What would it take..?

[Flushed]

..to end a relationship with someone you're close with? I guess the most glaring situation would be between a couple, but it could apply to a friend or family member. How far would someone have to go to aggravate you to a point where you don't trust them, don't want to see them again, etc.? Where do you draw the line when it comes to dishonesty or mistakes?

 

[Kyrul]

As for friends and family, I don't think I ever have cut anyone out. I've had a lot of **** happen between me and my mother during my childhood that I don't feel as though should be shared on a public forum but I will say that it involved a federal court case. We patched it all up though over the years.

Dating is a different story though. Past relationships made it hard for me to trust others these past few months. I've been pretty much cutting ties with girlfriends at the first wiff of bull ****.

 

[Batty]

People know I have a "no big deal" attitude for things like being late, being honest/blunt to me, and I don't even mind being blown off if people tell me upfront that they'd rather do something else than see me.
However, the relationship ends when sneakiness, lies, gossip and prejudice start to surface in someone. It's not hard for me to tell someone "I'm not your friend anymore" when I find out they're homophobic or they spread false rumors about people.
For romantic relationships, what seems to be the deal-breaker for me is dependency and attachment. If my SO wants to be joined at the hip 24/7, I've got no problems telling them that if they don't back off, it's over.
For my family, I am slightly more tolerant. My mother is slightly homophobic, but she has learned that I won't listen to her prejudice. I will argue with her about her invalid points and flaws in logic regarding gay people, and she shuts up. I'm not going to disown my mother. If she started being outright offensive to my gay friends (she isn't, she actually has a couple gay friends,) it might be a different story.

 

[Nolafus]

I've never cut anyone out of my inner circle before. I've had some pretty bad arguments and fights with my family, but nothing that would cause me to never speak to them again.

They would have to do something absolutely horrific to me. I forgive people way too easily, but I don't exactly trust people either. They would have to be extremely close to me, then basically rip out everything I've ever loved or held dear. A little extreme, but it's like I said, I forgive people way too easily.

 

[Sirfetch’d]

I've never really had to cut anyone out of my life because of bad decisions or what not before but I have been cut out and it certainly doesn't feel great. This is not because I did something bad but just the opposite. When I was in high school a group of people that I used to hang out and associate with were just moving too fast for me, they only wanted to party, and I just wasn't into all of that so they cut me out. It was hard at first but I just had to get over it and move on with my life. I could never do this to anyone though D:

 

[Kikaito plush]

I have only cut a few people out of my circle. I draw the line at people making up stupid excuses why they can't not do what we planned. then I see them 5 mintues later in the park going to the pub.

 

[Guy]

I've never had to entirely altogether sever a friendship or relationship with a family member. I've had my share of fights and arguments, but none so drastic that I no longer acquainted myself with that person. Eventually things worked out. Usually it would be a drift in the friendship or lost communication that would end it. So not something entirely done by choice. If it had to happen though, it would probably be because of a large betrayal or decision on their part that I just couldn't forgive them for.

 

[Sirfetch’d]

Personally even if I was betrayed...idk if I could do it. I guess that I am just in the mindset that everything can be worked out. Or maybe I just forgive people too easily for their mistakes.

 

[Magic Christmas Lights]

I'm in the process of cutting out my mother. I'm a very generous person and can put up with a lot of character flaws, but my mother went above and beyond that.

 

[Doppelgänger1]

I've ended close friendships before, so I'll draw from experience. To end a close friendship is very hard, but sometimes necessary. In my experience, these so called friends I had and were close to did not respect me and would take advantage of me. When that happens to me, or anyone for that matter, its time to severe the relationship. In friendships and relationships, people have to respect you and cannot take advantage of you.

 

[TouretteUnicorn]

I've had the unfortunate circumstances of cutting people out of life, and all due to the same factors. While I can tolerate a lot of characters, I cannot tolerate anyone who lacks common courtesy and sensibility. People without those traits are huge weights on my shoulders to bare, and they generally stress(ed) my relationship with the person in question.

 

[Hannah]

My family members mean the world to me and even if they do something that can cause me extreme emotional or physical pain, I'd never be able to stay away from them. I love them too much.

The same applies to my friendships, only looser. If my friends ever do something that might offend me in any way, I'll get mad. But at the end of the day, I'll just apologize and pretend like nothing happened. I don't really end friendships unless they've done something really, really horrible, and that hasn't really happened to me before.

 

[acatfrommars]

God, the last close relationship that I had that I ended I would say that the person had become a burden and wasn't helping me move forward in life. It was a tough decision, but I ha to let her go. I feel like I have improved more now since that experience. It was definitely a hard one though.

Other things would be if they were cheating, if hey were causing you pain intentionally, or if they were doing things that you were trying to not do/stay away from.