that :/

 

[Pokemon Trainer Touko]

Nope! :D I've never lost contact with any friends I made irl mainly because I can find them on facebook excepttt for the friends I made when I was in Japan because I lived there for 6 months and then came back and then totally forgot about them >___>;

 

[Shining Raichu]

I had a friend called Brad. He was one of my close friends in primary school and when he told me he was moving away toward the end of the fifth grade I was really, really upset at the thought that I might not see him again. He moved six hours away and we made a promise to call each other every Friday night without fail. We did this for quite a while, probably a year, and he came up in the school holidays sometimes and stayed with me for a week or so at a time...

But after a while, our phone calls got more boring. I moved into high school and so did he, we each had our own friends and we found less and less to talk about. I remember quite often we'd just sit there on either end of the phone in complete silence while we each played Pokemon on our GameBoys lmao, only occasionally bothering to say something.

So yeah, we completely grew apart. I saw him once last year and I still think of him sometimes, we still have each other's numbers in our phones and we have each other on Facebook etc, but in general we don't talk anymore. He called me about two months ago to tell me he'd moved back into town and he now lives about an hour away, so we said we'd meet up and do something but we still haven't...

 

[Truality]

I've been able to maintain some friendships for quite a few years, even though I haven't really spoken to some of them in a while. Still when we do talk it's really great, especially considering that I have never been able to meet her irl. My Best Friend from Elementary School is another I haven't spoken with in a while, but she managed to find me on Facebook after several years, so there's that, I suppose.

Then there is a irl friend that moved away, so she's basically an online friend now. We still keep in touch from time to time, and last week when we were catching up, another person who was in the chatroom we were in basically told us that nothing has changed and everything is the same, since I hadn't been in the chatroom to talk in like...a year, haha!

That's awfully close to what happened to me, replacing all the 'she' with 'he'. I only talk online nowadays with these people.