The Post Your Problems Thread

[Syrex]

Gah... I just wrecked my car a few hours ago -_-
I need to come up with $1000 dollars to get it fixed.

 

[Kishijoten]

The problem is simple. I have like crushed on this guy like for four years and yes I know i mentioned another guy but, this one's better.
His name is Josh and durning science when we were doing popcorn reading he picked me twice, one yesterday and now today. I need some advice. What doe's that tell me?. And in popcorn reading you could pick anyone randomly and out of all the people he chose me TWICE!.
some help please...=_=!.

 

[Rogue planet]

The problem is simple. I have like crushed on this guy like for four years and yes I know i mentioned another guy but, this one's better.

Multiple 'crushes' = bad.
All this indicates is that it's nothing more than infatuation. Ask yourself, do you truly like these guys? Because it seems that you don't really know them on a personal level and you're basing these 'crushes' on trivial things.
In what way is this guy "better" than the last one?

His name is Josh and durning science when we were doing popcorn reading he picked me twice, one yesterday and now today. I need some advice. What doe's that tell me?. And in popcorn reading you could pick anyone randomly and out of all the people he chose me TWICE!.
some help please...=_=!.

That doesn't really tell you anything, he could've picked you out for a number of reasons.
It isn't something that's very personal; so it shouldn't be too embarrassing to just ask him why he chose you?

 

[Pokeyomom]

O wow. You kids:D Cherish the He/She stuff while it lasts:DDD

@Mama Uchiha: You need to not read so deeply into such begnign occurences. I'm trying to hurt your feelings, but it probably doesn't mean anything. You need to cool your jets girl;) Listen to Vendak. You need to ask yourself some searching questions to determine whether you even really like these guys are not.

There are plenty of women I meet who make me feel all fuzzy and warm hahaha. But the fact of the matter is infatuation often masquerades as love at first sight. It's a purely biological response to seeing somethin appealing to the eye. You could very well be crushing on these guys, but don't mistake it for to much more kiddo. Good luck! Get to know them- and go from there;)

@Cyainadeax (or whatever haha): Lighten up buddy. I have been there 2. Cut the excessive introspection if that's whats causing this. you haven't lost trust in anybody... Other than yourself. I can tell you what to do- Go help someone out. Volunteer a few hours to a good cause. You are bound to have someone touch your humanity in this process, and it is always refreshing to feel someones gratitude. People are just people. We are all trying to get by with our hand. Your perception is obviously tainted, and needs a good cleansing. I think reaching out to people, despite your trust in them, will do you much good.

@Syrex: That suuucckks man. Do you have a job? How bad is the damage?

 

[Kishijoten]

Multiple 'crushes' = bad.
All this indicates is that it's nothing more than infatuation. Ask yourself, do you truly like these guys? Because it seems that you don't really know them on a personal level and you're basing these 'crushes' on trivial things.
In what way is this guy "better" than the last one?
That doesn't really tell you anything, he could've picked you out for a number of reasons.
It isn't something that's very personal; so it shouldn't be too embarrassing to just ask him why he chose you?

*sigh* I can't just ask why. He chose me done and done. Like wise I know him for so long so maybe I should well NOT throw him overboard for someone who I barly know.

 

[Chesu]

Does anyone know a way to keep yourself from dwelling on the past? Several times every day, I see, hear or think something that in some way reminds me of a past event that I regret. I'm able to put it out of my mind after a few minutes, but it happens so often that the number of triggers for it is on the rise. There's one major regretful memory, but there are also a lot that are just kind of embarrassing and annoying. For some reason, I just can't stop thinking of these things.

 

[poopnoodle]

Does anyone know a way to keep yourself from dwelling on the past? Several times every day, I see, hear or think something that in some way reminds me of a past event that I regret. I'm able to put it out of my mind after a few minutes, but it happens so often that the number of triggers for it is on the rise. There's one major regretful memory, but there are also a lot that are just kind of embarrassing and annoying. For some reason, I just can't stop thinking of these things.

There are memories that tend to sneak into my thoughts randomly, but I just force myself to be okay with it. If it was an embarrassing situation, I tell myself that I'm human and hope that the people who witnessed the moment don't think about it as much as I do. And if they do, what can you do? I doubt they don't experience embarrassing situations themselves. As for the more painful memories, I just make myself move on. You can't really prevent these memories from entering your mind, they did happen, and the most you can do is accept it and/or use the memories as a lesson.

 

[st.jimmy]

if any of you read my last post here you'll be glad to know i finally got a girlfriend! :)
*off-topic sorrry*

 

[Vigilante]

Does anyone know a way to keep yourself from dwelling on the past? Several times every day, I see, hear or think something that in some way reminds me of a past event that I regret. I'm able to put it out of my mind after a few minutes, but it happens so often that the number of triggers for it is on the rise. There's one major regretful memory, but there are also a lot that are just kind of embarrassing and annoying. For some reason, I just can't stop thinking of these things.

I didn't write this, I just agree with it.
In my case I had to learn to forgive. Whether it was me or others it was still the same answer. I can't say I have forgotten all but I have managed to forgive most. This is not meant to be a religious answer, just that which I had to do to move on in my life. Forgiving myself was actually harder than forgiving others ever was. (and I had a lot to forgive others for) I will never completely forget the pain I and so many others have caused me but I was able to forgive. After all if anyone knows we are all human and all capable of great evil as well as great good it is me.

Develop an optimistic approach toward life. What has happened has happened. We cannot change the past, we can learn from it and try not to make the same mistakes. We can accept that all people are human and therefore will make mistakes. We cannot control others or how they treat us; however we can control how we react. As well we can choose not to deal with individuals that cause us pain.



Now for my problem:
I'm am unhealthy. I weigh 87 pounds and have around 6% body fat or something like that. It is actually really horrible, I mean you can see nearly all of my ribcage. It is rather disgusting. I have a horrible diet, mainly because I don't know what a good diet would consists. I guess eat fruits and vegetables and cut back on bad foods, but what foods? What should/shouldn't I eat?

I run out of breath quickly, and am barely able to lift things that are probably like twenty pounds. I am nearly always tied/lacking sleep which I know because of the black rings/bags around my eyes, which go away if I get good sleep, but I really just can't. I can't get to sleep when I want to, my body just isn't ready for it. I stay awake for a few hours after I have gone off to bed. I will then most likely wake up around 2-3 in the morning. (Falling asleep around 11-12 and going to bed around 9-9:30 ) I also don't have pills or anything of the sort to help me sleep, and they wouldn't be readily available if I ever wanted them. (I am only 13)

 

[beauty. proletariat]

I didn't write this, I just agree with it.
In my case I had to learn to forgive. Whether it was me or others it was still the same answer. I can't say I have forgotten all but I have managed to forgive most. This is not meant to be a religious answer, just that which I had to do to move on in my life. Forgiving myself was actually harder than forgiving others ever was. (and I had a lot to forgive others for) I will never completely forget the pain I and so many others have caused me but I was able to forgive. After all if anyone knows we are all human and all capable of great evil as well as great good it is me.

Develop an optimistic approach toward life. What has happened has happened. We cannot change the past, we can learn from it and try not to make the same mistakes. We can accept that all people are human and therefore will make mistakes. We cannot control others or how they treat us; however we can control how we react. As well we can choose not to deal with individuals that cause us pain.



Now for my problem:
I'm am unhealthy. I weigh 87 pounds and have around 6% body fat or something like that. It is actually really horrible, I mean you can see nearly all of my ribcage. It is rather disgusting. I have a horrible diet, mainly because I don't know what a good diet would consists. I guess eat fruits and vegetables and cut back on bad foods, but what foods? What should/shouldn't I eat?

I run out of breath quickly, and am barely able to lift things that are probably like twenty pounds. I am nearly always tied/lacking sleep which I know because of the black rings/bags around my eyes, which go away if I get good sleep, but I really just can't. I can't get to sleep when I want to, my body just isn't ready for it. I stay awake for a few hours after I have gone off to bed. I will then most likely wake up around 2-3 in the morning. (Falling asleep around 11-12 and going to bed around 9-9:30 ) I also don't have pills or anything of the sort to help me sleep, and they wouldn't be readily available if I ever wanted them. (I am only 13)

I suggest you wake up extra early and go for a morning run. eat a really good breakfast at around 6 or 7 am. That should keep your energy going until around 12 - 1 pm were you should eat muesli bars, yoghurt, and fruits at school. At around 3 - 5 pm just snack on healthy food. You may want to eat alot of low GI food especially at around 3 pm so that you have energy to get through the sluggish second half of the day. Eat dinner at 7 pm. No later. Seriously. Also, keep a bed time of 9 pm. I know you dont like it, but you have to sleep early at this age. I'm struggling to keep my bed time of around 10 pm >.> but hey, you gotta keep at it.

Can you walk to school? Walk. Do some exercises at home such as yoga or muscle strengthening stretches. DONT go gym yet. Do lots of cardio.

 

[Vigilante]

I suggest you wake up extra early and go for a morning run. eat a really good breakfast at around 6 or 7 am. That should keep your energy going until around 12 - 1 pm were you should eat muesli bars, yoghurt, and fruits at school. At around 3 - 5 pm just snack on healthy food. You may want to eat alot of low GI food especially at around 3 pm so that you have energy to get through the sluggish second half of the day. Eat dinner at 7 pm. No later. Seriously. Also, keep a bed time of 9 pm. I know you dont like it, but you have to sleep early at this age. I'm struggling to keep my bed time of around 10 pm >.> but hey, you gotta keep at it.

Can you walk to school? Walk. Do some exercises at home such as yoga or muscle strengthening stretches. DONT go gym yet. Do lots of cardio.

What classifies a breakfast as a good one? I could walk to school, but that would require me to get less sleep as I would have to wake-up earlier, get ready and leave earlier. I live a fair distance from it. A morning run? It would be rather hard with my mom and all.

 

[poopnoodle]

What classifies a breakfast as a good one? I could walk to school, but that would require me to get less sleep as I would have to wake-up earlier, get ready and leave earlier. I live a fair distance from it. A morning run? It would be rather hard with my mom and all.

You sound like you need a lot of fiber and protein. Fruits, yogurts, granola, and toast are all pretty good choices to start off your day.
You can calculate your BMI here, which should help you determine how much you need to exercise and what you need to be eating. You should also consider taking multi-vitamins.
It might be hard to find time to exercise and it may be a little less convenient to pick healthy foods to eat, but it's certainly worth it. I suggest you make yourself a schedule once you've established how much you should be exercising and what you should be eating.

An additional site that should aid you in forming healthier eating habits: here

 

[bna_li]

What classifies a breakfast as a good one? I could walk to school, but that would require me to get less sleep as I would have to wake-up earlier, get ready and leave earlier. I live a fair distance from it. A morning run? It would be rather hard with my mom and all.

Well, Meneur d'enfer.

Generally, a good breakfast is a big one. It is the first meal of the day, so you need a bigger portion for more energy. However, this doesn't mean you should stuff yourself with chips. Eat some fruits, or oats, or something like that.

Have you ever considered going to a physician to see what your problem is? I'm not sure what you mean by "horrible diet," can you clarify?

 

[Vigilante]

I'm not sure what you mean by "horrible diet," can you clarify?

Lots of non healthy foods, and tons of sweets.

Anyways, I have another problem.

I need to figure out how someone gets the number off this graphy thing:

123
456
789

Someone chooses a number, then a person who was outside comes inside and guesses it. The teacher will point to a number or two or sometimes even three, that will be no. Then another that will be yes, or he will ask what the number is. I want to know what he does that signals the number. Btw, he points at it with a pointy stick. Help please?
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[Charizard★]

My Heart is in Ruins

My heart feels like its missing something. I gave my all for this one girl and she crushed it like it was a bug. It is taking a toll on how I feel right now. I dont really want to do anything. Any help on making this feeling going away?

 

[Vigilante]

Well, the best thing you can do is:

Move on.

Develop an optimistic approach toward life. What has happened has happened. We cannot change the past, we can learn from it and try not to make the same mistakes. We can accept that all people are human and therefore will make mistakes. We cannot control others or how they treat us; however we can control how we react. As well we can choose not to deal with individuals that cause us pain.

Really, just move on and forget about her.

 

[The Confuzzler]

Ugh. My friend just completely misused my trust in him, To the extent of a physical fight.

You see, i am a very shy person. i don't tell my secrets, or who i'm crushing on. However, i thought, cause he's a good person, why don't i tell him who i'm crushing on?

It was fine, he kept it a secret, until a few days ago. He blurted it outside, in front of my crush. And she's a really good friend of mine. And i didn't want to lose her as that.

But i've not talked to her for days, and have no idea what's she's feeling, and better yet, i told my friend's gf that he's two timing her - which he is -

Help please? I know im a bit too young, but still..

 

[SailorMuffins]

Ugh. My friend just completely misused my trust in him, To the extent of a physical fight.

You see, i am a very shy person. i don't tell my secrets, or who i'm crushing on. However, i thought, cause he's a good person, why don't i tell him who i'm crushing on?

It was fine, he kept it a secret, until a few days ago. He blurted it outside, in front of my crush. And she's a really good friend of mine. And i didn't want to lose her as that.

But i've not talked to her for days, and have no idea what's she's feeling, and better yet, i told my friend's gf that he's two timing her - which he is -

Help please? I know im a bit too young, but still..

O_O He's two timing her at his age?! Anyway, telling his girlfriend that is a big no-no in my opinion. I say let the poor thing find out on her own. Otherwise, you just opened a can of worms on yourself.

I would say it was not his place to blurt, but perhaps its best out in the open now. If she is really your friend, she will come to terms with it and tell you how she really feels, whether that is good or bad. Trust me, if she's any kind of good friend you two will laugh at this years later. And for him? Two timers never make it in the real world. Try not to worry so much. ;)

 

[Charizard★]

umm......I was talking to this girl that Ilike, and I gave her my phonenumber, and she gave me hers. I told her to call me, and she said no call me. And then we had a convo and it sounded out like we were connecting.

Would that mean she is kinda intrested in me?

 

[Her]

I wouldn't base it on one phone call, no. It sounds like you two have just started talking so just continue like that for a few more phone calls and we'll see what happens.

...but the first phone call? O.o;