View Full Version : Relationships Between Older and Younger People

August 4th, 2011, 12:31 PM
Do you think relationships with a massive age difference (by my definition, 15 years or more) are acceptable? Are older man/younger woman relationships more/less acceptable than younger man/older woman relationships? Also, for the homosexual side, do you think the same thing applies to older/younger relationships?

In my opinion, age is nothing but a number, and people of any age difference can be in a successful relationship as long as there is trust and love in the relationship. As far as the intimacy goes, if you're physically attracted to that kind of person, then do so by all means.

August 4th, 2011, 1:46 PM
Age shouldn't matter except where it creates too great a difference in terms of life experiences and expectations. Not to stereotype, but people tend to want different things in a relationship at different times in their lives and if you don't have compatible lifestyles with your partner your relationship is probably not as likely to endure as the one where you can both work toward similar goals.

August 4th, 2011, 1:50 PM
In my opinion, age is nothing but a number,
WRONG. Wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, WRONG.

I hope that you're only referring to the ages of adults here, because if you think there isn't a serious difference between the ages of 15 and 21 you're grossly mistaken.

I don't care much about age gaps between adults, but the notion that age is meaningless is a major argument for pedophilia, and is also demonstrably false.

August 4th, 2011, 1:52 PM
Well, if we're talking about 18 and 80 year olds... that's a bit weird, but they can do what they want. lol

August 4th, 2011, 2:17 PM
OK, to clear up any confusion, this is to refer to age gaps in adult (18+) relationships.

August 4th, 2011, 4:10 PM
I think that alot of times neither in these relationships seriously factor what the future holds. What if there is a 30 year gap? Although the two may love each other, one will end up at 50, and the other will be 80!!! It just wouldn't be fair for either of them. However, when the age gap is around 15, or on the high-end 20. There is the same effect, except I think it would have less complications; enough for a salvageable relationship. Of course, each couple cannot be looked at with generalizations; to each relationship is a unique set of circumstances. So I won't judge.

August 4th, 2011, 6:03 PM
If both people are over 18 like you say, I don't see a problem with it. If both parties are willing, so be it.

August 4th, 2011, 6:12 PM
I'll say first that it's not something I'd choose for myself most likely, because of gaps in experience. But I firmly believe in the rights of the individual and see no reason why they shouldn't be upheld here. Good luck to anyone in a socially unconventional (and legal) relationship.

August 4th, 2011, 6:20 PM
In my opinion, age is nothing but a number, and people of any age difference can be in a successful relationship as long as there is trust and love in the relationship. As far as the intimacy goes, if you're physically attracted to that kind of person, then do so by all means84 year old x 24 year old.... no. (albeit that was a really extreme example)

There has been some cases of some odd 20-year-old-difference marriages, but I just don't like seeing them. I'll mistake them for father & daughter or something. I wouldn't like it, but if that's what they choose, then fine.

August 5th, 2011, 9:31 PM
If both people are over the age of 18, I don't see an issue as long as they both want to be in a relationship. In the past, this was true, and was never looked down upon. It was really only until recently that people had developed the notion that both parties must be within ten years in age or less from eachother.

August 6th, 2011, 5:16 PM
Two words: Hugh Hefner.
Just think about him and his relationships.

August 6th, 2011, 5:24 PM
In my opinion, age is nothing but a number

maybe it is but salary per annum definitely isn't.

August 7th, 2011, 7:33 PM
In an adult relationship, it's nobody's business to be concerned about the age gap. It is a meaningless number. No reason for it to matter to anyone, it's their business alone, not yours unless they explicitly make it so.

In a relationship where one is not yet of adult age, I find that a maximum age difference window of up to 5 years is TOLERABLE if they're observing laws. Any difference larger than 5 years is a cause for concern and worries about pedophilia, but it does not necessarily imply such. :<

August 8th, 2011, 1:54 AM
More than age, what matters is the maturity of each person. Age really is nothing more than a number, but in order to overcome a relationship, both parties must have a degree of maturity.
Of course, while just talk about relationships between adults only.

August 9th, 2011, 8:17 AM
I'd have to say that if it's an 18+ relationship we're talking about, it doesn't really matter to me. If they're adults, they can do whatever they please. It doesn't bother me with age because it's their life and whatever Predicament they get into, it's their problem.

September 4th, 2011, 5:02 PM
It's interesting to hear about how these relationships happen

Ya... what 2 adults want to do with each other is none of anyone's business.

September 5th, 2011, 1:09 PM
If you love someone you love them. However, people are in it for the money sometimes to. It's whatever you think it is honestly. I wouldn't go as far to say if something is wrong. You never know if you can be in that position one day.

September 5th, 2011, 1:17 PM
It varies from person to person.

I've seen people who are the same age and act like they're from different planets.

My spouse is 4 years older than me and we're about the same in terms of maturity.

September 5th, 2011, 7:50 PM
I won't lie. Seeing a 20 year old woman dating a 50+ year old man makes me think gold digger and sugar daddy. I think boy toy in the reverse. Society taught me that. ^_^
If it's like 10 years, it isn't so bad. Two of my family friends are married and are 10 years apart, and they are neither sleazy nor creepy (even though their religiosity is irksome).